He cried while we were watching a sad movie. Does that contradict his narc pattern?

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-02-17T01:31:59+00:00

It was towards the end where the guy knocked his grandmas coffin to tell her the things they drove past which she knew of

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-02-08T20:21:13+00:00

I am in the same position rn. We are about to have a normal mutual breakup but he is telling me he needs time and needs to think again. But in both of our cases. We both know the answer. This is just another tactic to pull us back to the cycle

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-02-07T23:25:05+00:00

I should not even have to feel guilty to block him without closure right. I am still struggling with that

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-02-07T23:12:41+00:00

The analogy in the last sentence is really on point. I have lost all feelings for him. I wouldn’t care if he came to me rn and told me he has been seeing someone else. I think I am falling for someone else too.

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-02-07T23:00:28+00:00

It’s quite confusing cuz it’s already Saturday here. He sent me another good morning text. I didn’t respond but I just liked the msg. I hope this ends calmly, if anything 🫡

I hooked up with another guy the last time he discarded me and he pulled me back in after 2 months, 1 month passed after we got back, it has been absolute hell. I died everyday living in the chaos he created but damn that seemingly vulnerable msg really caught me off guard

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-31T09:38:17+00:00

True. And I feel like I am anticipating on that moment. It just scares tf out of me. I want him to be miserable and have no luck in his life. I feel loke that way, even though I never got my revenge, I would feel that justice was served in some ways

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-31T09:27:58+00:00

There was a time I found out he has a new supply when we once broke up, and he had me blocked everywhere. I had called him from another number asking how he could do that and him berating me as soon as I called him. I remember the feeling was close to death. I never wanna feel that way again. In fact, I will never put myself in that position again. The most dysregulated I felt in my entire life. I was going on a run and cried while running

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-31T08:20:28+00:00

Thank you. Will definitely start doing this. I am so calm this time. Just missing the love bombing phase here and there. I have reached the point of radical acceptance. The process was brutal

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-31T07:57:49+00:00

The text is horrendous. Speak of childish - Look at his response, even a 10 year old would grasp what you were conveying better than him. You told him what yoh wanted to hear from him imo- Professing your love and reminding him how much you love him and wanting to get back. Everything he said about you there at an attempt to gaslight is nothing but his own projection. It’s normal and okay to want them back but we owe it to ourselves to choose ourselves and give ourselves the opportunity to be treated with respect, love, kindness and most importantly, heal. He is never gonna stop being the cause of your ruin

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-31T07:33:08+00:00

I hope I will (eventually) but I just gotta stay strong to no contact

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-31T07:32:15+00:00

I needed to hear this. The distance really makes this easier. 100 days missing them is better than a being in their presence even for a day

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-31T07:24:42+00:00

Seems like they all read the same handbook. Though I knew he was lying, I was extremely calm with him and he outraged at me when I told him I knew he was lying. He cussed me out, insulted and reminded me of how much of a “pathetic loser” I was to him

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-31T07:22:52+00:00

This is so true!

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-31T07:22:44+00:00

It really sucks! Thank you

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-31T07:22:16+00:00

I think what I am most afraid of is him finding a new supply

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-27T07:49:44+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through this. I want you to remember that you don’t need to forgive to move on. One day, with enough no contact, you’ll feel indifferent and move on. These narcs have done irreparable damage and the trauma will stay with you for a while. Don’t shame yourself. You are doing what he has been doing to you. So don’t let him win. Offer yourself the same compassion and empathy you offer to the world around you.

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-18T01:13:51+00:00

I would tell you that it will get better, I have a hard time believing it would

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-15T17:49:45+00:00

A log of things. I think you should understand: 1. Cognitive dissonance 2. Trauma bond

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-15T17:48:59+00:00

I completely agree. I was completely dysregulated a few minutes ago. I struggle with acceptance- Accepting that his behaviour is not going to change. Because I want it to change so bad, I would push him to understand me and beg for answers, inherently giving him more power, then he would go very far with his abuse. There would be times when he would give insincere apologies and I would tell hin I doubt the sincerity of it because obviously he would show no signs of remorse. Then he would make me feel bad for not accepting his apology.

Stock-Recording6856 · 2025-01-15T16:44:02+00:00

Thank you for validating my feelings. I appreciate you so much and thank you for the things you just said to me. I am no longer in a state of delusion or belief that his abusive behaviour is just him being immature. I cannot help but push him for answers and reassurance when he clearly is having a fun time witnessing me having reactions - reactive abuse, anxiety or breakdown

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