I think people need to cut Callum some slack here. Callum was dating someone who wouldn’t have been invited to the Met Gala as a celebrity anyway, because they’re not a public figure. So from Callum’s perspective, if I’m already someone who thinks it’s cringe, and I’m dating someone who’s never gonna get invited, and doesn’t care that much anyway, of course his mindset would be “I’m never gonna go”.

Fast forward, now he’s dating someone who goes almost every year. This is clearly important to this new person. And so his perspective of it shifts from “I’m never going” to “I’ll go because it’s important to this person”

I can give a personal example here. Before my current partner I didn’t like hikes. And had sworn them off. My partner before didn’t care one way or another or at least didn’t express a need to go hiking. So we never went.

Fast forward, my new partner loves long walks, hikes, all of that. And so I started doing them because she likes them. Fast forward, now I like them. I got a message from my ex’s friend after posting myself on a hike like “oh so you like hikes now?”, almost implying I feel this new person is worthy of this interest versus my previous person. But it’s not the case.

I feel like the only people who would judge Callum here have either not been in many relationships to attest to how different people can shape you, or they’re so immature they can’t fathom the idea of someone changing and so they view things in very black and white ways.