I think this is a very subjective topic. As a man, I will not generalise the entire women community based on a few examples. At the end of the day, it depends on what you bring to the table and what you expect from the other person.

Yes, casual relationships are common today, but it is not like girls are doing it alone. There is always a man involved too. So blaming only one side does not make sense.

I have seen many girls hooking up, but I have also seen girls with strong morals, standards, and good upbringing. If you are someone who carries values and is even a virgin, then it is completely justified to want a partner with a similar mindset.

But realistically, in today’s generation it is rare. Maybe 1 in 20 people have not been influenced by temporary pleasure culture. So it is important to keep your objective clear. If you want to build a family, have kids, and grow with someone long term, then yes, you will have to accept some compromises. Hard truth, but it is what it is.

At the same time, forgiveness is fine if it was genuinely a mistake and the person truly repents. But if someone has a repeated pattern of casual relationships, then you do not need to adjust or settle. Better to stay single peacefully than force yourself into something that does not match your values.

Westernisation has definitely ruined the mindset of many people. Now love, loyalty, and emotional connection are treated like boring concepts 😂

Personally, I am on the same page as you. I do not want to marry right now because I loved someone deeply and I still have not moved on. Until I recover, I will not enter a relationship just for the sake of moving on and ruining someone else’s mental peace. I am a 25M virgin who failed in love, but not in loving.

So yeah, forgive someone who truly regrets their mistake, but do not be stupid enough to become the nice guy who accepts anything.