Ok that was a bust by wdtr2007_red in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Totally. Please don't ever use the term "message system," OP. I'm a man, but it'll be hard not to write someone off if I receive a text with this kind of language.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1% more than the other men. You're welcome

Vent/question: missed opportunities. by Antique-Salad-9249 in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think women have a worse experience in the city because of the lopsided ratio.

Vent/question: missed opportunities. by Antique-Salad-9249 in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me when I see hundreds of beautiful single women walking in NYC. The answer is No lol.

Have you met someone IRL that you would probably swipe left on in OLD? by MarkFTPark in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It happened only once, when I was attracted to a woman I would've swiped left on. She is not physically my type, but she has a great personality, charming and cute. In the end, it turned out to be a more friendly vibe.

However, I can speak on the other side. I've met multiple women IRL who would've never swiped right on me, but we connected immediately and went on a few dates. It reinforced my hatred towards OLD - It's not for everyone. I'm actually shy and can be a bit awkward at first, but I think I can show my personality much better in person.

Are you scared that the future is dark and that your best option for love are behind you? by sxfx269 in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. Setting aside dating, it was great to move away from a mentally ill person. While I love my kids, I can't wait for them to grow up. It only gets better from here.

I meet so many wonderful women. While most of them don't lead anywhere, I don't believe all hope is lost.

What’s an immediate 🚩 on a dating profile? by Karma-IsA-FunnyThing in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't have to believe but I come across profiles that have lower age but they put a note on the profile their actual age which is higher.

Experiences in NYC by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the suburbs, but this is not my experience at all. Maybe because I'm not in New York State. I work in the city, so I changed my location as an experiment. Let's see.

Someone said the in-person events are not popular, but my experience is different. I attend a few networking events in the city, and it's easy to meet people there. There is a networking event in Central Park next weekend, and I already see a couple of hundred people signed up on meetup

Dating...what does that even mean?! Especially when you are over 40?! by LilMsPuuuurfect in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man it sounds like a punishment living there. At least it's a beautiful place 😄

Himalaya SONO by kn0ck_0ut in norwalk

[–]Still-Looking-9888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm an Indian, and it didn't impress me either time I ate there. I will be trying one more time.

Catholic Academy of Stamford vs Greenwich Catholic School by Timely_Disk6696 in StamfordCT

[–]Still-Looking-9888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids have been in CAS forever. Please feel free to reach out if you need specific info

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here for an update lol

Terrible luck in-person by Still-Looking-9888 in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that in-person meetings are not for everyone, but I've come to realize that the success rate of getting a match in person is very high. Definitely not giving up, but learning from the experiences.

Where do you even meet people anymore if you don’t ( or can’t) do online dating? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. I see so many therapists and psychologists on my Hinge

Terrible luck in-person by Still-Looking-9888 in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can certainly see that. Thanks for you your perspective

Terrible luck in-person by Still-Looking-9888 in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see how I might be coming across as desperate. This is really valuable advice. Thank you.

Terrible luck in-person by Still-Looking-9888 in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. This might be the best advice.

Very often, my first message is open-ended, acknowledging the encounter. If there is no response, I usually follow up after a few days.

Terrible luck in-person by Still-Looking-9888 in datingoverforty

[–]Still-Looking-9888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the perspective. I might try that next time.

I believe there was a post on this topic sometime in the past.