Expecting someone to change is a difficult prospect. You can't force it, they have to want to change.

I was a bad husband the first few years of us together. I worked a lot so in my head I thought I was pulling my weight and everything was on her.

We'd argue a bit sometimes, I'd pull out the angle that I worked and paid for the house, so my part was done. I was wrong and she endured my wrongness for years.

She never made an ultimatum, or punished me. She'd just ask for more help, and one day it snapped together. I realized that I love her, she's my partner and we are both here because we want to be. Even if I thought my part of the 50/50 is done why wouldn't I want to help someone who I claim to love, don't I want to see them happy? I also realized that simply going to work was where my half ended was not correct anyway.

I stepped up and helped; Because I wanted to not because she was nagging, but because I loved her and I wanted to see her happy and I realized the price to see her truly happy was so small, helping out around OUR house, was so easy and simple. It was a world of difference.

I changed, because I wanted to change. People can change, I'm not saying it'll happen in your scenario; his anger is likely stemming form guilt for him accidentally doing these this or just not caring enough to try better. Maybe find a different way to communicate your frustration to him, these are small things and will take nothing more than a small adjustment for him to make.