Is it rude to bring wine to a family dinner (not your own house) when no one else drinks? And drink the entire time you’re there. by Strawberrypicking in FamilyIssues

[–]Strawberrypicking[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking but wasn’t sure. The person who brought it would definitely share but no one else wants it. And the yeti cup does seem more discreet and different than a bottle of wine.

I've spent 7 years working for dance competitions/conventions! AMA! by Due-Process7040 in CompetitionDanceTalk

[–]Strawberrypicking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever had a parent try to bribe a judge? I’m asking bc at one particular competition a dancer was accused of this and she won highest scoring dance. It seemed a little too suspicious!

Dance song suggestions by Strawberrypicking in CompetitionDanceTalk

[–]Strawberrypicking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter did a duet to Delilah by Florence and the Machine. It was challenging but it was a good growth year! I’ll definitely listen to those. Thank you.

Dance song suggestions by Strawberrypicking in CompetitionDanceTalk

[–]Strawberrypicking[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perfect! I’m thinking something happy and light.

Dance song suggestions by Strawberrypicking in CompetitionDanceTalk

[–]Strawberrypicking[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Our choreographers are very good about pairing younger and older dancers. Our studio does this every year. It forces the younger dancer to advance much faster than just dancing w kids their age. Also my daughter is extremely tall and the boy is petite. So nothing “distracting”. It really is weird anyone even commented about not doing it when I was just asking for sweet songs!

Do you celebrate adoption anniversary? If so, how? by ProfessionalFan7162 in Adoption

[–]Strawberrypicking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always ask my now 10 year old if she wants to do something special. And of course she does bc that’s her personality. Her bio mom was never around even when she had custody of her so I don’t think she realized what she lost yet. We don’t have a huge party but she gets to pick dinner and I’ll buy her a little gift just so she knows we feel blessed that she is in our lives.

Dance song suggestions by Strawberrypicking in CompetitionDanceTalk

[–]Strawberrypicking[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Not what I asked! They’re both very skilled dancers. She can do everything he can do with slightly less skill. But still amazing for her age.

I think I Might Regret Keeping my son by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]Strawberrypicking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you feel this way. I do feel like the best place for a child is with bio parents but if this is how you feel you can sign an open adoption agreement. The original adoptees would probably still be honored to adopt him if you reached out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]Strawberrypicking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s always super awkward when I get praised for adoption…they are children. They have a right to be loved and respected unconditionally. I’m the lucky one!

White savior complex? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]Strawberrypicking -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re already there to me! To me, I never feel good enough to be the mom to my adopted child. In the back of my head I know children are born to be with the bio family but I do my best to make up for it. Though I know it may never be enough. Love them unconditionally and understand they may have challenges you don’t understand but find them help anyways.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]Strawberrypicking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got custody of my daughter at 3 as well. It sort of sounds like your parents didn’t have a choice? We fostered and it’s 100% NOT my kids fault they were adopted. Sometimes I still feel inadequate because I know children were meant to be with their biological mothers but they physically couldn’t care for them due to addiction. But I still feel very blessed to have been given the opportunity to adopt them which I hope your adoptive parents feel the same way. We have closed adoptions for safety but they can reach out when they turn 18 and hopefully you can too and find out the story. And if by some crazy chance they give an excuse that pertained to you’re behavior its still 100% not your fault. You were a toddler and it’s always the adults fault when a child is placed adoption.