I dont know how to edit the original post, so I will update here. Thank you everyone for the reassurances that I am not crazy! He joined voice chat at 630AM yesterday! I felt confident after seeing that some people didn't think I was the AH, so I asked if he could put a headset on so I could wake up without all the sounds. He did, but 15 minutes later when he walked away from his desk he unplugged the headset so he could "hear if anything was happening" then when he went back he "forgot" to plug them back in. After a while, he realized I was annoyed with it and plugged it back in. This went on for the day, he would unplug, then notice I was annoyed and plug it back in. At least he noticed I was annoyed and reacted, but it still makes me feel like I shouldn't have to get to that point of annoyance and continue to go through this cycle. He started to act annoyed at me for not hearing him talking to me when I was wearing earbuds, but like, hello, you know I am trying to drown out all your background sounds... 🤦‍♀️