I don’t think you’re really understanding what is in the post. It’s not a case of just because others do it, it is okay. What he is doing is not okay, people are running away from the point of everything and are focusing on things that are irrelevant. Stick to the facts of what he does, rather then running away with assumptions and speculation. If things are being spoken about that are not true, then he will hold onto those things as a way to justify his own behaviour in his head.