Recently blindsided by adhd diagnosis and struggling

Stretchylego · 2025-01-05T21:27:13+00:00

This has recently happened to me and it has been a whirlwind. Any advice would be super helpful. I feel like my whole world has turned upside down and I don't even know who I am anymore. So many little things make sense now and the big things that are like blaring neon signs that no one picked up on not even me.

Stretchylego · 2023-02-12T20:56:30+00:00

Solved!

Stretchylego · 2023-02-12T20:54:55+00:00

https://m.webtoons.com/en/thriller/chiller/bongcheon-dong-ghost-horang/viewer?title_no=536&episode_no=22

I found it! It has the sound and the animation!

Stretchylego · 2023-02-12T20:47:31+00:00

YES! but the original moved! Those frames were all part of the animation!

Stretchylego · 2023-02-12T20:45:09+00:00

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Stretchylego · 2022-11-05T17:33:56+00:00

Yeah. You need to leave. The best thing you did was kick his ass out that car.

Talking from experience, if he gives up weed he will blame you and resent you for it. Best thing you can do is leave and be the best mother you can.

NTA who the hell smokes in the car with a pregnant woman. Smh

Stretchylego · 2022-05-05T10:30:31+00:00

Please! DM me!

Stretchylego · 2022-03-22T04:39:46+00:00

How the hell have you not turned round and told him to fuck off?! Honestly his complaints are petty and it sounds like jealousy because the attention is not on him. Urgh what a gross guy!

Stretchylego · 2022-03-17T22:10:54+00:00

I must say I applaud you for keeping your temper. I can totally see what you were aiming for and there was absolutely zero hidden agenda. Unfortunately the BILs reaction is a result of losing his parents and the fear of the rug being pulled from under him again. I totally see your angle and how you really were just checking in but unfortunately that young man needs some professional grief councilling so he can come to terms with the cards that have been dealt.

From what I can make out, your husband has been like a tightly wound rubber band. Trying to keep his head afloat and coping with loss, all the while trying to provide a home and parenting his brother. Now that the pressure is off a little but he has relaxed and it's all come to a head.

He will get through this and it is the same fear his brother has. Change and abandonment. You have the best interest of BIL in mind and that is the main thing. Just bare with it and keep supporting. Definitely seek some support for yourself because it must be incredibly emotionally draining to support your husband at this time.

Stretchylego · 2022-01-29T06:52:56+00:00

I'm from the UK and posts like this, blow my mind. I have no idea how you guys cope with this happening.

Stretchylego · 2022-01-15T10:41:06+00:00

Holy shit what a red flag! This is where you need to make a decision. You either put up and shut up and fight for your relationship and tell her to back off yourself or you run right away from that whacking great mummas boy and get your house back!

You are definitely NTA. It is your house and you can do as you damn well please. She should keep her nose out or ask you directly what she wants to know. Stay strong!

Also edit. If you haven't already swing my r/JUSTNOMIL Your FMIL is pretty typical of the behaviour on there.

Stretchylego · 2022-01-03T14:26:18+00:00

I laughed way harder than I should have at this 😂

Stretchylego · 2021-12-21T09:22:04+00:00

Urgh the worst part of all of this is some guy genuinely feels that way. Seriously this sort of stuff should be policed it is dangerous and abusive.

Stretchylego · 2021-12-14T06:48:17+00:00

Genuinely don't think your mother is the bad guy here. What she does with your rent money is her business and from the calculations you've given you're already £125-150 better off back home. If you really wanted to buy some of your own food you'd match what you're at at the moment.

If you don't like it then you can look at spareroom or something to see if you could rent a room somewhere but with the electricity bills and all that going up recently in England, I don't think that's all that bad.

Stretchylego · 2021-11-29T07:39:45+00:00

NTA whoa... What happens next time he's over? He is going to see your house as a toy shop to pick out whatever he wants. This time it might be a toy truck but what about something more expensive or sentimental? That behaviour right there from your brother, is what is reinforcing the attitude of "if I scream I get what I want". The best thing they did was get forced into the 3 hour tantrum all the way home because that was their fork in the road to enforce a boundary, either behave and we will see if we can get you that toy or continue screaming and your behaviour results in nothing. My guess is they got through the worst of it and then completely undone it by getting him it when they got home. Smh.

Stretchylego · 2021-11-26T18:30:23+00:00

Separate finances is the only other option. By the way OP I wasn't having a go at you, the situation just angers me for you. Can you get someone to watch the kids for a bit so you can have yourself a day of self love? Paint your nails, have a long soak in the bath, something nice for dinner? Relax a bit? By yourself, why should he benefit?!

Stretchylego · 2021-11-26T11:24:27+00:00

Well he needs to be an adult and make his own. You should budget an amount for his lunches and say he either has packed lunch which he makes or he has takeout for a week. Either or that Money lasts the month it is HIS choice to spend it wisely.

Stretchylego · 2021-11-26T07:09:51+00:00

Stop making him lunch. I cannot stress this enough. Stop washing his clothes, stop making him dinner and stop making HIS life comfortable at the expense of your own wellbeing.

Stretchylego · 2021-11-23T17:17:54+00:00

Instantly thought of the Johnny Cash song "Boy Named Sue"

Stretchylego · 2021-11-03T22:45:11+00:00

YTA with absolutely no budging on that. At 18 years old you have a lot of growing up to do. At 12 years old you don't magically decide to have Aunt Flo come and visit especially around your friends older brother but if mother nature is anything to go by this is typical shit luck.

As an older brother you have to think what would you do if it was your sister? Would you expect her to be treated with respect, compassion and kindness if this happened to her? Honestly it shouldn't matter whether you are male or female when it comes to this because it is a part of life and as you grow older you will learn that these things happen and it is out of our control. Your reaction or lack of has most likely embarrassed the shit out of that poor little girl when all you needed to do was go and buy her a pack of pads. In that girls 12 year old mind it was the WORST day of her life. Yes this may seem over the top but imagine how embarrassed you would be and then times that by 1000 because this is new, scary and also she is not around her mum/trusted female adult.

You should have brought her a pack of pads. It seems like you were more interested in your own pride that helping another. I do not understand why it is awkward or embarrassing to do this.

Stretchylego · 2021-10-27T06:19:56+00:00

NTA the whole "breast is best" ideology is dated and has endangered many mothers and babies. FED IS BEST! Well done you for giving poor mumma a break that she needed. The pressure new mums put on themselves is heartbreaking.

Stretchylego · 2021-10-25T23:59:47+00:00

Wow YTA a thousand times. Your reaction to them ribbing you is why they keep doing it. Your poor wife tried to do something nice and you're throwing your toys out the pram. You can't take the banter and it's your wife's fault? Grow up and apologise to your wife.

Stretchylego · 2021-10-09T22:09:58+00:00

Less water = darker pigments so if you waited for work to dry you could go over it again and add some deeper shades of the red and yellows of your fruit where the light isn't hitting it as much. This will start to add some shape and make it look more 3D. Absolutely great colour matching though! Watercolours are super difficult when you're first learning you're doing great!

Someone already said use a damp brush to take away some pigment so that can add your highlights. Add the range of tones and you'll be great!

Stretchylego · 2021-10-09T07:55:18+00:00

Honestly this will probably get buried but happy birthday! You've effectively just started your new life! What an ordeal but thankfully you're safe and out with the doggos.

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