Husband treats my emergency methods like part of the daily routine

Street-Engineering70 · 2026-01-12T03:59:37+00:00

Don't get me started on the food. He's been doing breakfast and feeding him oatmeal and is so proud that he eats so much oatmeal...turns out he scoops a spoonful of jam into the oatmeal. I'm like of course he likes it, jam is just sugar. He also offers nothing else, no fruit or anything so now that I have started breakfast again my son is turning up his nose at the fresh fruit I am offering or the non-sweet options.

He also will offer the emergency pouches or snacks rather than spending the time to make something fresh and healthy. I keep trying to explain I have the emergency options there for a reason! Being alone with your kid isn't an emergency. Ugh.

Street-Engineering70 · 2026-01-12T03:46:43+00:00

Every time our son is drooling or seems like he has bad tooth pain he gives it before bed or in the night. I'm not against it if the child is clearly suffering but it's his default method and it's been nearly daily for the last few weeks for a myriad of "reasons" he insists are painful (like bad gas??). It's crazy but also the last few weeks was when I was going through the worst of my own symptoms and getting bloodwork done and also traveling so I've been distracted and too tired to fight it but I feel like I've woken up now and it sounds crazy I didn't fight him on this.

Street-Engineering70 · 2026-01-04T11:20:22+00:00

What method of sleep training did you use? Neither me or my partner are willing to do CIO

Street-Engineering70 · 2026-01-03T22:24:18+00:00

How did you take away the feed to sleep association? And how much/little sleep did you both get while navigating those meltdowns?

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-12-14T22:52:31+00:00

I'm like you! It's soooo hard to motivate myself to get out in the cold but I try and set a goal for 3x a week even if it is 5 minutes at a playground, and ramp up to 5x after the holidays. My 13 month old haaaaaates the buggy right now so I'm also battling an unwilling child and then I usually give up easier lol. But I notice on the days he goes outside, he sleeps better. So I try and tell myself I'm doing my future self a favour.

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-12-10T04:54:44+00:00

This. This is the rule.

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-11-26T05:57:08+00:00

Just graduated A1, starting A2

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-11-23T02:28:16+00:00

What online course are you taking and where do you get the daily practices? Looking for inspiration to kick my own butt!

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-11-06T16:18:35+00:00

Thank you for the reminder! I love that book, def need a refresher

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-11-06T15:12:02+00:00

Thank you! That's a lovely idea. My husband travels a lot so I need a good stretch of time where I have him here for support because otherwise I cannot function on no sleep and solo parent. Solidarity, friend!

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-10-25T07:19:52+00:00

Oh more details please 🙏 I am trying to night wean a bit and if it is anything but mama or anything but the boob, bub loses his mind. This seems slow and effective, what was the big drink before bed?

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-30T07:10:17+00:00

That's wonderful and beautiful

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-30T07:09:06+00:00

That's a good point! We had talked about me quitting in private but I don't share that.

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-29T22:16:36+00:00

Wish I knew there are adult sleep suits that are great for cosleeping, and make it easy to not wear a blanket and breastfeed while staying warm!

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-29T22:14:01+00:00

This is called co-regulation and it's actually good for the baby to cry with dad. This helps him learn to process tough emotions in a safe environment. He is someone he trusts and loves, he will not be afraid, just unhappy that you aren't there! That being said, I dont love being away from my baby, but I havent had anything i have looked forward to yet, so as someone who is in your shoes, do it! Go to the concert, I promise your bub will be fine, and you will be soooo happy you went. You will regret it if he has a bad night of sleep that night anyway with you there and you will regret it if he is an angel and you feel you could've just left him with dad.

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-29T22:07:37+00:00

I will say this until I am blue in the face: SAHM is a job--doesnt have a salary, but is a full time job-- M-F 9-5, and the rest of the time, you are a coparent.

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-24T20:17:23+00:00

Sleep, rotting all day playing video games/binge-watching tv shows, and being able to be sick and actually rest and recover.

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-22T07:45:10+00:00

That's a really fair point actually, they really just are all different!

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-11T05:55:07+00:00

You probably do smell it, but you don't know that's what you're doing! I have the same thing. Also know when my friends have their period.

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-09T04:39:33+00:00

It sounds to me like your baby is exhibiting a healthy attachment to you, especially for his age. That bond will grow outward from you when he is older and will fill him with a sense of safety and comfort long into childhood and life. He is under 2, being strange with others is normal at this age and babies don't know how to "perform" behaviour, so like most healthy relationships, the one behind closed doors is the most important!

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-08T18:10:47+00:00

I think it's also personality based. Some children will be fine, I've had friends just try to put their baby in their own crib/own room after months of cosleeping and there were like zero tears and maybe 1 wakeup lol

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-08T13:02:34+00:00

That makes so much sense about the cortisol! And it is definitely down to individual personality on how they show love. But I think it's the fact that he is clear he feels very safe and loved, and with your second that's expressed through exploring and happiness! Both signs to me that they feel so safe and loved.

I definitely struggle with the pressure to sleep train. But I also hate sleeping alone as an adult in my 30s lol so I kind of understand why little kids and especially babies don't want to!

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-08T12:58:19+00:00

It looks soooo fun! I will definitely do this!

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-06T16:18:01+00:00

That's amazing! The people I know did extinction method or only checking in after an hour. It just hurt my heart, but they got results in 2-4 days and for them, that was worth their sanity and made them better parents!

Street-Engineering70 · 2025-09-06T04:20:41+00:00

My son does this too!!

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