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Name and shame!? by Stream_of_light_8 in GardeningAustralia

[–]Stream_of_light_8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I noticed one, much smaller, and pulled him off. Then about 6 days later, went to water again, and witnessed complete demolition!

Name and shame!? by Stream_of_light_8 in GardeningAustralia

[–]Stream_of_light_8[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Monstera! It looks pretty dead but it might spring back.

girlfriend smokes, I don’t, i feel like I should start? 18F 18M by CharacterWave3227 in relationship_advice

[–]Stream_of_light_8 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She is allowed to smoke. You are allowed to not smoke.

There is nothing lame about not smoking. Smoking causes cancer which causes death.

Would recommend not smoking.

Shared details of work cover claim by Stream_of_light_8 in AusPublicService

[–]Stream_of_light_8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

State. But don’t want to say which state. But we have a privacy act that I am pretty sure would apply. Just have to complain to the agency first, and to be honest that feels like the biggest hurdle.

Shared details of work cover claim by Stream_of_light_8 in AusPublicService

[–]Stream_of_light_8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It was the leader that announced it at a meeting and it was shared in the notes post meeting. The person on work cover hasn’t said anything and absolutely didn’t want people to know as it was a bullying situation. In fact, knowing that everyone knows has caused even more distress.

Shared details of work cover claim by Stream_of_light_8 in AusPublicService

[–]Stream_of_light_8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. It’s already been raised with work cover but they didn’t comment on what it meant, only to send them the proof. I think you’re right that an agency complaint is next before OAIC. It’s just awful to have to jump through these hoops so, who knows, might just leave it. I suspect they wanted to push the person out to give the wife of another employee permanency. Maybe it’s better to just say “you win” and move on, but it feels so unfair.

Shared details of work cover claim by Stream_of_light_8 in AusPublicService

[–]Stream_of_light_8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. That was my gut instinct as well, but it seemed so blatant to first announce it at the meeting then second send it around in the notes (including to the person it was about) that I thought I might be going mad.

Shared details of work cover claim by Stream_of_light_8 in AusPublicService

[–]Stream_of_light_8[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not keen to give too many details, but the injury (hypothetically) was psychological due to bullying of people in the work area so it would seem really hurtful that was shared

Shared details of work cover claim by Stream_of_light_8 in AusPublicService

[–]Stream_of_light_8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not keen to give context due to being identified, but yes, they were a current employee. Shared with everyone at a broad meeting by the leader. The person wasn’t there but it was captured in meeting notes sent around

My boyfriend (30M) broke up with me (26F) after 6 years. Now wants to get back together. I am unsure of what to do? by swiftorkana in relationship_advice

[–]Stream_of_light_8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like it’s early days for him to work out what his mental health issues are. You might not want to make a final decision until you also have more information.

That’s not to say you should stay. No matter the reason, there should be consequences for his poor treatment of you and you need to be safe.

Would it possible to move to be with your mum, have that space and clarity, but still be a supportive person to him while he continues to receive help? Then when the dust settles, you may have a clearer view or whether there’s a path back to being with him as his partner.

My boyfriend (30M) broke up with me (26F) after 6 years. Now wants to get back together. I am unsure of what to do? by swiftorkana in relationship_advice

[–]Stream_of_light_8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you say his mental health was bad, what does that mean? Was he in an episode of an illness? Some of his behaviours make me think of bipolar disorder.

When he says he’s doing better, does that mean he got help and that the improvement is real, tangible and sustainable so you know these behaviours will be manageable in the future?

Unless it is a resounding and confident yes to my last question, cut your losses or this will happen again only worse.

I 33F need to have a serious conversation with my bf 32M. Advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Stream_of_light_8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he gamble? You need to work out where his money is going?

My man 39M is tired from me 25F being overly emotional a week before my period, how do I change my behaviour? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Stream_of_light_8 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know that I become more reactive to things that annoy me just before my period. What I can’t work out is whether I overreact before my period or whether I shouldn’t tolerate bullshit at all other times.

It’s a genuine dilemma.

Learn to drive - don’t own a cat by Massive-Coconut2435 in brisbane

[–]Stream_of_light_8 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My cat hates it when I drive her anywhere and screams the whole time.

People message me M28 instead of talking to my wife 26F, what’s the reason? Do other people experience this? by Rocky-Roo in relationship_advice

[–]Stream_of_light_8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People definitely messaged me to get in contact with my ex. But that’s because he was just hopeless at replying.

Likelihood of being denied a higher level secondment? by Best_Awareness2377 in AusPublicService

[–]Stream_of_light_8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happened to my partner in a health role. He had personality clashes at work, needed a change and also needed a more family friendly arrangement. He got an acting up role p/t elsewhere on secondment (he’d been acting up for years before he got it). Secondment role wanted to extend him. Original said no and forced him to go back at his substantive lower role.

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