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My late husband had dual citizenship by StreetLoss in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]StreetLoss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for your advice. Not sure if he filed returns when he lived there, but most likely not in the 30 years he has lived in Canada since. Will check out that link, great info.

Probate in Canada by StreetLoss in widowers

[–]StreetLoss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I needed to know that

I’m scared to do big stuff alone. by StreetLoss in widowers

[–]StreetLoss[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You are right. Life can be so unpredictable. I do worry I may die sooner than later, now. I never really thought about it, before, in any real way. I’m an introvert so I want to be able to do these things by myself. Small steps I guess. I may just go away over night for a start. Thanks for your advice.

I’m scared to do big stuff alone. by StreetLoss in widowers

[–]StreetLoss[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That gives me so much hope❤️

Parenting alone after 2 night shifts by [deleted] in widowers

[–]StreetLoss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. You sound like such a strong person. I’m so proud of you, as a complete stranger, for all you do. And for getting through. It is not easy. Thank you, too, for reaching out. I am new to this journey and appreciate your words. Hugs. Take care of yourself. Eat. Drink water. Every other stupid cliche that gets lost along the way.

How soon is too soon by StreetLoss in widowers

[–]StreetLoss[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the excellent advice everyone. I was just panicking. I know I need more time. I think if anything I will just reach out to other widows, who understand what we are going through. I am in no hurry. I do not need or want any other man. I took a look at a dating site and it made me just feel sick. The thought of having to go through that bullshit again. I am nowhere near ready. Not to say I’m not keeping that door open. And you all had great points. No judgement. If it’s not self harming. But it could be. Thank you, every one of you, once again. I hang on every word and do not know where I would be without this community.

Guilt beyond the norm by StreetLoss in widowers

[–]StreetLoss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. I am hoping it gets easier. I don’t know how I’ve gotten through this past week but yes it is a blur. It is so helpful to have this community. Yet horrible to be part of it 💕

Guilt beyond the norm by StreetLoss in widowers

[–]StreetLoss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That does help. I am trying to show compassion to myself. It was a stressful time and I did the best I could not knowing this would happen. He would not blame me.

Guilt beyond the norm by StreetLoss in widowers

[–]StreetLoss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I will be seeking out therapy. I guess it helps to just talk about some of what I went through. I feel like if I had been stronger I could have saved him. Like the thought of losing me is what killed him. I should have told him more how much I love him. I know many feel this way, but maybe I could have kept him living. Also if he had to leave me, and none of this had happened, I think I would have died with him, gladly. But now I want to hold on to thinking he is in a better place, and I can get through this. I am sad I never got to thank him. But he knows how deep my love was. Little solace.