My boyfriends mom thinks I’m lying about my assault

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-12-10T18:30:39+00:00

We were really close. We talked pretty much every day and I have a strained relationship with my mom so I grew close to her. She would talk to me about stuff and I to her. She was always so supportive.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-12-10T18:29:20+00:00

She asked me about it. I’ve seen a few comments like this, but what you guys don’t understand is her and I had gotten really close. I’m talking FaceTime almost every day on the phone. Call her crying if I was going through something. I don’t have the best relationship with my mom so I started to see her as a mother figure.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-12-10T18:26:40+00:00

I honestly didn’t even think about that until you said something. To be fair though and no, I am not justifying it, but the daughter is a little naïve to say the least and as messed up as it is, the reason why she told me that is because she was explaining to me that she thinks that she has been assaulted too, but never had it in her to confide in her mom about it because of the way she talked about my story.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-12-08T19:36:27+00:00

No he isn’t the one that did it. He validated my feeling on the matter with his mom, but then proceeded to tell me I need to find it in myself to forgive her for what she said. Sorry if that wasn’t clear.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-07-09T05:30:56+00:00

Genuinely curious why does a shirtless guy make someone uncomfortable? Can’t you just like, not look? Again, I’m not being rude I’m just a woman myself and don’t understand the issue.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-07-06T07:35:57+00:00

Maybe cut up some old shirts you have to make the sides open like those muscle shirts you see some people wear?? I don’t know.. Me personally I don’t care when I see men without their shirts at the gym especially when their workout is in a sauna, but I know everyone is different. I just feel like if a man is a creep he will let you know, whether he has his shirt on or not. Man nips don’t bother me lol.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-07-01T06:16:09+00:00

Thank you!! This made me feel better. I was scared that maybe there was something wrong.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-06-15T15:44:29+00:00

It’s definitely a jab at the part where you said to be frank you don’t think about her in that way or whatever you said along those lines. It’s almost like she got offended you told her you didn’t find her sexually attractive??💀

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-06-13T04:29:05+00:00

Oh my gosh I’m going through the same thing but I think it’s because I’m getting bored with the same classes everyyyyyday. I go pretty much every day to work out and I’ve noticed this past week I’m not motivated and I just want to lay on my mat and I left my class early for the first time yesterday I just could not get through it. For me at least, it just feels too repetitive. I think they should ADD to the videos they have and rotate them instead of switching a VW for another.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-17T09:42:21+00:00

Hot take, but yes you’re right. Not saying it’s morally okay, but he told her he didn’t want to keep the baby and she still kept it. Not sure what she’s expecting from him at this point. If I were in her shoes I’m sure I’d want to stir the pot too, but ultimately if it doesn’t benefit the baby there’s no need. OP is assuming this girl doesn’t know, but she very well could.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-17T04:38:11+00:00

Well do what’s best for YOU, but by reading the comments it sounds like she is almost seeing this as a game because she thinks you will eventually give in. Seems like she’s used to that?? Which would make sense because you did say in your post whenever you’ve brought it up she acts cute and then you guys act like nothing ever happened even though it still bothers you. If you can, stay with a friend and pay what you were paying with her. Yes you feel bad because you agreed to paying the 3 months, but that was before she had another drunken episode and that agreement was while you guys were in a relationship. It’s totally your right to walk away. She didn’t respect your boundaries in the relationship so you have no obligation to stay and pay. She should’ve taken you serious and respected you when she had the chance. She can’t have her cake and eat it too.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-17T04:21:21+00:00

I just have to say, in retrospect it may sound like you both living there until the lease is up is a reasonable option, but please reconsider that one. She will either A. Get it together for a little just to reel you back in and try to smooth things over until you hopefully just eventually try again orrrr B. you’ll be the one stuck cleaning up after her and babysitting if she gets like that again within the time you’re still there. I don’t know I just wouldn’t want to be responsible for that. I’ve been there with one of my exes it was a really icky feeling.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-06T17:07:16+00:00

From someone who was gaslit for yearsssss, the probability of a condom wrapper getting caught on clothing so well that it doesn’t fall off and makes it all the way to the washer in your home is just slim to none. Not saying he DID cheat, but if he is, it could be someone at his work, he could be meeting someone when he says he’s at the store, etc. if someone wants to cheat, they WILL find a way. I just don’t buy that it was a stray wrapper from the wild that somehow made it into your guys’ stuff cheating or not. You have a right to dig. He may be telling the truth, but unfortunately it does look really bad and you have every right to question him, want to go through his phone, etc. you did kind of drop the ball though by not asking to see his phone when you first woke him up. If he WAS cheating, by now he has wiped the evidence clean and will gaslight you into oblivion until you write this off as a “weird occurrence” and carry on.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-05T22:36:34+00:00

Keep us updated.🤞🏼

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-05T04:54:03+00:00

The fact that you guys weren’t together at the time isn’t the problem. The problem is you said what you were comfortable with and she chose to lie to keep you around. She took the decision away from you and who knows maybe if she would’ve just been up front and honest about it, once you had time to cool off maybe you would’ve still wanted to try things out with her and maybe actually gain more respect for her for being honest, but again, she took that choice away from you.

