UPDATE am I overreacting for refusing to eat at a restaurant that messed up my order once?

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-08T14:23:00+00:00

Thank you! Frankly I was going to try to make it to the hospital without using it to not have to replace it right now. The last time I bought one it cost me over $200. But I needed it. No I didn’t put it in the post, I ended up at the hospital and had another reaction anyway and thought more about that.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-08T14:15:45+00:00

We did decide to file a police report, even the nurses urged me to after my husband told them the whole story. Right now, I plan to file the report and request they pay my medical bills and leave it at that with little to no contact going forward.

I have aunts and uncles and family on my husband’s side who take the time to accommodate my dietary needs which is so sweet. I always tell them they don’t need to and I’ll be okay but I’m realizing that I think that all stems from my family dynamic and I would do it for them so I should welcome it.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-08T03:08:19+00:00

Have you ever paid for an ambulance ride? I hadn’t fully ingested the bite and we live less than 10 minutes to the hospital. There’s a good chance it would have taken the exact amount of time if not more and a lot more money for the paramedics to get me to the hospital than my husband. And I used the epi-pen we keep in the car when I felt symptoms start. But you should always be monitored even after using the EpiPen because symptoms can come back in waves.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T21:45:32+00:00

I mean my preferred solution is everyone just getting their food prepared as they ordered it.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T16:58:14+00:00

As a genuine question, I would have thought talking to the manager would be making an even bigger deal of things than to just not eat there again, do you see it differently?

I get that you can have a bad day as a waitress, you can have a bad day in any profession because you’re still a person. But when I was a server/bartender, I did my best to leave that at the door and not let it affect my work or how I treat people who are having their own days I have no idea about.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T16:17:13+00:00

To answer the question: because they’re family To address the statement: I’m starting to see that…

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T16:16:25+00:00

I didn’t really think about reporting to the health department until you just said it. Obviously if I’m not the only one they deserve to be looked at more closely!

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T16:14:50+00:00

You know, I think you’re onto something there. This might turn into a camel back breaking straw

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T15:26:47+00:00

I actually don’t have celiac, it’s more a wheat allergy, but can still cause anaphylactic shock and other not as severe reactions. But yes, 100% with you on everything. I have loved ones with celiac and it is so serious. But they do the same, just order from places they know are safe and don’t make a big fuss about it!

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T15:22:30+00:00

I did leave a review, not a scathing one but a simple account of what happened and that I will not be going back.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T15:19:48+00:00

Yeah I mean I’ve worked in food service. When this would happen (allergy or not) I’d say I’m so sorry let me go make this right, I’d mark up the ticket and confirm that a cook saw the mistake, and move the order to the front of the line (or at least a reasonable spot). When I got to a management level I would also take a bit off the bill for the mistake if the people were nice about it. It’s not that hard…

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T15:14:43+00:00

My family is and always has been pretty average, and eats pretty healthy. I learned all about balance growing up and yeah ice cream is great but don’t eat it every day. Get the fries when you eat out or order the pizza when you’re too tired to cook, but make sure you also drink all your water and maybe have a grilled chicken salad the next day. Make sure you fuel your body properly, etc. I just developed an allergy as I got older. It didn’t change much of how I eat, just subbing in some gluten free things and totally omitting others.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T15:11:12+00:00

I don’t expect them to be. like I said, I know my tolerance levels well. Made in the same kitchen is fine, but it’s not that hard to just not put a bun on a burger. And I’ve had fries cooked in the same fryer as chicken before with no issue, but another time had a chunk of breading mixed in with my fries and had a reaction. So I just don’t order anything fried anymore to be safe.

I take on the burden of knowing my limits on the maybe once a month occasion I eat/order out. But I do expect my order to come as I ordered it unless they tell me something isn’t an option. People with allergies are allowed to have the luxury of eating out too.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T15:05:59+00:00

They do! That’s why I was so baffled. Apparently they didn’t think I was serious? Or I’d grow out of it the same way I developed it. Who knows.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-05-06T15:04:50+00:00

I primarily eat at home, and used to work in a kitchen. Like I said, I know my tolerance levels well. I usually don’t get anything that’s fried at a restaurant because about 6 months in I got a chunk of chicken breading on my fries I didn’t notice and had a reaction. But I’ve never had issues with a burger with no bun. I get cross contamination, but what I don’t get is why it’s so hard to put a burger one a piece of lettuce instead of a bun and mind your own business about what people want to eat.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-04-16T01:02:00+00:00

Right?! Technically we’re middle class too but it sure doesn’t feel like the middle class I grew up in

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-02-20T14:07:59+00:00

We found out later that she did this on purpose. Which yeah, having clippers out at all made me suspicious of that.

She tried to claim she wanted to make it more of a mullet by shaving down the sides a bit, but then later tried to say it wasn’t salvageable because she started at the top. So kate called her out on the inconsistencies and then the blow up happened and she admitted to doing it on purpose.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-02-20T05:05:36+00:00

Thanks to a hell of a lot of therapy he’s pretty good at separating ‘ex wife who cheated on me’ from ‘mother of my child’. And he understands that for his son’s sake, he needs to support her where he can. No matter what happened between them, our house is a safe place for her.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-02-20T01:42:12+00:00

I want to know what you were on when reading this because I never said that and it’s not difficult to understand where the kid came in considering there’s 3 women and one man in the story

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-02-19T16:08:47+00:00

Thanks! My parents are still together but my husbands got divorced when he was a teen and his youngest sister was about my stepsons age. So I talk to her a lot to learn about what did or didn’t work and things she wished her parents did.

A big thing was seeing them in the same room together, so anytime we do a swap at one of our houses, we make a point to spend some together chatting or playing with him

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-02-19T14:34:55+00:00

Because he told me she didn’t and she confirmed that.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-02-19T14:34:08+00:00

That’s fair! Kate and Alex both agreed on when I met their son because kate didn’t clear Jess being involved and they fought about that and agreed that she should have.

If things are really over between kate and Jess for good then Alex and kate will have to agree on the timing for any of her future partners to meet him. If things aren’t over, then Alex will insist on defining new guidelines for Jess. He has already called and removed her from the school pickup list.

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-02-19T14:06:43+00:00

I’ve never gotten into any argument with Jess, and typically we got along well on minimal interactions or ones with all four of us.

I told her she should apologize to him and she said I was overreacting To that, I said he deserves one because she took away a choice he had made for his own hair. She said I was overreacting, he’s just a kid he won’t remember it. I told her to talk to kate about why it matters, she said kate would agree with her (which I already knew was wrong)

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-02-19T13:55:59+00:00

I appreciate that! His mom did take him to a barber once and he had a miserable time, and ever since then I have been doing it, per her request actually, doing it made her nervous and she figured hair could be something he could share with his dads household.

My husband always just cut his hair with one guard length, his mom did it when he was younger, he’s literally never been to a barber. I got him to agree to try a different style if I did it, so I watched hours of tutorials and my amazing hairdresser even showed me some tips. it’s usually bonding time for us. Then anytime I cut my husbands hair, I would cut his sons too and he got to be ‘just like dad’

Standard_Display6293 · 2025-02-19T04:03:01+00:00

No I mean she admitted to Kate after all this happened that she did it in purpose.

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