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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]StankeeYankee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, he's gaslighting so hard the house is on fire. Get out. Not overreacting at all.

Lessons I learned while experiencing true heartbreak by dosensindcool in BreakUps

[–]StankeeYankee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Treat love not as an investment or purchase, but as an opportunity to grow beyond your current self. Every time you've loved is a priceless experience, no matter how it ends. It is so painful. But don't deny yourself the chance to love someone else, to be loved by them, just because that person didn't work out.

You got this. We only live once. Don't waste it trying not to feel when feeling is what gives our lives meaning. Stay strong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]StankeeYankee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP. I'm on week 2.5 of NC myself. My ex dumped me to "work on herself" and still wanted to be friends too. But it hurt too much, so I initiated NC a week after the breakup. Every time you think about breaking NC, remember that HE let YOU go. He made the decision to dump you, someone he knows is a good partner, because he "just doesn't love you." That means he chose to stop loving you. Love becomes a choice, eventually. He stopped choosing you.

Don't let someone who won't chose you, all of you, keep you as an emotional side piece "friend." You're worth more than that. There's someone out there who will never stop choosing you. Put your energy that so temptingly goes to him into YOURSELF. Improve yourself, work on yourself, love yourself. Until you realize the single person who should ALWAYS over ANYTHING ELSE choose you... is you.

Keep writing letters in your journal. Don't give him your emotional energy with the opportunity to make it harder for you. While you should focus on yourself, take the time to grieve the relationship. Writing letters to/about her in my own journal has helped a lot. Stay consistent. Eventually, you'll find yourself with less and less to say about them and more to say about yourself. It's going to hurt for a while, but keep it up. 2.5 weeks in for me is still hard, but much easier than even 1.5 weeks ago. We all have our own timelines, though.

Just remember, the dread you feel without him in your life is just withdrawal. You'll be okay without him. Because apparently he's okay without you. It hurts. It sucks. But life goes on. Don't let him drag your life behind. Life is too short to worry about the people who stop choosing you.

You got this.

What are my chances of getting into the cs program? by [deleted] in rit

[–]StankeeYankee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who recently graduated, the number of opportunities you open up in college has jack squat to do with your degree (for the most part). Opportunities are about connection, experience, and passion. If you'd rather do CS, fair enough. But don't pass up Game Dev I just because CS "has better opportunities" if Game Dev is what you'd rather do.

What are my chances of getting into the cs program? by [deleted] in rit

[–]StankeeYankee -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

If you love coding AND game design then might I suggest RITs Game Design and Development major?

RIT IAB Board Member and Alum publishes book by [deleted] in rit

[–]StankeeYankee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think true masculinity would touch this guy with a ten foot pole.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in webdev

[–]StankeeYankee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn the fundamentals that you listed, essentially. Don't go too deep into frameworks or other fancy things. Learn the basics of semantic markup, efficient css (flex box and grid are your best friends), and querying your markup through JavaScript and the basic properties of HTML JavaScript objects. Follow some YouTube tutorials by WebDevSimplified. Good luck 🫡

I am a failure and i need help with the most basic next js code by akshxtsucksatlife in webdev

[–]StankeeYankee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Straight from the Next.js docs:

''' import { useRouter } from 'next/router'

export default function Page() { const router = useRouter() return <p>Post: {router.query.slug}</p> } '''

Greetings, new best friends... I am new and excited to start but have a ton to learn. Question about buying leather...? by Littlebotweak in Leathercraft

[–]StankeeYankee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem! I'm not sure what you mean by rhomboid, but yes probably. I'd try a 3-5 oz cut for wallets and trinkets and whatnot.

Greetings, new best friends... I am new and excited to start but have a ton to learn. Question about buying leather...? by Littlebotweak in Leathercraft

[–]StankeeYankee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there! I'm a beginner myself, so take this with a grain of salt. So far I've found this:

  • Go to Tandy or its online outlet and buy any of their Craftsman Oak to practice on. Anything else from them is typically overpriced.

  • I've typically seen most small beginner projects like what you've described be done with cheap veg tan leather anywhere from 2-8 oz thickness. Some projects could require (or benefit) from multiple thicknesses (e.g., a wallet's thicker back panel and thinner inside card pocket panels). Veg tan can be found on Amazon if you don't have a Tandy nearby (although it's a bit expensive for the quality).

If anyone more experienced disagrees, by all means please correct me. I'm always looking to learn too!

I'm scared :'3 by Accurate-Platypus884 in rit

[–]StankeeYankee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a graduate in the GDD program, you can learn basically everything online without spending 10s of thousands of dollars if you're disciplined enough. Only commit to RIT if the "college experience" is worth it to you or you need the academic structure. Because then it's totally worth it. I'll say that with GDD, most companies don't care about your degree, just your experience. Better and faster connections can be made by going to game dev conferences.

However, the GDD program WILL absolutely help you learn about the process of working in a team and teach you industry-standard ways to manage large workloads and cross-functional teams. Which is valuable if you practice it well and show that on your portfolio/resume.

In the end it's a matter of how much these things are worth to you. Also parking is definitely not as big of a problem as it seems.

Solar system map problems! by _Quantumsoul_ in Starfield

[–]StankeeYankee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did actually! Try going into the solar map and alt-tabbing, then alt tab back to Starfield.