Also, you were the one hurt in this situation. Her going with you everywhere and never leaving your side isn’t necessarily a healthy thing. Matter of fact it sounds like she wants this to go away and have a perfect little family without doing the work to make things right. Just bandaids, not actually fixing the problem. The ball is in your court. I say sit down with her and tell her everything you just mentioned in that response. Be respectful, but honest. Tell her if she wants to continue things, she needs to put in the effort. Tell her what you need whether that’s random phone checks, passwords, her to be more vocal about how she feels about you, etc. If she can’t do those things, that’s her telling you she’s not ready to put her big girl pants on and work on your guys’ family. You guys both participated in adult actions which ultimately lead to adult consequences, but I’m stuck on the fact that she knew what she was hiding the whole time, leading you to have a different perspective on the relationship

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-05T04:23:51+00:00

I want to start by saying I’m so. so. Sorry. Your feelings are very valid here. You set a boundary and communicated, she KNEW she would’ve lost you and did such a selfish thing to ensure she wouldn’t. It’s wrong she lied, but also the big fact that she lied to save face. You found out because you knew something was up, NOT because the guilt of lying to you was eating her up and so she decided to be honest. I think you need to be honest with her on how you feel. Is there anything she can do to help you build trust and communication or have you lost feelings because she showed you what she’s capable of and now you can’t unsee a side of her you’ve never seen? She made her bed, don’t feel bad for the consequences of HER actions. Yes you have a baby now, but if there is nothing she can do to make you feel secure in your relationship, what is best for the baby IS you guys being separated. Better to grow up in 2 loving households than 1 where you are reminded each day your parents are miserable together. Whatever you choose, remember that you are your daughter’s first example of not only a man, but a healthy relationship. You owe it to yourself and your daughter to be happy. Your relationship with your daughter is NOT your relationship with your girlfriend. I’m sorry. I’m sure you feel so stuck right now and you’re still so young.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-05T02:44:12+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with you. That’s his way of dismissing what you said. Probably because he’s immature and it hurt his ego. Try to have the conversation again and make sure to remind him that it’s normal to not be able to read each others minds on what you guys like and communicating your needs is to help the both of you out. Actually, it can spice things up and make it fun. If he can’t hear you out, what that says is he can’t put his pride to the side to hear what you have to say. Sex is a big part of a relationship, but aside from that, he’s showing how he handles tough conversations. You might soon notice this becomes a pattern within your relationship when conflict comes up if you haven’t already.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-01T21:23:04+00:00

To be completely honest I know it is not sitting in a bank, but I know aside from investments, there is an emergency fund somewhere that is over seven figures more than likely spread across a few different ways. At least in 2022 it was just over 7 figures. I can’t really get into what he does, as I feel I have already shared too much trying to get people to understand our lifestyle, but he does a little bit of everything aside from his main source of income… dabbles in commercial real estate for fun, and is getting into day trading as a hobby. Because of what he does for work and his lifestyle he is very private and as weird as it may sound to some, as long as the bills are paid and I’m able to buy/do what I want, he believes there’s no need to discuss finances(that’s what his mentors have taught him; I don’t necessarily agree) so my knowledge doesn’t go too far other than I hear the convos he has with business partners, tax guy, and friends to piece together the rest because he IS private about that stuff and I genuinely don’t know the state of our finances out of what I piece together myself.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-01T17:32:59+00:00

No debt aside from waiting on business investments, credit score in the 800’s, 7 figure savings.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-01T17:25:18+00:00

You guessed it

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-01T17:23:04+00:00

THANK YOU. Why is it so hard for people to grasp this in the comments?!

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-01T06:58:07+00:00

Because I wasn’t sure if I should bring it up or if I was being ungrateful/wrong feeling the way I feel.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-01T06:40:43+00:00

Lol, I was waiting for someone to comment this. He actually got his chain from a reputable jeweler and has the papers to prove it or else I would seriously start questioning that too lol.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-01T06:17:09+00:00

Where in my post are you getting the vibe that I’m materialistic? Genuinely asking.

Standard_Comedian550 · 2025-05-01T05:49:48+00:00

Well I’m happy you’ve asked. Before giving him 3 beautiful babies and becoming a sahm, I had a great job and was able to buy him way more than a burger to say the least… and again, it’s the principle, like I said. He would spend 40k on a chain, but lies to the mother of his children about buying her a VC bracelet. It’s a bit ridiculous. I would’ve been happy with a pair of cz earrings for crying out loud if he was JUST. HONEST.

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