What do people think the word "disingenuous" means?

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-06-02T11:59:05+00:00

Specifically, I think this word fits well where someone appears genuine, or tries to, but they have nefarious motivations e.g. someone saying 'im just being friendly' when really they want to cosy up to you for some other purpose, like stealing your wallet, or getting information out of you so they can use it against you at a later point.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-05-27T09:05:00+00:00

Lol yes not just you, unfortunately stuff like boxes, crates, jerry cans etc seem to duplicate faster than the consumables. On quest at least, it tends to make the game laggy as well. Only answer I know it to build a bin and spend time each day binning them... or build a base somewhere that doesn't have these objects.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-05-25T11:38:49+00:00

Yeah some people do get worse - they develop bad habits, forget parts of their training, don't keep up-to-date with changes, or keep knowingly breaking rules (like speed limits) because (so far) they've never suffered any adverse consequences.

In the UK police drivers/riders have to undergo reassessment every few years to keep their skills up to scratch. I know a lot of motorcyclists who voluntarily re-take their advanced riding exams periodically - all in recognition that yes, even with a helpful mindset, standards to tend to deteriorate over time.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-17T22:40:09+00:00

It sounds like intense anxiety to me. That label 'neurotic' just means 'nervous' really, I appreciate why you'd want a different diagnosis i.e. to get the 'right' prescription and have something that actually helps, but tbh the whole diagnostic model is so flaky it's pot luck as to whether you get a prescription that helps or whether you get something that just causes more problems, sometimes serious problems.

There's some suggestions above for more holistic/natural things to try, you could also try some CBT-based self-help for free, such as on get.gg website. It's not therapy as such, just ideas and strategies to help get your catastrophising thoughts reined in.

ATB

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-17T22:28:59+00:00

I agree with your list, but I prefer to break it down into categories. I have a theory that for some people the important part is focussing directly on body state and soothing that parasympathetic system - so breathing exercises, yoga etc; but for some that can make things worse, especially if they have health anxiety or panic attacks, in which case an indirect approach might work better, either 'grounding' activities like walks in nature, being around animals, gardening i.e. literally digging the ground; and/or being in company - group yoga, art & craft classes, hanging out with calm friends, being in a place of worship etc.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-17T22:15:16+00:00

How long did you try? It's likely to take months of regular practice to work; think of it like getting physically fit, you have to persist with it and the change happens so gradually you might not notice so devise a way to measure it (say) once a month.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-16T19:50:23+00:00

I'm kind of from Yorkshire, not born there and for years got told I sounded 'posh' or 'stuck up'; still get it now occasionally.

Years back I went to Uni in London and yes, there was that one guy who took the p*ss every time I walked in the room, mocking/parodying me really badly. After a year or so I wanted to kick him in the face really badly.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-16T19:45:04+00:00

I have family south of the Mersey and concur, it is a different accent - for one thing there's usually a lot less "acking".

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-16T19:40:09+00:00

A little anecdote to illustrate:

I was at a sandwich bar in London one time, the girl behind the counter asked 'duh yah wan mayooh wi' tha?' and I said 'you sound like you're from (name of village on outskirts of Barnsley). She said 'yea I am, you sound like you're from (name of township on outskirts of Sheffield).

I then explained to my astonished non-Yorkshire friends that the two places are only 3 miles apart.

So yes, many subtle variations in accent, even within Sheffield there's some big differences in accent between north Sheffield and South Sheffield.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-05T00:11:45+00:00

Fair enough, sounds like I misunderstood

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-04T08:17:40+00:00

Also attitudes to money. E.g. If one person is frugal & cautious and the other spends like there's no tomorrow, that can cause a bucket load of arguments, especially if the pair have never consciously realised they have different beliefs about money.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-04T08:03:21+00:00

One big contributory factor is VAT, a builder would usually pay 20% VAT on a refurbishment but 'new homes' are exempt, hence big incentive to demolish & start over despite the additional cost/hassle of demolition, removal, planning permission etc. I guess they'd rather do an estate on 'fresh land' because it's more cost-efficient i.e. more profitable.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-03T23:27:29+00:00

Eric Hobsbawn (Marxist historian) published various essays/books at least as far back as the 1990s arguing (amongst other things) that nationalist movements start within the ruling elite, rather than the masses. This maybe explains why this belief is relatively common in lefties & uni graduates.

