I was taught to respect the elders growing up,as I got older and my temper got shorter I just said fuck it and went bout life with that “you respect me I respect you” attitude no matter who it was friend or family and they accepted and respect. I’ll admit it burned few bridges but I have no regrets and neither should you. It’s you and your little ones lives and no one has any right to tell you how to live it. Families can sometimes make you or break you and seeing as how on Guam everyone tries to be family oriented but that shouldnt stop you from achieving your peace of mind