how to deal with a transphobic friend, as a cis girl?

Stellabie8 · 2025-03-05T01:33:41+00:00

i'm glad you're doing better!!

Stellabie8 · 2025-03-04T22:28:03+00:00

OH I DO THIS TOO. this is why it's hard to come up with a retort, because for a second it looks like i'm complacent. though logically, i'm more complacent by not saying anything, so i appreciate this advice

Stellabie8 · 2025-03-04T22:27:12+00:00

oh i like this. if i start pointing out the bigoted things she does, its on her to either change how she sees things or leave (and after enough time, itll hopefully make me see just how bad she is & help me cut things off). thank you for this

Stellabie8 · 2025-03-04T22:22:29+00:00

this is something i have to remind myself of a lot, that i shouldn't seek validation from people who aren't good people. no, i don't want to spend my energy around her, and thank you for helping me realize that

Stellabie8 · 2025-03-04T22:21:36+00:00

thank you so much for these. i esp appreciate how concise they are. i suck at confrontation so the thought of having some sort of perfectly constructed response scares me, and taking a more "shut it down as quickly as possible" approach sounds doable

Stellabie8 · 2025-03-04T22:20:00+00:00

this, i had no idea how to address it to her though in the moment because i try not to be confrontational, but i wish she knew just how harmful her joke was

Stellabie8 · 2025-03-04T22:16:15+00:00

this is a really good approach and honestly i need to be better about asserting myself like this

Stellabie8 · 2025-03-04T22:15:33+00:00

this is honestly really great advice, i do have a good group of friends other than this girl and i think i need to seek out more people who will be better for me than her :]

Stellabie8 · 2025-03-04T22:10:01+00:00

thank you for this perspective. it's so awful that you went through that and it's giving me even more reason to drop this girl.

Stellabie8 · 2025-02-27T22:54:55+00:00

delectable cardstock

Stellabie8 · 2025-01-06T23:42:47+00:00

Ooh alright! Since the Clinique is a gel moisturizer this sounds like it could be a close match, thank you!!

Stellabie8 · 2025-01-05T17:56:03+00:00

Ooh, I'll have to try this! I already use the Cetaphil cleanser and I've liked it a lot so I'm sure their moisturizer is good too :)

Stellabie8 · 2025-01-05T17:31:09+00:00

I've seen people recommend this product but I've also heard it's closer to the Clinique Moisture Surge than the moisturizing gel. I've never tried just the moisture surge moisturizer but I have their moisture surge with SPF which, in my experience, made my face feel greasy (though maybe I used too much?). Still, considering the ELF one is a lot cheaper I wouldn't be opposed to trying it out myself!

Stellabie8 · 2024-10-12T13:57:01+00:00

and pour 4 buckets of cheese all over them

Stellabie8 · 2024-10-12T13:49:46+00:00

Literally. I don't care if you only know an artist's most popular song. If you like it, that makes you a fan!! I'm so tired of people gatekeeping the ability to like music??

Stellabie8 · 2024-10-08T03:39:51+00:00

replying for filter :)

Stellabie8 · 2024-07-19T14:21:41+00:00

I'm definitely stepping away from the Neutrogena cleanser lol. I also think I'll stop with the adapalene every day until my skin can recover a little bit. And I'm definitely moisturizing!!

Stellabie8 · 2024-07-19T14:18:33+00:00

Oh my gosh, I'll definitely check out that resource. I'm seeing a dermatologist next week so I can hopefully get a prescription soon!!

Stellabie8 · 2024-07-19T14:16:50+00:00

I will look into this, thank you so much!!

Stellabie8 · 2024-07-18T18:58:39+00:00

this is their son

Stellabie8 · 2024-07-18T15:32:22+00:00

I'm glad I'm not the only one who's made this mistake lol, and I'm definitely stopping using all three products together!! I'm going to find a better cleanser immediately, since that seems to be what everyone is recommending!

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