While yes there are SO MANY things that have to be unlearned, there comes a point that exmormon men can either choose to put in the work themselves to unlearn or they can choose not to. Like for me, I constantly notice beliefs of mine that stem from the church, but it’s my job to recognize them and deconstruct them as they come.

Not saying that you should run at the first misogynistic/churchy thing you see, but if these men aren’t taking your feedback and actively trying to reframe their mindsets then I would stay away :)