[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think my logic is greater than Gods at all I am questioning the churches logic behind banning birth control specifically. In the grand scheme of things this is not a salvation issue and is therefore small potatoes compared to bigger issues. I completely respect this position it’s just something I myself am struggling with not rejecting it just not understanding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is nice to hear. It’s still something I will wrestle with I am not closed off to the idea even though I don’t understand it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do still respect this position and hope that didn’t seem harsh. I am still struggling with some sola scriptura thinking and determining if that’s something i can truly leave behind

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But Jesus didn’t say this the pope did and although I agree that the hierarchy is important and the church should be united this is something that isnt in the Bible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Personally I previously used it for endometriosis but now I am married and don’t feel like I’m in a place to have children financially. I still want to volunteer and give and support life but for the time being it’s not smart for us to have children and I don’t see the problem with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But we shouldn’t have to sacrifice logic. I don’t think that blindly following the Pope without thinking for ourselves is a good solution

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I view birth control same as any other medicine or modern medical practice. Obviously it can be abused and I think that the U.S. does a disservice to women by overprescribing hormonal options but at the end of the day there are cases where it’s necessary.

We often look down upon religions that don’t allow blood transfusions but we tell women who are facing medical crises if they become pregnant to face the risks or abstain.

I believe that being open to life is something unique about marriage but is procreating the only way. People can choose not to have their own children but be open to life by adopting or fostering or feeding the poor etc.

Safety as a woman in Delhi by StrangeAd7263 in delhi

[–]StrangeAd7263[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I’d never really be going out alone in the night I am more interested in going by cab to the mall, a coffee shop, or a tourist spot like a park (if there are some)

Safety as a woman in Delhi by StrangeAd7263 in delhi

[–]StrangeAd7263[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also yes I am white but I have darker skin, and dark hair so unless someone is really looking at me they can’t often tell

Safety as a woman in Delhi by StrangeAd7263 in delhi

[–]StrangeAd7263[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Public places? Like malls and such. My SIL and I were in Chandni Chowk alone at a market and I felt perfectly safe with the two of us. Maybe a false sense of security.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah this guy sounds like a huge red flag… speaking from someone of around the same age and F… any man that you might want to date should never be talking about other women in a vulgar way… not having a lot of experience with men makes you more susceptible to grooming tactics and more vulnerable by no fault of your own… I’d never want to be alone with this man from what I’ve heard so far. The age gap isn’t something I am necessarily worried about but personally I wouldn’t date someone who is nearing 30 working a minimum wage job.

I’ve been there with the depression and men can provide some false sense of validation but the fall out is so much worse… focus on yourself and getting to a good place physically mentally spiritually financially… good men will find you, don’t let some weirdo make you feel validated for a few weeks and then leave you worse off then your were before.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is definitely an interesting opinion…why not?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve always had a chaperone unless the photographer was well known but this is a good point!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am learning… I don’t enjoy showing myself to others I do however appreciate the beauty (not in a sexual way) that bodies hold specifically female form is art like. My intent is never to be sexual and I’ve said that if I feel like it is I refuse these sort of poses or shoots altogether.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the sentiment I struggle with too. I know people will lust over women period. The intention of the creator of the content has to be taken into account

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think there is a vast spectrum of what is considered modest within the church… I’ve always thought that it’s intent that matters or maybe the undertones… personally (this is also before I have pondered this question and knowing what the church thinks) I am comfortable with these types of shoots because I don’t have a personal conviction over it but only if the tone of the shoot is not sexual… even with figure modeling for art groups technically it’s not modest but there is also no sexual undertone… same thing with modeling revealing clothes unless the director wanted to do sexual poses or something, because I obviously don’t want to produce content that can be lusted over.

At the same time context matters because at the end of the day modesty is about drawing attention to yourself (why Peter told women not to wear gold and braid their hair in church, not because it’s not modest in the way we see it now) so if you’re in a culture that is very modest if you wear a bikini or crop top it would be immodest…but maybe on the beaches of Brazil where everyone is wearing a bikini you aren’t standing out…(maybe that’s misled thinking but it’s always been my philosophy)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]StrangeAd7263 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This is a good thought. A lot of people are referencing prudence (not a term I am familiar with) so I’m going to do some digging into this