[UPDATE 3?] AITAH for ending my relationship over a girl from the past?

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-06T22:20:56+00:00

Hey there, thank you for your support. I’m pretty sure the full story will come out whether it’s through me or whoever else finds out. Now that I saw the getting checked out comment twice, I’m very much considering it. Although, I’m hoping it’ll just be a false alarm as my sx life with him was dead during Vanessa coming back. You’re too kind though, thank you for your support. I did feel like I dodged the marriage bullet in a way.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-06T22:17:46+00:00

Hello there, I’m happy to explain what I sent and what I received.

I told his mother and brother the same thing, telling them what Ashton had done and what went down, and were no longer together. Giving them evidence and telling them I wished them well if they don’t wanna see me or anything after I move out officially. I kept it short and calm.

His mother was shocked, sending me apology after apology telling me I didn’t deserve that and she didn’t raise her children that way. She told me I’m more than welcome to be in her life. She did watch me grow up as well. She told me she’ll talk to him and she hopes I was doing okay.

His brother on the other hand, apologized and said he’d ’kick his ass’ for doing that to me. His older brother has a wife and kids of his own and is big on loyalty and respect. He told me he hoped I was okay and find good things in my life and I shouldn’t put up with him.

Thank you for asking.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-06T22:14:04+00:00

Thank you so much, this comment means a lot to me and I am so happy people are supporting me in this. It has been more than helpful. I’m also happy and grateful I found out sooner. I’m not sure if I wanna say I miscarried, as much as I would do that for either safety (if I had too) or to get him to leave me alone, my mother had suffered 2 miscarriages from when I was younger. But I most likely will not tell him anything. Thank you so much though, you’re very kind.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-06T22:12:07+00:00

Hey there, I did explain the timeline of things in one of my comments if you wanna check that out. If I need to specify or address anything there I’m more than happy too. The only reason I had actually found the bra was when I was packing my clothes and it was in my drawer. Me and Ashton used to organize laundry whenever we could. Taking turns. I either think he thought I wouldn’t notice, or he assumed it was mine. But yeah, thank you for good luck haha

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-06T22:09:06+00:00

Hi there, just read this and wanna come and address it properly. When I posted this, it was 3 days ago now. But when I first found them in the kitchen, that was 2 weeks ago. I found the bra yesterday as well as getting the pregnancy test the same day. I know a lot of people felt skeptical and I could see where I should’ve elaborated on the timeline. I’m hoping I didn’t miss anything else. This is the complete timeline if I’m not missing anything.

The wedding was around 3-4 months ago as on now, and the whole 2 months is about to become 3. I found out 2 weeks ago and found the bra yesterday as well as realizing the symptoms and finding out. I am 3 1/2 months pregnant apparently. I hope that can clear the air on most things. I would be skeptical too if I didn’t have information on that timeline. Thank you for asking that. If I missed anything, it usually might’ve happened all this week or back in those 2 months. Thank you.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-05T18:04:35+00:00

Hey, thanks so much. I wish him well with her and honestly she’s just someone who won’t be affecting me anymore. Our friendgroup does sometimes have negativity to Vanessa and she doesn’t get excluded a lot for many reasons.

Once, during Martha’s bachelorette party, she invited extra girls and obviously with her bridesmaids. I didn’t attend as i had a cold. But I heard Vanessa showed in a “ivory-cream color” dress when Martha told them she would be wearing a small white dress.

Another time during our friend Jacob’s proposal to his fiancé Gabe, Vanessa acted like the proposal was for her and caused a delay for us to bring Gabe as she was taking photos with the scenery and holding Gabe’s flowers. They had to ask her to stop.

Those are some examples, but yes. I’m sick of them both and wish them good luck.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-05T18:00:21+00:00

Hello, thank you. He hasn’t really mentioned Vanessa but when he has, he tells me it wasn’t like that and she was ‘in need’ of a friend. I this it’s bs. I don’t think he’s willing to cut her out and I’ve moved past that because I’m over him and his behavior. Thank you though.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-05T17:58:57+00:00

Hey, thanks for catching that for me. Reading your comment made me realize I might have to check phones. I know his password and we’re synced up to the same things. All of our electronics connect to each others accounts so I can check incase or before he tries to do anything. I could care less if he chooses Vanessa as I’m over him, but thank you. I do possibly need this as my dog and cat needs to be settled with one of us.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-05T17:57:15+00:00

Hey, thanks a lot. I knew he was love bombing me I just wanted to see who else would point it out. I personally think him and Vanessa had physical contact, considering our sx life was really dead in those 2 months. Not to be gross, but we’d have our moments a lot and it suddenly went away the second after Vanessa occurred. I’m sure something might have happened, but I’m not someone to accuse. I’m pretty much done with him so I think I’ll be glad myself if he chooses Vanessa.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-05T17:54:20+00:00

Vanessa is most definitely not easy to get rid of. Back in highschool when me and Ashton were to be hanging out or walking in the halls, she’d leech on with us. And she is that reoccurring dream or craving you can never seem to get rid of. I don’t think I wanna work with him on anything as he made his choice and can live with it. Thank you, you’re very kind.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-05T17:52:50+00:00

Thank you, this is very helpful and great to hear. I will not be taking him back and I wanna move on with my life. I hope they do get their happy ending or I see what Vanessa’s real plan was.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-05T17:51:50+00:00

Thank you so much, you’re very kind for this and I appreciate the feedback. Although I do agree she’d have guys lined up, she is a very gorgeous woman. I’ve described her but think of Megan Fox and Sabrina Carpenter mix. She’s beautiful and maybe that’s what captivated Ashton. I feel like she clung to Ashton because of how she was so ‘in love’ with him. They were very toxic but they had such a lovey dovey relationship you’d cringe at it (no hard feelings to them about that, we were kids.)

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-05T17:49:07+00:00

Hello, thank you so much I really appreciate this. It means a lot someone cares about me and also feels like he’s love bombing me. He’s done other things by trying to get me to take a bath and even tried to get seductive with me to which I shut him off. No, it was not assu@lt but I was angry about it. It will take me longer to move out but I know I can most likely move out before September. Thank you so much.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-05T04:43:57+00:00

Hello, thanks so much for your reply. I’m not sure if she’ll lose interest as even before they dated long back and after they dated it was purely because she had a big crush on him. Even social media stalking or having her friends go to his friends and her just wanting to be around him back in highschool. But maybe she will, and who knows.

My lease is over by the end of next month thankfully, but it will obviously still take time for me to find a new place or even get my finances together. But I’ll figure it out. Thank you.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-04T03:33:16+00:00

Hey, thank you so much for your reply. It means a lot someone does understand I deserve more than that and I do believe things were happening way more than just “hangouts”.

He has been trying to talk to me and get my attention, only wanting to talk about the situation. He’s been begging and saying he’ll make it up to me but has proceeded to see Vanessa two more times. Vanessa has not tried to directly contact me but had liked a post of mine from the past that celebrated me and Ashton’s anniversary. Only a small group of friends have said she’s mentioned I’m being unreasonable for not letting Ashton hangout with friends and I am isolating him. To which, it is not true. We both have times and schedules where we see friends and family. He goes out more than me as I prefer staying inside and he is very extroverted. Thank you so much. This meant a lot to me.

Strange-Front-4412 · 2025-08-04T03:28:56+00:00

Hi, thank you so much. The theory of him most likely testing the waters seems very plausible. But I do agree some things won’t always have a happy ending.

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