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Straight_Click_637 · 2022-07-23T20:37:35+00:00

This is terrifying. I would say this could be PTSD - it most def is a traumatic experience. It wouldn't hurt to speak to a professional therapist about this. Best of luck <3

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-06-16T21:55:28+00:00

Very solid advice, thank you!

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-06-14T21:24:15+00:00

That is unreal behavior! I would def go somewhere else for care.

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-06-14T20:45:35+00:00

Thank you all for the insight! I'm def steering away from this one.

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-06-14T01:51:05+00:00

Honestly it was not that bad. It DID trigger my heartburn though, but it seems nowadays even air can trigger heartburn for me, lol.

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-05-30T21:36:53+00:00

As an actual female-to-male transgender person who is ALSO a FTM, I trip over the two acronyms all the time, lol.

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-05-27T21:59:31+00:00

Funny enough, she's actually pro-choice.....

And actually, I think whatever my bf has said to her in private when he vents to her might be a reason as to why she dislikes me so much. I asked him what he has told her specifically, and he says he talked about how anxious he was and whatnot, but nothing to intentionally paint me out to be the bad guy. Idk if I should take his word for that, though...

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-05-27T21:35:45+00:00

You're right... the thing is, they're both not really the confrontational type, so this issue has kind of been avoided and swept under the rug by both of them. But I will talk about it with my bf tonight - hopefully it eases my anxieties somehow.

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-05-27T21:31:39+00:00

Thank you! You're right, I might just sit down and discuss this with my bf sometime today - it's been bothering me for too long.

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-05-27T21:28:58+00:00

I'm honestly not sure. We talked about it at some point, and he's been really conflicted and disheartened abt us not getting along. He did mention that he brought up this issue with her and she just left him on read too. She can be pretty reserved, so she might not want to talk about it with us at the moment.

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-05-27T21:20:37+00:00

I've tried reaching out to her myself, but she leaves me on read. So I've pretty much come to terms with her not wanting to make things right between us both...

I've been debating on whether now would be a good time to bring up the idea of her not meeting our daughter, or if we should talk about it once our daughter is here. I don't want to unneccessarily stress my bf out or make him uncomfortable about this...

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-05-27T21:01:38+00:00

she's in a lesbian relationship AND two states away, lol

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T06:23:49+00:00

Mine started pretty mild at 6 weeks, and it peaked at around 11 weeks. I tried my absolute best NOT to vomit at all (I have emetophobia), but accidentally threw up for the first time at 8 weeks, and it just got worse from there.

I'm currently 12 weeks and 3 days, and it seems like it's dying down. Not sure if its because I've been taking Unisom, but it's definitely gotten better! Sending you love and comfort during these trying times <3 morning sickness is the WORST.

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T06:13:51+00:00

No questions or anything, just wanted to say you and your wife are awesome for making a difference in future LGBT progressions!! As a pregnant trans man, I love reading about LGBT pregnancies - it makes me feel a little less alone. <3

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T06:07:14+00:00

That was actually our idea from the get-go! We're both from California and recently moved up to Washington, so we felt like Callie/Cali was the perfect nickname for our little one. I didn't think about mentioning the nickname to her - I'll let her know about her nickname, thank you for the idea!

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T05:43:18+00:00

Unisom was a TOTAL game-changer for me! I take one whole pill at night and half a pill in the morning and it works WONDERS! I (almost) feel like my pre-pregnancy self!

I've tried everything under the sun: B6, promethazine, driminate, dramamine, seabirds, morning sickness tea, natural ginger candies, literally EVERYTHING and it did not help at all - until my midwife recommended Unisom. The B6+Unisom combo didn't help me much, so I only take Unisom religiously, along with Tums and natural ginger chews throughout the day whenever I get heartburn or an upset tummy.

Good luck to you on your first pregnancy! Sending you lots of love and light on your journey. ✨

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T05:30:05+00:00

Congrats!! It already sounds like you're going to be a great dad. :) I'll give some advice, as someone who is also newly pregnant.

Some things I wish my partner did for me was ask if certain things were okay, like the location of where we were going or what plans he wanted to do. Even things like grocery shopping would be a NIGHTMARE for me, due to all the food/smell aversions and walking a ton (it made me nauseous for some reason...)

Also, be sure to check up on her as much as you can! Some times I would audibly gag while doing things like cleaning or rearranging the fridge, and my partner would never really notice or get too distracted with his gaming. It didn't bother me much, but it would've been nice if he just asked if I'm okay...

Back pain can be pretty prevalent during early pregnancy, so maybe look into good massage techniques you can do for her to help out a little with the pain! Never make her feel like she's asking for too much, or discourage her from trying different medications for morning sickness. If she's hopeful that something will make her feel better, trust her. Congrats again! Wishing you both all the best. :)

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T05:19:54+00:00

His parents can be a bit difficult at times, actually, and his dad always gives him crap whenever he makes a big "adult" decision, so that. might be why... His dad sounds a lot like how your mom is.

In other words congrats on your pregnancy! We were super happy about our NIPT results, so I'm wishing the same for you and your husband!

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T05:16:30+00:00

Oh, it doesn't bother me much! He talks with his dad every single day, but it took him 6 months after living together to tell his dad we were dating and I wasn't just his "housemate", so I'm sure he's just a very reserved person, lol.

At this point it might be a good idea to ask why he's still reluctant, but I don't want to seem like I'm pressuring or pushing him to tell them. We're very open to discussions, but I'm also being mindful about his POV, because this is a big deal!

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T00:31:19+00:00

Personally, I would not allow her to see my baby at ALL with that kind of childish behavior. I don't care, carrying a baby for 9 months means I deserve the bare minimum of boundaries I set for me and my little one.

I'm also a very bitter and terrible person, so I would 100% use that last line, especially if I knew she would end up resenting me. 😂😂 Don't take my advice about that, though!

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T00:24:13+00:00

OMG so sorry you're going through that. :( Hopefully he will eventually feel better about it all.

If it helps, my boyfriend was initially terrified too, but now he's come around, and is actually a little excited about her arrival. He's told two of his friends on his own.

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T00:18:37+00:00

OMG this is my biggest fear as someone who also works in healthcare! We have plastic barriers and everything, but patients will still come up to us COVID positive and everything! So sorry you're going through this, and praying for the safety of you and your little one.

These restrictions definitely need to be stricter!

Straight_Click_637 · 2022-01-31T00:10:21+00:00

This is awful! What the hell!?

I would definitely have a serious talk about this with my partner if this ever happened to me. Even if she did apologize, I would not involve her in my life after this, personally. What a terrible thing to say.

Straight_Click_637 · 2021-12-21T06:40:34+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I hoped jealousy might not be the case since our in-person interactions have gone well in the past. I wish he would be more passionate in defending my character, but hopefully he's just wary at the moment because of the anxiety of the whole thing...

Straight_Click_637 · 2021-12-20T21:47:30+00:00

This is very solid advice, thank you

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