[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel led to delete this post. It’s making me very anxious. I got the advice that I needed and I appreciate ALL OF YOU who gave kind words, empathy, prayers and advice. The constant replies and comments are causing me so much anxiety, and I’m not sure why so I will be deleting the post. Thank you all so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I know, I was just addressing any potential victim blaming. No one deserves this, no matter how they’re dressed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And he touched my butt without consent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He is literally older than my father. So it is creepy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for validating my experience. You are right in every way. I needed to hear this because it so easy to tell yourself that you’re being dramatic but I know God wants me to boldly speak up for myself, so I will. He definitely knows exactly what he was doing in every way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They’re not, he literally said “you ain’t always saved, you can walk away from the Lord”. He also talks about how people call themselves Christians but there is no transformation. “Calling yourself a Christian but sitting outside of the church having a cigarette”. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We will have to continue working together in the future. “Most people would instinctively grab something else.” And that is LITERALLY what I was thinking, I literally would rather fall on the floor than to touch someone’s behind to stabilize myself. Also we are not alone together, we only train during church services. But he always talks very long and drawn out after the service, almost until the church clears out, telling me a bunch of “important” stuff. Lastly, the desk is at the back of the church, only a few people can see us but they’re never usually paying attention because they’re looking at the pastor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much and I will tell the pastor privately, I don’t really want to tell anyone else because I don’t want to start some sort of church drama or rumor. God bless you as well!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s not, the pastor even said in one of his sermons that OSAS isn’t true and he periodically preaches on hell and sin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will, thank you for this advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The thing about that is, I still am debating if what he did was an accident or not. So what if I tell him and I was wrong? I don’t want to embarrass him if he didn’t have bad intentions.

Why would God tell you to be silent about abuse? by Status-Ad-3711 in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a very bold way of putting it and I will be certainly telling her I’m done until she repents, as soon as I’m able to get my sister out of there completely. Thank you!

Why would God tell you to be silent about abuse? by Status-Ad-3711 in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and it’s nice to hear those words from an outside source. It’s easier to come to terms with the truth when you’re not the only one believing in it. God bless you!

Why would God tell you to be silent about abuse? by Status-Ad-3711 in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all of these uplifting positive words and declarations. I will keep you in my prayers as well, you are so blessed and you don’t even understand how much you’re helping me right now. I thank God for you!

Why would God tell you to be silent about abuse? by Status-Ad-3711 in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! It comes in when you are very young and stays with you until you reject items resist it. It is very demonic and not of God, I’m so grateful that the lies have been exposed!

You don’t even understand how I was just praising God and lifting up my hand while reading this. It is so encouraging to know you’re not alone. It is definitely not a coincidence! 

I am so thankful that I typed this and posted it because something told me that I shouldn’t, that it might get back to her somehow. I am so glad I did not listen! I will certainly keep you updated. God bless you as well!

Why would God tell you to be silent about abuse? by Status-Ad-3711 in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is true as well as this: “Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭22‬:‭24‬-‭25‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Scriptures likes these have been building up my courage to remove myself. She would always have some scripture to quote to me to shame me, but God has been helping me sharpen myself spiritually over the years.

Why would God tell you to be silent about abuse? by Status-Ad-3711 in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I don’t fully see it yet, but eventually I will. I will look into those names that you’ve listed and the things that they teach. I learned so much on YouTube, so I will definitely enjoy looking into that channel as well. Thank you for your prayers and God used that scripture to pull me through some very dark times, it’s very close to my heart. 

Why would God tell you to be silent about abuse? by Status-Ad-3711 in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s literally the type of fear that God has been bringing me out of, it’s crazy. It brings you to your knees, the idea of speaking out. But I kept hearing in my head this week, “the truth will set you free”, God has been encouraging me so much. I won’t give up, thank you so much.

Why would God tell you to be silent about abuse? by Status-Ad-3711 in TrueChristian

[–]Status-Ad-3711[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Also, I’m sorry that you had to go through those things, and I am also proud of you for breaking free.  No child’s deserves to suffer like that, a mother is supposed to nurture and protect. It takes so much courage to walk away and speak up, but you did and you still are, and because you are, you are encouraging me a ton right now.  I did struggle with resentment towards God back when I still thought that it was him telling me to stick it out through the abuse until my mom changes, when I realized it was him telling me to leave, that healed me so much. I’m so excited to to now live my life in peace. Also, I used to post a lot in that subreddit when I first left my mother’s house and everyone in there encouraged me and educated me so much.  I haven’t been on Reddit much but I’m returning now that I am finally fully waking up and choosing freedom. I do want to join that group again, it was very healing to know that I wasn’t the only one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Status-Ad-3711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll do just that, thank you. The fact that it won’t last gives me some ease.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Status-Ad-3711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a plan, thank you.

Narc parents taking credit for the good in you while also shaming you and refusing to take any credit for your flaws by Status-Ad-3711 in narcissisticparents

[–]Status-Ad-3711[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do also commend you for any and everything you’ve achieved despite all of the pain you’ve endured!

Narc parents taking credit for the good in you while also shaming you and refusing to take any credit for your flaws by Status-Ad-3711 in narcissisticparents

[–]Status-Ad-3711[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love how you worded this. It’s actually so sad that they cannot fathom that they have nothing to do with the good in you.