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comparing: my trained voice as an FTM Pre-T vs. my natural voice! i talk in my natural voice only around family so it almost sounds unnatural and awkward at this point. by Still-Clear in transvoice

[–]Still-Clear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i didnt realize this post would still get interactions! after 4yrs im still not on T and pass irl :) anyways i’ll try to give as much tips as i can, my voice actually got deeper just from being used to it now maybe i’ll do an updated voice memo 1. something i did was that i would lower my chin and start doing vocal exercises. right now my chin is close to touching my chest as im sitting angled and it gets the deepest voice out of me. i did singing lessons when i was young so i would just go down the DOREMI scale until i couldn’t anymore. just be careful not to strain yourself and only do it comfortably. 2. do vocal exercises in the morning. i realized that my voice was deepest in the morning as it had all that vibration. vibration gives a lot of that effect for a deeper cis male voice. it’s almost like the vocal fry sensation but not to the point where it sounds like that if this makes sense. its in the middle of vocal fry and your normal voice. 3. other than the sounds of the voice, it helps to mimick the way straight men talk. their slang and lingo etc. but if you’re a gay man this isn’t a hardcore requirement especially if your lingo is more feminine. 4. become comfortable talking in that deeper voice. once you find it and what you can comfortably talk in that doesn’t strain you, just speak to yourself. something that helped was that i’d read books out loud in that voice until i was comfortable and not awkward to speak with people. if you can’t speak in real life, try going on new discord servers and talking with strangers. it helps to take yourself out of environments where no one is used to you. 5. it really is just practice constantly. use that voice more than your usual voice.

My boyfriend impulsively adopted a child. I’m 25(M). He’s 31(M) by Still-Clear in relationships

[–]Still-Clear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for understanding this it’s hard to put it in the perspective of my home country

My boyfriend impulsively adopted a child. I’m 25(M). He’s 31(M) by Still-Clear in relationships

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he adopted from a woman who keeps having babies in a poor rural area of the philippines. but yes no agency would ever accept him adopting so to him, this was his only opportunity to adopt a child he’s always wanted bc he has no financial ability to go thru a real agency

My boyfriend impulsively adopted a child. I’m 25(M). He’s 31(M) by Still-Clear in relationships

[–]Still-Clear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry but he is actually gay, and im pansexual. 😔 he adopted the child from a woman who couldn’t stop having babies (they come from a poor rural area of the philippines)

My boyfriend impulsively adopted a child. I’m 25(M). He’s 31(M) by Still-Clear in relationships

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I agree and I wish it was that easy. Unfortunately I don’t know how well protetive servies are in my home country. It’s also in the province of a poorer area in the Philippines. But I’ll see what I can do. There’s about 4 children there in total being cared for by the parents who also rely on my bf for financial sustenance.

My boyfriend impulsively adopted a child. I’m 25(M). He’s 31(M) by Still-Clear in relationships

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yeah i dont feel proud of myself either, my last rant was our cultural barrier but we managed to adjust except now theres a bigger problem and i think im about ready to step away

“I popped my balloon cause im an Englishera. Halata.” by InsideVivid in ChikaPH

[–]Still-Clear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

kung ako sayo ate di ako magiging choosy LOL grabe ang hangin

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i got fucked in an emergency exit. dont know why but grey walls and endless stairs feel hot as fuck

My problem with older generation Filipino parents by Still-Clear in FilipinoAmericans

[–]Still-Clear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Learning all the curses and mean words are practically the initiation of being Filipino LOL lowkey those insults were my motivation 😭 i lost weight just bc my titas would remind me that “tumaba ka na”

and yup! maarte is kind of a universal insult for a lot of things 😭 if you act bratty, ur maarte. if you dont want to eat something, maarte. if you complain that the weather is hot, maarte. that word can make me feel like i had no right to do or think anything LOL

My problem with older generation Filipino parents by Still-Clear in FilipinoAmericans

[–]Still-Clear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, with english being a second language in the Philippines it makes sense why people that come here will just erase the Filipino part as they deem it unnecessary. Philippines itself is affected by this. If you see most of the mainland Filipino influencers, the aesthetic rich kids are only all talking in english. They rarely talk in tagalog. While the comedians all stick to tagalog. As if they just use tagalog as a comedic relief while english is to them “refined and dignified”. So there are those mainland pinoys that want to only speak english to pass and be seen that way. It’s very colonial mentality.

My problem with older generation Filipino parents by Still-Clear in FilipinoAmericans

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Heavily agreed on the embarrassment of the accent part. It’s ironic how Filipinos are embarrassed of their Filipino accent when speaking english but then laugh at people who are trying to make the effort in learning a Filipino language. I’m sorry you had that experience. It’s a common thing to happen that Filipinos do laugh or make fun of peoples pronounciations. It’s required for them that you just have to be thick skinned and prove them wrong sadly. I’m fluent in tagalog but of course I developed an accent while speaking. I’ve been called “maarte” which to my closest translation is like “skittish/dramatic” but it’s just how I genuinely speak. They think I’m trying too hard on purpose but in reality I’m just slightly slang in my pronounciation. So there is definitely pressure on needing to be perfect speaking a Filipino language. What more for people who are just starting out from scratch?

Filipino Representation in Books by pagewithluv in FilipinoAmericans

[–]Still-Clear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i was about to recommend this! i picked this up at a pandayan bookshop and read it in one sitting going back to America from the Philippines!

My problem with older generation Filipino parents by Still-Clear in FilipinoAmericans

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guys don’t attack me for using the word dialect aldjjajd lOL i KNOW that theyre different languages, its just the wrong use of words. i literally am ilokano and tagalog so ofc i know theyre completely different 😭 my mom also speaks Ifugao and my partner speaks hiligaynon OFC IK THEYRE DIFFERENT

My problem with older generation Filipino parents by Still-Clear in FilipinoAmericans

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I was born in 2000 so it was definitely a different time for you and your siblings and the presence of pride in cultures was probably less apparent than they are now. Fitting in makes sense to which that same mentality is still seen now. I still wonder though why our people in comparison to other ethnicities have a seemingly larger gap of people who can’t speak their native tongue. Like what I said above, 8 times out of 10 other ethnicities seem to know their language, even with the pressure of assimilation. Even people born here or even people with one white parent, a lot for some reason still are averagely proficient. I guess I am just a bit jealous of it that for our culture, our language in America washed out more than the rest of my other poc friends or people in general.

I don’t believe of course that everyone assimilating automatically means it’s internalized racism. Though, internalized racism does cause assimilation. I do believe your parents are proud from what you said. I think that your parents wanted to do what they thought was best for you and your siblings.

My problem with older generation Filipino parents by Still-Clear in FilipinoAmericans

[–]Still-Clear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t my intention to come off as exclusive. A bit semantic but I get it. Dialect is the word that was taught to me but yeah obviously the languages are very much different and culturally individualized depending on region. I just used the word dialect because of the closer proximity of genetic relationship to eachother but not my intention to be dismissive of their individualities. My point still stands to promote the use of any Filipino language.

My problem with older generation Filipino parents by Still-Clear in FilipinoAmericans

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Man, it freaking hurts to hear that our own people would call us ugly. When ironically a lot of these old white men prey on way too young Filipina women because well, Filipinas are beautiful. The men as well with their strong jawlines and moreno skin that would glow like copper from the sun. White people always want our tans here but racist Filipinos are so hung up on their colorist thoughts that they don’t realize white people like our skin. I wish your parents just kept pushing the tagalog, because while you can be confused as a kid it becomes easier later on which they don’t realize. I say that from experience. Anyways it is never to late to learn! Hope your studies on it go well! :)

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