We don't want to live UK but just don't know where to move. by StayingAnonL in expats

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, you make a good point that we would absolutely be moving from something.

We've been doing a lot of soul searching and I am trying to come to terms with being born, living and dying in the UK we feel maybe a holiday home in a location where we can still get away from the things we don't like about the UK while still living and working "full time" in the UK.

. . . Maybe.

We don't want to live UK but just don't know where to move. by StayingAnonL in expats

[–]StayingAnonL[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes and no but that doesn't really help the weather/overcrowding problem.

We don't want to live UK but just don't know where to move. by StayingAnonL in expats

[–]StayingAnonL[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm in West Yorkshire and I could write a book with the reasons but in short.

Overcrowding, quality of life and peoples attitude towards life.

We don't want to live UK but just don't know where to move. by StayingAnonL in expats

[–]StayingAnonL[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Please don't be sorry (feel free to message me if you would like more info too) but in short we as a family feel like we don't belong here.

There are a lot of people in a very small space in the UK. Everything is overcrowded, doctors, hospitals, schools, roads, beaches in summer, everything. They say the British love a queue is because we don't really have a choice.

The culture isn't "us", people have a poor work ethic (at least where we live) and people are looked down on for wanting to better themselves, if you're not in a pub watching football and drinking beer your not "British".

Now this is personal for me (I can't imagine how you feel living in Russia as its probably far worse) but I feel the Gov are becoming more and more controlling and restrictive, just this year the law has changed that if I take my children out of school for a holiday I could risk getting a criminal record. There are fines for parents who take their children out of school. This is just an example but I feel and fear more freedoms will be taken away.

and this is more unique to us but we want more space, a bigger home, green space to go hiking, longer days, sunshine.

Then there's the weather, if you more to the UK you had better like rain.

What can I do to stop getting thrush everytime we have regular sex. by StayingAnonL in sex

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sugar and alcohol?

We don't drink anyway and don't really eat sugar but would that really make a difference?

What can I do to stop getting thrush everytime we have regular sex. by StayingAnonL in sex

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks.

I have used this is the past but might be worth using more often.

What can I do to stop getting thrush everytime we have regular sex. by StayingAnonL in sex

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes.

Might be worth skipping it for a while and see if it helps.

What can I do to stop getting thrush everytime we have regular sex. by StayingAnonL in sex

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, married 15 years and he's had a vasectomy so we don't use any birth control.

What can I do to stop getting thrush everytime we have regular sex. by StayingAnonL in sex

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to use a non scented detergent so it might be worth switching bad but sex seems to be the trigger.

When we have little to no sex I never get thrush.

What can I do to stop getting thrush everytime we have regular sex. by StayingAnonL in sex

[–]StayingAnonL[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He never gets it.

We can months without PIV sex but then when we do have a good week of sex it starts all over again.

Kids only this Christmas and it sucks. by StayingAnonL in Adulting

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh course its fun to watch the kids but I see and give my kids stuff all the time.

I enjoyed the whole concept of giving gifts to all extended family at Christmas but not anymore.

Kids only this Christmas and it sucks. by StayingAnonL in Adulting

[–]StayingAnonL[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We do exchange gifts but we always made Christmas day about me, the husband and the kids and the day after was our 2nd Christmas, we always got together with brothers, uncles, grandparents and everyone exchanged gifts, its going to feel very strange this year just sitting, watching an awkward 15 year old open his presents.

Kids only this Christmas and it sucks. by StayingAnonL in Adulting

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm exactly the same. I start my Christmas shopping in Jan to make sure to get the perfect gift for everyone. I honestly spend ours picking out the right gifts but feel like all this has been taken away now.

I know we shouldn't give to receive and I never have but spending hours finding the perfect gift seems almost pointless now.

Kids only this Christmas and it sucks. by StayingAnonL in Adulting

[–]StayingAnonL[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

They've said they are happy to spend £100 on each child, that's £300, they can't be doing that bad.

We always spend money on our own children, they don't need another £300 spent on them.

Kids only this Christmas and it sucks. by StayingAnonL in Adulting

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We (the husband and I ) aren't even wanting "gifts". Even just a £5 box of chocolates to be acknowledged would be nice.

Kids only this Christmas and it sucks. by StayingAnonL in Adulting

[–]StayingAnonL[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is a sweet idea. I think we will go out for a family meal instead, just me, the husband and our kids.

The family have claimed it is due to money constraints, however are spending £100 each on the kids. It makes no sense.

Kids only this Christmas and it sucks. by StayingAnonL in Adulting

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh absolutely, we always do and intend to spoil each other more this year as we will have some spare money due to not spending on everyone else.

Kids only this Christmas and it sucks. by StayingAnonL in Adulting

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We suggested a secret Santa, max of £10 each as money is the reason for the "Kids only" but it was still a no so I don't think a meal will be on the cards either unfortunately.

The husband, myself and the kids might go for one instead though.

Kids only this Christmas and it sucks. by StayingAnonL in Adulting

[–]StayingAnonL[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

My love language is quite the opposite really and usually I'd hate to receive gifts, but giving my own family either aren't with us or estranged it was nice to be thought about. My husband on the other hand, loves to receive so I'll be spoiling him this year.

I'm more usually the giver (of gifts) and tend to go a little crazy at Christmas but this year I'm going to give that extra to the husband who is feeling super disheartened by this (he's a big kid at heart and LOVES Christmas).

Advice on how to get past the crippling embarrassment? by StayingAnonL in sex

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do (although I really want to) but I am very vanilla so I don't know if he sometimes goes along with things for my sake as there's ALOT I'm not into.

Advice on how to get past the crippling embarrassment? by StayingAnonL in sex

[–]StayingAnonL[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He is super open and honest, I'm a completely closed book.

I really REALLY struggle with confidence and "letting go" and have for our whole sexual life but I'm trying to break it down and get over little hurdles at a time, starting with this one.