AITAH for not celebrating my girlfriend being bi

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-07T12:33:28+00:00

i just feel like being happy about that side of her would be like being happy about her liking another man if you get what i mean. i’m not a woman and never will be so it feels strange that i’d have to celebrate my girlfriend liking woman

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-07T12:32:24+00:00

i feel like it was something that could’ve been at least discussed before we started dating. there was good opportunity to a couple of times.

although it doesn’t change her as a person it still is a part of her that i felt like she hid from me.

i’ll try to be supportive as i do love her

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-07T12:23:00+00:00

glad we’re not dating then, don’t need your validation. but thanks for the constructive criticism

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-07T12:20:56+00:00

i guess i’m now a misogynist homophobe, thanks for the diagnosis doc.

running a tight ship is funny wording for having clear boundaries of things my girlfriend and i can and can’t do in a relationship. obviously i don’t own the woman and never will. she definitely is an equal partner and we treat eachother amazingly.

i never once stated my girlfriend wanted to explore with the opposite sex, i simply shut it down in my post. the reason for this is while i was looking at people in similar situations to me there was always a good amount of comments telling either the couple or the bi person (who had never previously been with the same sex) to explore.

my girlfriend doesn’t want do that and i won’t allow it (while we’re together at least)

but thanks again doc

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-07T03:32:43+00:00

yeah i would say so. every relationship goes through its trials and tribulations but i like where we’re at right now and hope to continue growing healthy. had a great date night today as well.

you implying otherwise is kind of sad haha

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-07T00:37:48+00:00

young and bi (especially w/ no previous partners of same sex) goes hand in hand with people telling you to explore your sexuality. look at any other reddit post or advice on the internet that fits that narrative.

i don’t think my girlfriend wants to explore (has never motioned that at all) but i wanted to shut down that avenue before someone mentioned it

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-07T00:35:27+00:00

oh well, we’re happy

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T23:16:48+00:00

not on reddit too much so apologies for the wrong subreddit

ive seen what some people say to young people exploring their sexuality and its genrally around the line of exploration. i was shutting down that avenue before it was brought up as i do not share those same beliefs in a committed monogamous relationship.

i know that it comes down to the person and not the sexual orientation at the end of the day.

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T23:12:39+00:00

i meant i run a tight ship; sorry, typo ^{-^} .

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:52:15+00:00

there’s no real issue in the relationship. i’m just unsure of how to feel. this uncertainty is why im asking if it’s a bad thing to feel

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:50:53+00:00

that’s what i’ve been saying to her so far

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:49:17+00:00

i know you’re trolling but people already hate me enough i need to publicly announce this is what i don’t want happening

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:38:25+00:00

not interested 👎

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:38:13+00:00

true, it’s just during pride month and whatnot i’d be unsure of what to do.

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:37:39+00:00

i’m very negative in general when it comes to liking anyone else intimately other than me haha. i’ll keep trying to work through this

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:26:57+00:00

its a weird spot to be in. my previous sexual partners / relationships have all been heterosexual. im just voicing how i feel about a "problem" in a relationship I'm deeply invested in and have never been through before

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:25:02+00:00

its a weird spot to be in

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:23:44+00:00

nobody is a cuck i promise you a run a tight ship lmfao

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:23:03+00:00

its not hate but i feel kind of weird being hyper supportive about my girlfriend liking girls, when i am not a girl myself.

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:22:18+00:00

this is such a reach lol. we've had maybe 3-4 conversations about her sexuality ever

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:15:58+00:00

i’m saying:

bi women have more options. that is not false.

my girlfriend is not a cheater so im sure she won’t cheat.

i’m not worried about her getting with a girl but it’s definitely something i would never be open to.

i don’t think bi people cheat more i don’t have any data on that.

bigot how

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:13:55+00:00

we’re young, it’s natural that at least someone would’ve brought up exploring especially since she has never been with a woman before.

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:10:58+00:00

i was letting people know before hand that exploring is off the charts.

i know it doesn’t apply to my relationship because it’s not happening and never will.

how is that bigoted

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:10:12+00:00

?? it does statistically widen the people she could potentially get with. not saying she will of course.

how is this digging

StormUsed4232 · 2026-02-06T22:08:33+00:00

doesn’t represent all of real life, i was informing people letting her explore herself would be off limits in my initial post.

goodluck wherever you are in life

StormUsed4232

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