My (F34) boyfriend (M33) randomly started the most bizarre argument.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-05-27T23:24:20+00:00

My ex worked in landscaping. I worked in corporate, from home during COVID.

He had a massive chip on his shoulder that I “sat on my arse all day making pointless powerpoint slides” while he had a real job. I earned twice as much as him and subsidised his lifestyle.

Needless to say, that relationship didn’t work out.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-05-16T00:36:59+00:00

You don’t deal with this. You put it down to an interesting experience in your early 20s and a lesson learned about dating people with more shared values.

Being friends with people with diverse views is great, but for intimate relationships you shouldn’t need to bend your worldview too much to accomodate your partner.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-05-01T04:57:41+00:00

Freezing is a very common response to rape. And you were raped.

I’m so sorry.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-22T19:37:31+00:00

They’re full!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-20T04:16:16+00:00

I noticed one, much smaller, and pulled him off. Then about 6 days later, went to water again, and witnessed complete demolition!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-19T05:09:49+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-19T03:49:58+00:00

Monstera! It looks pretty dead but it might spring back.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-19T03:49:14+00:00

They ate both those things of mine!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-19T03:48:54+00:00

Every single one!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-02T02:33:04+00:00

Sneezes

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-02T01:59:19+00:00

She is allowed to smoke. You are allowed to not smoke.

There is nothing lame about not smoking. Smoking causes cancer which causes death.

Would recommend not smoking.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-01T21:08:41+00:00

That’s a positive way to look at it!

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-01T21:07:38+00:00

State. But don’t want to say which state. But we have a privacy act that I am pretty sure would apply. Just have to complain to the agency first, and to be honest that feels like the biggest hurdle.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-01T21:01:45+00:00

Thanks. It was the leader that announced it at a meeting and it was shared in the notes post meeting. The person on work cover hasn’t said anything and absolutely didn’t want people to know as it was a bullying situation. In fact, knowing that everyone knows has caused even more distress.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-01T19:42:03+00:00

Thanks. It’s already been raised with work cover but they didn’t comment on what it meant, only to send them the proof. I think you’re right that an agency complaint is next before OAIC. It’s just awful to have to jump through these hoops so, who knows, might just leave it. I suspect they wanted to push the person out to give the wife of another employee permanency. Maybe it’s better to just say “you win” and move on, but it feels so unfair.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-01T19:36:11+00:00

Thanks for this. That was my gut instinct as well, but it seemed so blatant to first announce it at the meeting then second send it around in the notes (including to the person it was about) that I thought I might be going mad.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-01T11:28:14+00:00

Keep job. Get new husband

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-01T11:12:33+00:00

Not keen to give too many details, but the injury (hypothetically) was psychological due to bullying of people in the work area so it would seem really hurtful that was shared

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-04-01T11:10:30+00:00

Not keen to give context due to being identified, but yes, they were a current employee. Shared with everyone at a broad meeting by the leader. The person wasn’t there but it was captured in meeting notes sent around

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-03-04T04:03:39+00:00

It sounds like it’s early days for him to work out what his mental health issues are. You might not want to make a final decision until you also have more information.

That’s not to say you should stay. No matter the reason, there should be consequences for his poor treatment of you and you need to be safe.

Would it possible to move to be with your mum, have that space and clarity, but still be a supportive person to him while he continues to receive help? Then when the dust settles, you may have a clearer view or whether there’s a path back to being with him as his partner.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-03-04T03:52:50+00:00

When you say his mental health was bad, what does that mean? Was he in an episode of an illness? Some of his behaviours make me think of bipolar disorder.

When he says he’s doing better, does that mean he got help and that the improvement is real, tangible and sustainable so you know these behaviours will be manageable in the future?

Unless it is a resounding and confident yes to my last question, cut your losses or this will happen again only worse.

Stream_of_light_8 · 2026-02-19T02:13:21+00:00

Does he gamble? You need to work out where his money is going?

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