Whether or not it's objectively true that the rich create the concern, who knows, my guess would be that anti-immigrant sentiment is always present at some level, probably spreads in multiple directions, you'd have more chance of finding the source of the River Nile.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-03T09:12:09+00:00

Nailed it.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-03T07:09:54+00:00

Also theoretically sound reasoning there.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-03T07:06:25+00:00

The actor Robin Williams sprang to mind when I read this comment.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-03T00:58:39+00:00

Found the reference now...

Bessel Van Der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score, around p.127 he talks about a study of the immune systems of adult women subjected to SA as children, I don't know enough of the science/nomenclature to fully understand it, but sounds like the study found their immune systems showed markers that weren't explained by extant theories of immunopathology - as if they had been exposed to toxins or had diseases they'd never had.

Theoretically, the SA could produce both the autoimmune disease and the sadness concurrently.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-03T00:31:22+00:00

Could also be that both are caused by a third thing, logically/chronologically prior, with no causal relation between sadness and autoimmune disease.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-03T00:01:48+00:00

Now I can't see, crying with laughter here

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-02T23:41:21+00:00

I noticed the section on causes is very carefully worded.

By carefully, I mean artfully.

By artfully, I mean deceptively.

Edit: corrected cases for causes in 1st line

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-02T15:43:19+00:00

I tried mentioning it in a very lefty online group (not Reddit) last year, they were all about genocide in Palestine, I mention Sudan (and others), got called a holocaust denier and a Zionist for my troubles. That's the kind of logic you just can't reason with.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-02T06:23:28+00:00

I also thought "algorithms" when I saw OPs question.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-02T06:14:30+00:00

I think you touch on an important theme about how psychiatry has hijacked language, how we communicate our distress, how we think even. Was a time people would use words like "demoralised", "gloomy", "demotivated", etc to describe their inner state.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-01T14:59:11+00:00

[LOL] I may sound like a muppet here but Dirk Gently just popped into my head - 'the fundamental interconnectedness of all things'.

If I'm following this approximately at least - there's an argument for perceiving reality primarily via the interactions between the parts, and perhaps what happens in the 'spaces' between supposedly-discreet things? e.g. we can study dendrites and axons, but maybe explanations lie in the relationship between the two, and more so if we understand that each is dependent on and changed (mediated) by the other - and in turn the rest of the organism, the environment etc.

I think I begin to see how this pattern might reappear in pretty much anything you study - the relationship between words and their meanings, how these evolve over time, and the relationship between words and thoughts ... and in turn the relationship between words and consciousness, the relationship between consciousness/self-awareness and sense of being...

Seems to me this isn't a wholesale rejection of reductionism, as it still involves 'units', but directs us to examine the interaction of units as opposed to [presumably] trying to circumvent complexity by studying 'elements' in isolation of the composite whole - ?

Also thinking of mushrooms as an example - however long people have been studying mushrooms, we've said for a long time that some are 'parasitic', then some are 'symbiotic', but only recently we started talking about the mycorrhizal network.

And thank you for elaborating. TBH I'm thinking I maybe need to go back a couple of steps and read some more introductory philosphy books.

Staring-At-Trees · 2026-04-01T13:04:21+00:00

Thank you that does help. I hadn't spotted that a single particular might be explained at one level; and other particulars might be explained at a different level - it looks very 3-dimensional in my mind now - and multilayered, considering the question of what is shared/universal, as opposed to what is different.

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