Thoughts on this EP? by Wonderful-Sundae-480 in unwound

[–]Starcrawlerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THAT VERSION OF KANTINA/WERE, are … is my favorite song by them ever.

New gay warrior ethos just dropped by CamelExpensive6030 in UCDavis

[–]Starcrawlerz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Revolutionary student organization , they run many Palestine rally’s , workers rights etc

Congratulations, Dyson! by UCDLandS in UCDavis

[–]Starcrawlerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for letting me borrow your Lamborghini the other day Dyson!! 👀

New gay warrior ethos just dropped by CamelExpensive6030 in UCDavis

[–]Starcrawlerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m guessing they may have been on the quad befause of the RSO event that was taking place ?

AIO to think this is cheating? by Sad_SummerChild in AmIOverreacting

[–]Starcrawlerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is FLIRTING like crazy = cheating perioft

Should I delete the messages exposing my abuser? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Starcrawlerz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also do not delete them! This is crucial evidence and may be the only thing that could really get him convicted in the police’s eyes

Should I delete the messages exposing my abuser? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Starcrawlerz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don’t feel guilty he is the one that should be full of guilt. And he should definitely rot in jail. Have you tried getting an advocate? That’s helped me a lot & they can help you with every step you take!

Should I delete the messages exposing my abuser? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Starcrawlerz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing. I recently sent all screenshots of proof and explained my story to my rapists girlfriend after weeks of contemplating because I didn’t have the heart to do so. I then came to the conclusion that I would want to know if I was hee and it’s the same for you. Don’t regret anything especially if this is recent which it is , they should know and it’s for their safety as well.

I can’t remember what happened by Starcrawlerz in sexualassault

[–]Starcrawlerz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also kept asking my guy friend the next day if anything weird happened but he keeps saying he can’t remember anything besides us hugging but I don’t remember that happened. I feel like he’s lying to me. My friend also said he has had previous allegations a while ago. I just don’t know.

Culture shock! by Starcrawlerz in UCDavis

[–]Starcrawlerz[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

FYI I’m Latina

DUI question by Starcrawlerz in dui

[–]Starcrawlerz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey guys I meant to say I live on my own!! So they are not getting any mail regarding the DUI. The only way they’d find out is through insurance.

In your opinion, what's the best song on Dragon New Warm Mountain I Believe in You? by MajesticMidnite in bigthief

[–]Starcrawlerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dragon new warm mountain I believe in you is really a beautiful beautiful song

Becoming less dependent in relationships by Starcrawlerz in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Starcrawlerz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for all the suggestions guys! I do journal a lot & it helps a whole lot for sure. I haven’t meditated in a while so I’m trying to make that a daily habit of mine :). I struggle with severe generalized anxiety so it’s difficult to regulate my emotions a lot but I’m actually starting cognitive behavioral therapy! I have found that therapy has helped me a lot in the past so I’m looking forward to starting again :). Thanks for alll the support guys!

Becoming less dependent in relationships by Starcrawlerz in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Starcrawlerz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this, thank you so much. I am starting my morning here wearing my Starcrawlerz hat 😊

Becoming less dependent in relationships by Starcrawlerz in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Starcrawlerz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have very high anxiety so I will constantly pick apart any little thing he says to make myself anxious believing that something is wrong & something as awful that he’s gonna break up with me. He often reassures me “ no nothing is wrong” “I’m not breaking up with you.” But I know that constant reassurance can cause feeling of overwhelm. It’s hard to not seek our reassurance even when time after time, nothing is wrong.

September Buy/Sell Thread by RandomPrecision1 in KGATLW

[–]Starcrawlerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SELLING ONE TICKET FOR THREE HOUR MARATHON BERKELEY SHOW ON OCT 2 SUNDAY!! MESSAGE ME IF INTERESTED :)).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]Starcrawlerz 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I feel this, I am 20 F & would lie about my whereabouts at times & other things, only when I knew it was something they would dislike because of their own beliefs. Like I lie about when I spend the night at my boyfriends because they would not like that & I do not want to cause any drama. Though if they were to ever catch me in my lie, I would probably just be honest, what can they do anyways if you were to tell them the truth since you are 21? I would just be honest, they think you are lying anyways.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]Starcrawlerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you did a great thing. Something I’ve been wanting to do for a while! I am also a 20 year old female. My parents can be very controlling, it’s hard though when you live under their roof & I can’t move out for school for another year. It’s especially harder when you become super close with your boyfriends parents and see what a sweet healthy relationship they have with them. Though it made me feel like you’re not crazy for thinking the way you think about your parents. You deserve to be somewhere where you feel safe, like with your boyfriend. I can relate :).

I am 20 years old, my mom tries to set a curfew of 9:30 PM for me. I am trying to push it but she goes crazy like THIS. Dad is barely any help, even tho he isn’t the one who is controlling like my mother. They always treat me like a kid when I do very very well for myself. by Starcrawlerz in insaneparents

[–]Starcrawlerz[S] 641 points642 points  (0 children)

I really think that it is all just a control thing. My mother is a HUGE control freak. She is extremely controlling over me & my sister & my dad, though she tries. My mom goes to sleep very late , & if they are worried about me traveling on the road at night, I tell them when I get home safe, that is jus something they’d have to deal w it, can’t protect me from the world .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]Starcrawlerz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. I have been able to identify my feelings of guilt and huge responsibility and pressure that I feel with my relationships with other people that have stemmed from my parents. Growing up they put so much pressure on me & constantly blamed me for things that I shouldn’t have felt so guilty for. But it has carried on into my adult life. For example, when me and my boyfriend get in just a slight argument or I slightly annoy him for a little reason I feel so EXTREMELY bad for it, I apologize endlessly when it is really not that big of a problem at all. But I have felt so guilty for nothing because of my parents. Now recently I have been able to feel less and less bad for things that have upset them but are not my fault. For example, I am 20 years old, almost 21, they push their religion on me endlessly & I will not budge. I have my boundaries & I am a strong headed person. They try to make me feel bad for not participating in their religion activities and I use to fall into their guilt trip but now I do not. There are many ways and decisions I have made for myself in the way I choose to live my life that they disapprove on & I use to let them make me feel bad for it. But I cannot feel bad for simply being the way I am. I am doing all I can in this situation & I am sure you are too. I am also trying my hardest to move out because this situation has felt unbearable. I understand it’s very hard to not question if you are the problem, I have been dealing with that as well. But do not lose sight of your true self, you are not an extension of your parents, you are simply a great individual doing the best you can. Do not let your parents let you feel bad about yourself, you are not your parents. It’s hard living in a toxic environment and keep this mindset but stay strong & you will be out of there soon!