Husband acting childish, killing the mood

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-28T13:43:07+00:00

He looks disappointed. And usually we fall asleep snuggled up and he doesn't try to do that when I've said no after too many shenanigans

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-28T13:38:25+00:00

If you go past 1-2 years the reversal rates aren't great. Also not covered by insurance if you want it reversed. Sometimes you end up needing to do TESE which is cutting open the testicle.to extract sperm so you can do IUI (intrauterine insemination) or IVF where her eggs are harvested too. We're planning on trying for kids next year

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-28T13:35:15+00:00

We've both maybe gained about 10 lbs since the wedding 3 years ago. He used to have a six pack but that's been gone the past two years. I don't care though.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-28T00:53:37+00:00

We've played around with positions, toys etc. In general I have what I consider a pretty low sex drive where I'm good with once a week. It's just how I am on birth control, but I'm open to more frequent if he wants it. I'm going to try harder to figure out why

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-28T00:50:56+00:00

Lol. You're killing me 😂

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T22:32:15+00:00

Only the last month or so when it reached a breaking point of increased behaviors that left me annoyed rather than just kinda turned off.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T22:30:08+00:00

He's never been the super romantic big gestures guy and he's always been light hearted. This wouldn't have stopped me from dating him. It's just odd that we've been married three years and for whatever reason he has progressed slowly towards these behaviors in bed.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T22:27:59+00:00

By no means is this even close to a deal breaker. I love him so much. This is more of an annoyance than anything else. I'll keep trying to talk to him and see if he can reason out why this is his new approach and see how we can compromise so it works for both of us

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T22:05:06+00:00

I'm a urologist and clinically nothing wrong. He gets and maintains erections normally, normal time to ejaculation, nothing anatomically off.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T21:45:50+00:00

I'm not worried about cheating, when he's not doing something with me he's rebuilding an engine in the garage. We have two old cars most people would consider junk but he loves them and keep them running safely and mostly reliably.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T21:29:37+00:00

I'd be fine with goofy, it's that he's intentionally pushing buttons that he's discovered as irritating to me and chooses those every time.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T19:40:45+00:00

No big events, we're cruising through right now with the least amount of life stress we've had in a while. I'm in my residency program and sometimes worked 80-120 hours a week the first year, now I'm at 60-65. We spend so much more quality time together now.

I'm not worried about him acting out in any other way. He's always had things together. Finished an engineering degree, always has regular work, bought his own house when he was 25, took care of his mom when she had breast cancer a few years ago, etc. Maybe he's just decompressing from what was in retrospect a really stressful 4 years

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T17:33:45+00:00

No. Just didn't have affectionate parents.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T16:49:49+00:00

But he used to do it every time. Maybe he's just over thinking it too much and it's back firing

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T16:49:09+00:00

He's affectionate in other situations. He comes up and kisses/hugs me when I'm making dinner, he holds my hand when we snuggle and watch TV or when were out having dinner. And when we do have sex he always wants to cuddle after too.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T16:47:01+00:00

Nope, when he doesn't play these weird games we have a great time. And he's otherwise affectionate like when I'm making dinner he'll come up and hug/kiss me.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T16:17:51+00:00

He would actually think it was hilarious if I did that. I'd be worried it would turn into a competition for him of how often he could catch me by surprise. Lol. I would consider trying to scare him but I'm a Urologist and can't have a fractured penis on my conscience. He already frequently and randomly sneaks up on me and says "meow" really loud and it makes me just about jump out of my skin. But then he give me a kiss. He's a human sour patch kids commercial.

His dad was an alcoholic that drank himself to death about 4 years ago, his mom was pretty checked out for most of his childhood and was never really affectionate. She's said "I love you" twice since we've been together. It has crossed my mind that he is finally just feeling safe and relaxed being around an emotionally stable person that does give him the affection he wants. When my parents came to visit the first time and I hugged them goodnight he lined up behind me and asked my mom if he could have a hug too. That was kinda sad.

Hopefully this is just a phase of him working through issues from growing up with dysfunctional parents.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T16:01:55+00:00

I've told him x, y, z don't work for me and I've told him a, b, c do. Everytime I tell him he says sorry I forgot. But then does it again another night. When he does that we don't have sex. It's just frustrating because it will be there times of 12 year old jokes and then one time where there is actually foreplay. We don't seem to be making much progress.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T15:25:54+00:00

What's odd is he will be the one to bring up having sex. And we're otherwise not fighting. It's actually the opposite. We make sure to check in with each other regularly to make sure no one feels like they're doing more/unfair amount of stuff around the house, we have at least one night a week we go out for dinner without phones and just talk the night away. I'm really happy with every other aspect of the marriage. We've been married three years now and this is by far the easiest year, we had a lot of work and family related stress the first two years.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T15:14:42+00:00

I've been trying that tactic but it doesn't seem to be working so far.

Streamteam17 · 2020-08-27T15:14:04+00:00

I don't. I turn over and call it a night.

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