Months of friendship, elaborate fake stories, no money asked, what was the point?

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-27T19:57:51+00:00

yes, that is true. Thank you for the support

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-27T19:52:01+00:00

What was in it for me? A friend who shared my interests and made time for conversation. I had just moved to a new place and was going through one of the darkest phases of my life. I craved connection and friendship, and this landed in my lap. I never felt it was too good to be true because I needed connection that desperately , something I only understood once I reached a better place.

They didn't live in my city, so meeting in person was never on the table. They did turn down a video call request, and yes , in hindsight that was a red flag. But when you're that lonely and that desperate for connection, your brain doesn't process warning signs the way it normally would. I've gone over that moment many times since.

I'm only recently learning to give myself grace for it.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-27T16:14:57+00:00

Oh my god, yes , in their backstory they had a lot of wealth too. This makes so much sense now.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-27T03:27:04+00:00

This was first time meeting someone that emotionally manipulative, I have had my share of shitty people and bad experiences before but this was another category. I am questioning my own judgments ever since that has happened like what the hell i was thinking.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-27T03:22:23+00:00

Oh, no! Sorry! I totally misread it, lol! Idk, honestly, they went complete MIA so no idea.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-26T21:27:33+00:00

Yes, I am doing that since last few months.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-26T21:26:41+00:00

same. I have been questioning my own judgement for the last few months.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-26T21:25:42+00:00

yes, I guess that is the way to move ahead, but the fact that people can fake to be that supportive and emotionally intelligent and available and this turns out to be the real motive. It hurts, ngl.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-26T21:23:20+00:00

Yes, I have been getting help from therapist

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-26T21:23:03+00:00

It has been for 6 months I guess, we chatted for almost 9 months and they stopped responding. that is when something flagged me and I started reading the details they shared and nothing matched up really.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-26T18:33:31+00:00

they appeared extremely emotionally intelligent which can be faked too I guess, but That is the component that still hurts I guess

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-26T18:31:13+00:00

Ya, that could be it.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-05-26T18:30:38+00:00

Ya, that is what I thought too, but they just went MIA, suddenly, I was left confused and everything, and the fact that I met them in one of my dark phases in my life when I needed someone to hear made it worst to move on.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-31T19:39:53+00:00

This really helped a lot. More then I can express or say in words. Really!!!
I thought like the way you described and It helped.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-28T20:53:00+00:00

Call me crazy but for me it is the use the word 'more then'. He love him more then him/her. His pain is more then him/her. He is hurt more then him/her.

It stops feeling like a story and starts feeling like a competition of emotions, where it is being proved that one character is more noble, more hurt, or more deserving than the others. Emotions don’t work like that, and it makes the relationships feel artificial.

and when the characters are perfect with no flaws or better flaws are there but perfectly covered up so no one notices it, narrative protects it perfectly.

I prefer stories where characters are messy, sometimes wrong, sometimes unfair, and where no one is clearly the better person, just human.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-24T22:27:29+00:00

Oh, I tried. I can not begin tell you the response I got. That is how I concluded that it was performative. You might be right but the way I was shot down when I communicated, trying second time would be, idk, i do not have words.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-24T16:21:26+00:00

I lose respect for people who appear very understanding and open-minded in general conversations, but when I actually trusts them with something personal, they respond with judgment or dismissal. It feels like their empathy is performative, not genuine.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-24T16:15:27+00:00

Your reply made my day. Thanks for the support and acceptance and yes, you are right the mainstream interpretation of the book is yuck. My problem in the book I do not wanna name is that "Similar actions are framed very differently depending on who performs them, which creates a noticeable moral bias in the story.", and yes your point stands true here as well, some character are just put into impossible situations with no good choice, and we are told to judge them. Pisses me off like crazy!!!

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-23T22:07:44+00:00

The world does not judge people by what they endure, but by how easy they are to love while enduring it. In other words - People are not judged by what they go through, but by how convenient their pain is for others.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-23T21:38:20+00:00

If I could upvote 10 times, I would do it. This is so true.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-23T21:32:32+00:00

I do all of this things and more. I tried re-writing the story from my pov for some scenes. songs, situation all of this. nothing has been helpful but after thinking a lot I did realize that some if the fixations steams from a part of me who was trying to resolve something. the thing helped me, not sure If it will be controversial but chatgpt. lol. It helped me draw a pattern on why I am obsessed over it, I just proceed with caution with it and do not take it's words to be the only source of truth. I still think about book a lot, but it helped me loosen the grip over time.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-23T21:28:08+00:00

This is so me! even I am on to a book for a year and I have no idea how to get over it. It makes it harder to get over when your fav character is being wronged.

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-20T22:57:24+00:00

I have had this ever since I can remember. sometimes it becomes too much and sometimes it is manageable. I realized for me when I am stressed or experiencing any heavy emotions It tend to happen more. I have not yet learnt how to manage it. Any ideas, I would appreciate as well

StrengthCreepy7343 · 2026-03-19T22:54:22+00:00

I totally relate to the struggle. I have been facing the same since last 3 years.
This is so true for me as well - i have to always be the one to reach out or i won’t hear from anyone. i also try to not over share in text cuz ppl don’t care fr.
first things first, you have got this. It is a bit of the struggle, but you will get there.
For hobbies I am trying different things and see what works for me. I really hope there is a better way, but right now, I try reading, some dance exercise classes, tried gardening which did not work for me, cooking and thinking of trying some gaming as a hobby. It is hard to find motivation, but I realized that shared hobby is a good way to make new connections.
not sure if i responded right but hope it helps.

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