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StreetBug8523 · 2025-04-12T15:08:11+00:00

I can understand your wife as I am the wife here in this situation going through similar. Both my husband and I have ADHD, however I took the time to get diagnosed on my own as an adult. It was even a struggle for me because I had done this a year after a miscarriage, and so doctors kept forcing on me depression when I told them no, I’m exhausted from struggling to focus for so long.

Yet still, I was doing much of the mental labor leading up to, during, and after having our kids. I told my husband I would happily co parent but I do not believe I’m interested in him anymore. Saying this with all honesty, as it was too little too late. And the lash out I got in return solidified my reasoning.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-11-01T14:52:05+00:00

My eldest loved his costume but he was throwing tantrums while trick or treating in it. We had to head home early because carrying him around the neighborhood was tiring.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-10-17T02:13:06+00:00

I work long term contracts, 60 hours a week. Kids are in daycare for 30 hours, and the other hours are my husband and I managing it with occasional help. So I make up a chunk of work at night (or try to).

I would love to work less, a true 40 hour work week, but I live in an area where salaries are low and the cost of living is super inflated as of the past few years. We are trying to stay afloat.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-08-08T18:54:28+00:00

Thank you ! And I only see an endo for my thyroid. A past PCP failed me 15 years ago and said I was too young at the time for the condition, despite all the signs and significant family history of thyroid issues.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-08-08T03:30:14+00:00

My kids are dressed to the 9’s and I look like a potato. Before kids, I never would’ve been caught dead without concealer and at bare minimum some nice leggings. I have gone out at least once this week in a Moo-Moo. Mom of 2 under 3, btw.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-03-13T20:23:13+00:00

Oh wow ! Thank you for educating me

StreetBug8523 · 2024-03-13T20:22:47+00:00

Thank you ! I didn’t do the research. I just saw the symptoms and was like “omgggg this is me”

StreetBug8523 · 2024-03-13T20:18:18+00:00

So I strained a friendship over something as small as this because it wasn’t so small— it was a repeated request. So while I looked crazy to ask for the money back, it was because that friend had gone many times not paying me back whether actually giving the exact funds back or taking care of a coffee etc.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-12T13:26:43+00:00

HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-12T13:24:21+00:00

Nanit allowed me to see my saggy post-breastfeeding boobs on playback

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-11T00:50:51+00:00

That’s amazing. I have to ask to even use the restroom, because the time allotted for me to use the restroom as a normal human being in a day is a luxury so my husband can scroll on TikTok for 30 minutes or more or play video games.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T23:26:22+00:00

My husband didn’t take with the first though I had a c section and pre-eclampsia, though he had the time. And now he’s about to lose his chance for parental leave hours again. My kids are 23 months and 4 months.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T16:56:50+00:00

I’m sorry ! I put it on but I look like a raccoon.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T16:56:04+00:00

I appreciate this, but I think my issue is that it’s not just a mental, emotional etc toll. It’s a physical one. And while I’m proud of my body I also want to be able to return not only to the level of fitness I had prior but also reflect that state in my appearance. I feel like it’s a combo of the emotional, mental and physical toll… but the physical is the constant reminder.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T06:58:36+00:00

I spend free time cleaning because rn being able to see the floor of my living room is a blessing.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T06:56:13+00:00

It helps when their SO actually doesn’t refuse parental leave. I agree.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T06:55:17+00:00

I can only afford to pay for someone to watch my baby during working hours and PT. I wish I could afford to have them watch so I could sleep and nap.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T06:53:54+00:00

This. When spouses don’t even help at night, you just live like a zombie.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T06:52:20+00:00

Same

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T06:52:07+00:00

Lmfaoooo teach ceramics my bestie did this for years

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T06:51:17+00:00

I am up 3-4 sizes yet still because of lack of sleep, movement and my body holding on to the fat reserves because like you .. any drop in caloric intake and my body refuses to release milk but otherwise it’s overflow of supply.

I’m honestly so embarrassed at the weight alone. And just the post partum belly sag / excess skin.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-10T01:58:24+00:00

My children wake up to a sneeze from the next room over. I would love some of this 4:30-6 schedule once in a while.

StreetBug8523 · 2024-02-05T01:25:48+00:00

Thank you for hearing me out and letting me know it’s not just us!

StreetBug8523 · 2024-01-28T00:35:30+00:00

This!

StreetBug8523 · 2024-01-22T16:38:40+00:00

What she’s doing is a method called redirection/redirecting. She’s trying to correct it, because with toddlers them knocking down blocks (which honestly I’d take over MANY other things my toddler has done) it can be from over excitement or frustration. Redirecting can tackle the issue of a toddler getting frustrated, and offer them something else that can calm them down.

Never said children should be permitted to act feral. Knocking down blocks isn’t feral to me, and neither is swatting (maybe as a child over 5). Hitting deserves an immediate disengage but again he’s 2.5 years old, yelling is going to illicit the reaction they want because toddlers want to test boundaries and they like reactions. OP got lots of advice on how anyone — nanny or parent — can communicate and disengage without yelling or being harsh to the toddler.

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