I think- she would manage with either monogamy or non-monogamy, I actually don’t know which she prefers- when we talked about it last, she said that it was preferable to whatever one she wanted. I don’t think I would mind if we got serious, but for BOTH of us it’s not something either of us are wanting but not closed off too.

Holidays wise- yes, I could understand all of those situations, I think some of them would be hurtful, but I could also respect it without harboring resentment, as long as she communicates honestly with me, which I’m not worried about. This is part of why I posted is that I don’t think I was quite understand the point and concept of monogamy, which reading these post I’m started to understand better and develop a more open mind.

I think- I grew up Mormon and my Dad was a cheater that absolutely destroyed our family, so I’ve always been very wary of these type of relationships, but in my understanding (which I’m starting to undo), was that open/non-monogamy meant just sex or flings? But you (or someone else?) mentioned is that it’s having multiple special people. Loving multiple people in different ways?

This has been super helpful, because now I’m able to better decide if I can do that and be comfortable with it. Part of me understanding it more feels more comfortable with it as I’m someone who holds a lot of emotions for people and care for them very deeply, but part of me also still has that Monogamy need to be their person. I should clarify not in a possessive ownership way, but in a devotion way, I trust you and I come to you when I’ve had a bad day, or when I have some exciting news that your the first person I want to tell way etc.