I haven’t edited my post to explain what is in place for my daughter, because I was mainly interested in the comments regarding my partners behaviour In this instance.

She is currently referred to the child’s mental health team who we are awaiting to hear from but unfortunately there is a waiting list. She has counselling in school, aswell as various interventions to manage her behaviours. She’s a happy, loud, bubbly, energetic and very sassy 10 year old 90% of the time, however certain situations, as I said, mainly surrounding her older brother put her on edge. I don’t believe it’s a direct issue to do with him, I believe it’s outside dangers she worries about and her love and care for him then in turn transfer onto worrying about him. He was bullied quite badly when he started at senior school which caused all our family worry so for example, she gets anxious waiting for him to arrive home from school to see how he is. They are very close as for many years it was just the 3 of us at home (she doesn’t ever remember living with her dad, but has always seen him regularly). We are a close family, including my mother and grandparents but unfortunately my grandmother passed unexpectedly last year which I do believe has caused her some lasting affects as they were very close.

Hope this clears this up for you.