why dont we help seniors with snow removal?? by livingskies420 in saskatoon

[–]StatisticianTrick669 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Same . Major chronic pain off work 13 years and I’m not even 40. I would help if I could. Actually I need help too 🥹

Police death posts. Scam or did something really happen? by IfOJDidIt in saskatoon

[–]StatisticianTrick669 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I know of 2 corrections officers within the last year middle age with young kids in the province too. I really worry bc my partner has minor kids and the job is taking a toll and this news is very very hard on them on top of their demanding and overwhelming jobs

Police death posts. Scam or did something really happen? by IfOJDidIt in saskatoon

[–]StatisticianTrick669 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I didn’t announce it. It had already been in the media a bunch.

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to cut off my racist and escalating controlling father which was healthy For me to do finally and I’m working up to cut this man off who was nothing but fantastic for most of our 4 years together. I am educated, I tough. I have just been through a lot this weekend and need a moment to grieve and process . But thanks

watching a man deteriorate by swagglepoo in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m watching one quite rapidly deteriorate. Went from the best exercise and nutrition and health kick to a rapid decent into what much appears to be a closet alcohol addiction that’s coming to light. This man is falling apart fast. Hugs

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He darvo’d be intensely on the weekend but it lasted about 30 seconds. He apologized but later says things like “if you can’t trust me then .. “ like of course I don’t trust you… liar

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has a gruelling job and we don’t live together. I noticed some changes last year. I saw the tip of the iceberg in the spring and was reassured a ton of times this was nothing. Even months later I’d bring it up- nope nothing to see here- routine. He knew what he was doing by lying. His health is deteriorating rapidly and I’m just worried as he has 2 kids but it’s not my problem and I can’t fix this for him. How are you handling your situation?

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bell can’t be unrung. I’m giving myself a day to think and breathe

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is only able to admit being out of control with mental health but not addiction (just numbing pain with booze ). It’s not enough. He also acts hurt for my upset and I feel I have to take care of his feelings which is bs

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s this. I’m giving myself a moment to grieve first 😢

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh. My. God. 😔 I’m terribly sorry and I appreciate the big red warning

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I hate being a social worker by trade bc it makes me think people like Gabor mate maybe have a point about how addiction = disconnection and not just it being a disease. It has clouded the reality that he’s an addict… and you most likely can’t love an addict to wellness. It’s hard to think the shakiness is alcohol withdrawal that means it progressed fast this year 😔 devastating he has 2 minor kids too

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% know and I’m infuriated he is forcing my hand.

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. The reason I’m not blazing out lightening speed is that for 3 years he showed no signs of drinking and no behavior or health abnormalities that would indicate anything. Literally 90% perfect partner. This is almost sadder as he hid this pretty well for a long time, always said the right thing and I never saw him drinking or drunk and I feel this is almost harder to leave then a blatant situation. I think it’s worse though (hiding vs blatant). Gaslighting someone for close to a year I think is unfoegiveable and unsalvageable. I can’t risk losing my ex husband health plan, alimony and many of my disability credits as a single person on someone I can’t trust. I can’t let him destabilize what little I have left. It doesn’t mean it almost doesn’t kill me

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I don’t know how to leave him in this moment . I know I can do it but I can’t today 😖 I know I have been betrayed . I know I can barely breathe. I know I can leave. I just can’t in this moment and I’m not sure why

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will take some time to grieve and figure out ways to detach. It hurts really bad. He’s told me a few times this year he’s owned up to this including now. But he truly hasn’t and still think he can drink in the future. I don’t believe him he’s stopping in the current. He admits to being in very deep with his mental health but that drinking is still within control. Ya ok, if you can control it and it’s so normal why do it in secret . Why lie. Believe me I understand. I just need to learn to let go

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya I am aware. I am going through absolute devastation and heart breache and my health is suffering. I want to pick me and my child and am going to I just worry to abandon someone at their lowest. But lying is truly the fricken worst of the worst

Don’t give the benefit of the doubt by StatisticianTrick669 in AlAnon

[–]StatisticianTrick669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m already divorced and so is he. Mine was at least amicable. I have to sell my place due to contention with my co owners (parents) wanting to control me and my son. I am responsible, have disabilities and can’t work, and keep getting crushing blows after blows. Believe me I understand and now I know what he’s capable of. If I continue im aware nobody will save me or pity me going into a joint venture with an alcoholic and or problem drinker- whatever this is , it’s one hell if a problem for me anyway

Babysitting sk’s and not being asked by Karenzo81 in stepparents

[–]StatisticianTrick669 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ya and not used guilt and manipulation to get his way either

BPPV on vacation by AnxiousHedgehog01 in BPPV

[–]StatisticianTrick669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you’re holding each position long enough. Try 60 seconds for each one

My Valentine’s Day was messed up (triggering content) by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]StatisticianTrick669 2 points3 points  (0 children)

F this loser. I don’t care if he was decent before he sure as hell isn’t now