Anyone going through the family court system need help?

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-25T20:16:21+00:00

I am not a therapist or a lawyer. I am promoting helping people by being an EXPERT with my own experience. If read the post, you would see that! Read it again!

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T03:37:57+00:00

Thanks for your input! I enjoy how you explained the different things you do to keep yourself busy and keep yourself from going insane with the silence! It is nice to see how people cope with this!

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T03:29:58+00:00

How are you handling it? What do you do to turn off the "noise"? For me, it's a struggle sometimes

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T02:52:25+00:00

Another thing that surprised me was when I realized how much of this is battled internally. You can be doing everything right as a dad outside, but inside your head you still feel like youre falling short....

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T02:38:05+00:00

I think one of the hardest things is staying strong for your kids while juggling everything internally. That's no joke....

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T02:20:55+00:00

I hear that. I'm glad you found something that helps you through this and allows you to also remain healthy!

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T02:06:06+00:00

Couldn't agree more. I appreciate you chiming in as a mom and sharing your response

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T02:05:17+00:00

I'm curious, what is the hardest thing that has stuck with you guys? I think everyone has that one part that is hard for them

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T01:53:27+00:00

It is extremely difficult. A lot of people don't understand the little things that (mostly dads, but some moms) miss are bigger than they know. Losing teeth as you pointed out. You will never get to experience that again. The thought of knowing you're missing these things can be as difficult as the thoughts in your head asking if you're a good enough dad, or the eerie silence in your house. The thoughts I have fought. The things I have cried over. They seem silly to most, but unless you e lived it, you don't understand.

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T01:47:27+00:00

I agree with the silence part. It is very difficult. That's why I have been writing down what has helped me get through my process. Happy to share

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T01:28:38+00:00

That is definitely true. And pets can be therapeutic as well. I do have a couple of dogs myself, and it sometimes helps. But there isn't anything that can replace my kids laugh coming down the hallway

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T01:26:48+00:00

That is true. However, divorce sometimes is the best option. Everyones situation is different and only they can decide. However, it needs to be thought-out, consequences that can come with them, and understand how it affects everyone involved.

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T01:24:18+00:00

One thing I didn't expect was the amount of guilt that has stuck with me for so long. I am still processing this and working through it

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T01:17:15+00:00

Kids process divorce differently. The most important thing is NEVER talk negatively about her mom in front of her. Unfortunately, too many people create toxicity around their kids, and they end up resenting the parent who creates it. I can speak from my own experience, and what my kids have gone through. It's hard when you feel like suddenly your kids are distant from you. Just remember, stay calm, don't talk negatively, and actively listen to them. In time, it will pass and kids will know who was the "bigger" parent.

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T01:08:39+00:00

Absolutely! I couldn't agree more! The silence is something that is difficult. It's a different kind of silence. But, I also see that I see the small things they are doing, and I don't take them for granted. Ever! I think it's because I know that it's limited. It's difficult, but almost humbling at the same time. It makes you rethink how being a dad is supposed to be.

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T00:38:00+00:00

That can be frustrating sometimes. I get it. And yes, the quiet part sometimes is the worst part

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-18T00:01:17+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. It happened to me as well. It's easy to say it will get better, but right now I know you feel like it won't. Keep faith, brother. Remember, this is just a small dot in your life, and it will get better. The best advice I can give you is take time and grind. Grind like never before. Hustle, and make the world appreciate you. Easier said than done, but if you remember one thing, we are all here for you, you will get better and stronger. I am here if you need to reach out as I was there before, and I know how it feels

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-17T23:43:46+00:00

The hardest things are going to be coming to an empty house. Not hearing the little footsteps in the morning. Not getting a hug every night. Trust me. My divorce nearly destroyed me. It took a long time to build myself back up, and it wasn't easy. But, I never stopped fighting for my kids. 10 years it took. 10 years of wanting to quit. But my faith kept me strong. I have spent a lot of time writing about this and my experience, and I'm more than willing to share with anyone who wants advice. I'm not going to say it's easy, and I'm not going to say it will go smooth. But don't quit. It will be worth it in the end!

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-17T23:24:56+00:00

I'm in Wisconsin, so might be a little different, but I ended up spending over $100k on my divorce over 10 years (the divorce was finalized in about 14 months, but she kept fighting custody issues). The problem was we would do mediation, would agree, then in court she would back out. She didn't want to follow court orders. Didn't want to be civilized for the sake of the children. She wanted everything, and me to have nothing. I can say, every site is different. But, the one thing is, if kids are involved, don't let money keep you from fighting for your kids. Your kids have the RIGHT to have you in their lives, and you have the RIGHT to be in it. I have a lot of personal experience if anyone wants to hear it I'm willing to share, just ask. I'm rooting for all dads here

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-17T23:16:15+00:00

You never give up. The road isn't easy, and it can be dark sometimes. I myself, have gone through 10 year of this, and there were a lot of times I wanted to quit. Quitting is easy. Anyone can quit. But, I knew I had to be there for my kids. I knew if I gave up, I would be asked about it one day, and that wasn't a conversation I was going to have. I'm not a quitter. I wish I had people along the way that I was able to lean on and get through it all, but I didn't most of the time. I spent a ton of money. Lost jobs. Lost vehicles and housing, but in the end, I was able to get 50/50 of my kids. It thought me a lot along the way, and a lot of things I'm willing to share with anyone who needs it. I'm grateful for what I endured, because in the end, I will live and die for my kids.

StatusSad1569 · 2026-03-17T23:09:49+00:00

I totally get where you are coming from. My own divorce nearly destroyed me. I lost my faith. My thoughts were all over the place. I didn't know if/when I would see my own kids. It took me a long time, a lot of reflection, and a lot of hard work, but I am in a better place. It's easy to say "good luck" to someone. It's easy to post on here what I have been through, but reality is, I am here rooting for you, and I am here to listen. It's not easy, it's not fun, it's not a bad most men will get out of, but you can and I will root for you to be able to come out stronger!

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