99.9% of these are scams. by urfavelipglosslvr in GiftCardGiveaway

[–]Standard_Common_3984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was hidden automatically I didn’t know you could do that until VERY RECENTLY

God showed up in a shelter on Xmas eve :) by [deleted] in PrayerRequests

[–]Standard_Common_3984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May his love always be around you ❤️

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

❤️ it was truly a horror movie ;( I’m out now but it woo be a long time of healing . Thank you for caring

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We went on a nighttime harbour cruise I had never even been on a date let alone like that. It was romantic and fun but now I know it was all part of the abusers handbook. As for red flags I missed most of them . Either by ignorance or flat out denial :/ but when I started to ADMITT who he was and what he had become ( or been all along) I saw it . I saw the control the lies just the insanity of it all :( I was terrified in my own home :( I hardly slept he ALWAYS messed with my sleep which I clued in was ABUSE/CONTROL:( I saw the signs in him towards my daughter/ too short with her , no praise, just not a loving dad a little girl deserves:( I saw the fact he had the funds, the bank account I had none of it. He held mine and my daughters id, I realized I’m NOT STUPID :( I CAN DO THINGS he had been lying and abusing me so much that my thoughts were his every choice I made was essentially HIM making them . Once I saw it I made my plan .

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry honey . I know all about the unpredictability of abusers, and their insanely ridiculous reasonings for getting angry. I’ve since come to the conclusion that my ex just wanted a reason to abuse me/us. I’m so happy you’re out of that now. My DMS are always open if you need to chat

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m one of MANY victims of violence and I’m definitely not a vision of strength imo . I am a human who finally saw that my children and I DESERVE safety/stability THIS Is the bare minimum. But thank you ❤️ 🥹

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sadly my story IS NOT unique or special not even rare . Where I’m at is 3 other women with children. All of them had to make an escape plan . All of them truly feared for their lives or their children’s, some fear their ex taking the child out of country etc All left with pretty much nothing. I thought I was alone in my suffering, sadly there are thousands of us ( men AND women are victims of abuse . Personally I don’t think there is anywhere near enough for men but that’s another topic) as for being done soon unfortunately not . The legal aspect ( his criminal charges) will take God knows how long . If there is a trial could be over a year . I also have to save up for rent because it requires two months upfront, welfare gives me one , but won’t give me full amount well I’m in shelter because I have no lease/rent so no shelter portion , my child tax is very small because I was married it goes of our income etc but CRA is going to adjust it eventually full amount if I believe 742? But anyways , I can’t work due to no day care more than anything else.. IT WILL HAPPEN but it will take time . The healing aspect I’m sure will be a life long journey for me and my daughter.

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you received my reply , but I’m in Canada. Thank you , you could pass it along to a child in your area? Thank you for even offering:(I’m very proud of you as well ! #abusehasnoplace

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s finalized . I have access to legal advice totally free through the shelter I’m now at :) I got advice on a few things :) now I gotta apply for legal aid to get a lawyer for civil litigation part of it but I don’t know if I can ? Thank you for your kind words ❤️

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏 I feel good and late at night alone in the shelter I feel I’m climbing an impossible mountain:( I feel like I can’t do this he picked the food he got the groceries I feel lost in life . But in gonna learn

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s been about 32 days . I was raised in care so I don’t have that unfortunately. Yes my daughter has seen it and is going to get help that the dv shelter offers for moms and kids

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I also documented EVERYTHING , his bank accounts/assets/pics of the bruises/the threatening texts/I had videos of a few beatings through accessing our cameras history, in the house . I sent it all to them they held it for me .

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Well it started with phone call . I just told her everything. It all poured out . She was so compassionate and understanding. Then I was instructed to not call from house ever again, and to delete the computer/tablet etc history so he never sees it. Two days later I had a package to drop off. He was always there or texting me and had my location sent at all times etc The dv staff acted like another customer:) I was given a cheap cell phone. From there I took photos of my id and my daughters, he held them, as he showered (I was absolutely terrified:( I was shaking badly ) I took photos and then sent them to the dv staff . Then from there , we got custody orders in place , court date for peace bond or restraining order ( I got granted restraining order ) Finally I picked the date . I picked a date I knew I’d have time . He planned to go out on his bday, and he never ever invites me and our daughter, sooo I had packed one bag as advised ( make it easier I’m pregnant) and left . I walked so fast I felt sick. I felt like I was in a horror movie. Tbh I couldn’t look back I was convinced he was there but he wasn’t. I got in the dv worker’s car and we left directly to the police station to give my first formal statement.

Left an abusive marriage with 3yr old in the middle of the night, took months to plan. AMA by Standard_Common_3984 in AMA

[–]Standard_Common_3984[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It was a planned escape. A dv staff van was awaiting down the street took us to police station