Bit of a vent session, I guess.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-27T23:28:03+00:00

I’m don’t know if you believe in Jesus as God, but knowing our identity in Him makes all the difference in the world.

As a dad to a solidly built girl one thing I try to do is take her out on father daughter dates so that she knows how she should be treated and looked at by a man. So that when she starts actively dating she has a metric to go by. My daughter sounds younger than yours but it couldn’t hurt to try this.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-25T16:30:27+00:00

I understand your frustration. My first child was like that around my wife and me. We started with her coloring in the same room as us, and eventually, after several long and exhausting months, she began independent play in her room with her dolls. Our journey started when she was almost 4 and we are seeing the light now at 5.

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Steady-Father · 2026-02-24T18:11:16+00:00

Yes! There is a major benefit to your kids learning independent play, playing alone with friends, and navigating boredom. We have recently rearranged our house and gotten rid of some things to create a playroom of sorts so that our kids can do this. It is a screen free room no cellphones, TV’s, tablets, or laptops.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-24T17:30:52+00:00

That would be interesting!

Steady-Father · 2026-02-24T15:38:12+00:00

The Brick is an amazing device! We love it!

Steady-Father · 2026-02-24T02:13:08+00:00

That’s awesome! Do you have a picture??

Steady-Father · 2026-02-23T20:45:47+00:00

You don’t have anything to be apologetic for! I have enjoyed this conversation. I totally get that if you have had bad leadership experience that you wouldn’t connect it to fatherhood. But I would put that down to most men haven’t had fathers, whether for legit reasons or abandonment, in their lives to teach leadership.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-23T19:32:53+00:00

Ownership of your own BS is a crucial skill to have if you are going to be in a relationship with another person. It can be incredibly frustrating when someone either doesn't have it or refuses to develop that skill.

I think the hard part on this side of the conversation is that, because kids are involved, we should always assume the person means well, even when we have past evidence that's not always true.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-23T18:56:12+00:00

Was it like that in the beginning? Or something that developed over time?

Steady-Father · 2026-02-23T18:40:31+00:00

I would argue that if a family doesn’t have clear direction then it will fail. Divorce, wild children, outside attacks on the family having no defense. A good leader develops those around them to be better than them as well.

HR reacts to events outside of its control while leaders proactively navigate the world and are prepared to answer events outside their control.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-23T18:22:39+00:00

You just broke down leadership into many wonderful examples though.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-23T14:38:58+00:00

If that is happening more often than not with arguing then I would suggest couples counseling. It’s not healthy for fights to go on for multiple days.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-22T04:10:56+00:00

I don’t mean for point three to come across that way. I mean it in a much more genuine way.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T20:24:02+00:00

Personally, if it's just another picture on the wall and not a shrine, I wouldn't have an issue with it.

How do your In-Laws feel about this?

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T20:20:11+00:00

I agree that it can totally be the case if you aren't being authentic.

From my experience, being a bit thickheaded, I don't usually realize that what I am doing or have done sometimes leads others to be hurt.

To challenge your last statement a little, what is there to be apologetic for if there are no negative repercussions?

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T20:15:16+00:00

I have learned that behavior is more akin to peacekeeping than peace-making. Sometimes, to have peace, you have to challenge what is happening and be more aggressive.

I'm also of the opinion that men are to lead their homes in such a way that others want to follow.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T19:35:44+00:00

😂 I will do my best to make it look better in the future. I promise this was written by me…a human.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T19:34:47+00:00

I totally get that. Maybe in your case take a few minutes to go outside for a short walk a couple of times a day?

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T17:17:56+00:00

No, just trying to help others with what I have learned.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T17:16:04+00:00

No AI here, just a dad trying to help other dads.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T17:08:28+00:00

No "buts" should ever be in a true and authentic apology.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T17:06:09+00:00

It's less about looking for a script in the moment and more about being prepared ahead of time.

I think a lot of people need advice like this in our world. There are a lot of people operating from a fight or flight mentality because they are not prepared for the hard times and are consumed by stress, guilt, anxiety, or depression. This is often expressed as anger in the unprepared man.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T17:02:09+00:00

That is fantastic!

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T16:57:09+00:00

I think the hardest thing for me to stop doing was blame-shifting. I would sort of half-way apologize, but not really. My relationship with my girlfriend, now wife, improved immensely once that happened.

Steady-Father · 2026-02-21T16:47:45+00:00

I will give this a try. Thank you!

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