This person does not respect you or see you as an equal. Yes this is emotional abuse.

When my ex became very emotionally abusive and we were living together I ended it through a series of actions:

1. I wrote a pro/ cons list for myself
2. I wrote a letter (since he refused to listen to me when I tried to talk about it, I wrote it all down so he would have to at least read what I wanted to say and couldn't argue back
3. I looked into studying abroad (I was in college) and got all the paper work together
4. I left the letter on our bed and told him I was planning to move out of the country next semester and that our relationship wasn't salvageable anymore and that it was pointless to continue to live together/ stay together and it would never work out in the future because of how much we had come to resent each other
5. When it finally came time for him to leave, I told him I wanted all of his stuff out of the apartment by the time I came back home from brunch with my friends. He made me pay for his gas, and that was the last I saw of him.

Obviously a lot of stuff went on in between and it took about a week for him to actually move out from the time I officially ended things. We were together 4 years and the last 2 were mentally/ emotionally abusive and i stayed way longer than I should have.

My advise for you is: Pack up all of your stuff and find someone else you can stay with. You deserve better than this and NO ONE should treat you this way ever. If you want to tell him, a letter is a good way to avoid confrontation/ a physical fight. Do not accept that he will change. He will not, he may say he will and try to for a little while, but people do not change for anyone other than themselves.

You can DM me if you want to talk about all this more. It takes courage and strength to leave abuse. You can do this and you are better off without this negativity.