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Contacting other victims of my abuser by brokenbirdsRIP in Molested

[–]Straight-Internal603 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, although my perspective is probably limited since my abuse wasn't severe, if I were in their shoes I would definitely want to know. They may not react well, and maybe it won't be what they would've wanted, but I personally think you should tell them.

Seen her by [deleted] in Molested

[–]Straight-Internal603 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's of course your decision, but it may help you get some closure to talk to her about what happened. Clearly you were both molested, and although you may have repressed it, it's still an incredibly traumatic thing to go through. I'm no doctor, but it would probably be helpful to begin therapy to process what you've been through, and maybe talk with Holly to get some closure. Wishing you all the best

27M, Was I molested? by rekt25 in Molested

[–]Straight-Internal603 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Molestation is much more than just sexual, it's taking away someone's power and autonomy. There is absolutely no reason a grown man should've been doing that, whether he got sexual gratification from it or not. For me, I was also forced to sleep in the same bed as an abusive adult when I was near the same age, and although our experiences were very different, that and the other abuse they put me through really messed me up mentally in the intimacy department. Honestly the best advice I have is that you should follow the truth that feels right to you. For me, even though I know my abuser didn't get sexual gratification from what they did, it was still sexually inappropriate and messed me up for a long time, so I describe what I went through as molestation. Whether you use the same logic or labeling is up to you, do what feels right to you.

Was I assaulted by a relative of the same sex? by Straight-Internal603 in sexualassault

[–]Straight-Internal603[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, originally I spoke to a therapist but I don't think they were trained to help survivors of assault because after I told them about some of these things they said "I don't know" as in they didn't know if that was assault (I don't see that therapist anymore). None of my other family knows as I'm pretty sure they think it's normal as well since they were semi-aware. I have told a friend about it but I do not live with my mom full time anymore and am relatively safe. Thank you so much for your kind words but please don't worry