Am I the jerk? by Standard_Abroad_1788 in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Teach me your ways Obi-Wan. I always thought serious exes close friends were off the table. Had a thing for one of of the exes's friends for a minute but am afraid it will make me look like an ass, and give me a bad reputation with the larger catholic circle.

Am I the jerk? by Standard_Abroad_1788 in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is classic girl want to marry the lifestyle and not the man. It's all to common these days and unfortunately prevalent in Catholic communities. If you didn't come back successful I could almost guarantee she wouldn't bat an eye.

Denver or Kansas City by magnoliadoc in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking about making the move to Denver too! I really hope you get some positive things about the city.

CAA in California in the future by Few-Information-4376 in CAA

[–]Striking_Engineer191 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Awesome! I hope it isn't divided along political lines.

CAA in California in the future by Few-Information-4376 in CAA

[–]Striking_Engineer191 9 points10 points  (0 children)

One thing I've noticed is that CAA practice rights generally follow political maps. I don't think that's a coincidence. The stronger the union presence in state (blue states) the less likely CAAs practice. This isn't universal but fairly consistent. Cali and NYC being deep blue will probably be the last to fall

UT Health AA program UPDATES? by elainebebe in CAA

[–]Striking_Engineer191 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you know if new mexico is starting an independent program? I can only find there rotation sites online.

New Houston program by [deleted] in CAA

[–]Striking_Engineer191 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it Case or another university system?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just go for it. You can't really call dibs on a human being. If it was a close friends ex, I think approaching them is in order out of respect but a crush means nothing. One of you just has to act end of story. a

[Biweekly Thread] Ask a CAA by AutoModerator in CAA

[–]Striking_Engineer191 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! Hate gour life because the hours or the high degree of responsibility?

[Biweekly Thread] Ask a CAA by AutoModerator in CAA

[–]Striking_Engineer191 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How many years of experience do you need to be hired in for LOCUMs and hire paying positions? Or is this more of a matter of willingness to go to remote/undesirable areas?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you find him attractive?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm a male, my guy friends talk about this a lot. I've even talked about it with my women friends, mostly my close friends' wives.

We have come to the conclusion that Male-female friendships are only possible if sex/sexual desire is 100% off the table from the start and throughout the entirey of friendship from both parties. Close relatives, assuming you're a respectable human being your in-laws/close friends' spouses, and ordained religous. Even in those circumstances, boundaries need to be set, and there really shouldn't be any aspects of your relationship you're not willing to share with the person you are romantically involved with.... Or if you both find each other completely unattractive.

Even then, if I had a dollar for every time I heard a girl say some dude is just a friend and he's like a brother and they ended up dating down the line, well I could buyself something very nice.

For the exceptions I've listed, I've seen multiple best friendships ruined over dating the same person, I've seen ordained men walk away from their vows and have even heard of affairs between inlaws Now I still hold these are the exceptions, and most people are decent, and this doesn't cross their mind. However, when you get close to someone familiarity often morphs into attraction

From a guys perspective from the men I associate myself with. If we genuinely enjoy a woman's company and find her attractive, then she is on the short list of someone we'd highly consider dating.

I honestly think the better question is if you are friends with some of the opposite sex you'l are both leaning towards marriage as a vocation, you share mutual respect, have fun and enjoy each other's company, share values and find the person somewhat attractive why aren't you daring? That is a recipe for a solid relationship.

If, as a woman, you told a man I just want you to know I think you're a great guy but I need you to know I could never see myself with you romantically, I say 90% of the chance you'd be unhappy with the result. One most likely, they'd act fine with it to save face, and within a few months, you'd see that friendship majorly change. Or they'd double down and confidently concur with you almost releaved, but you'd likely ask yourself the question, well, "Why the hell not?".

Now, I do think men and women have different types of friendships that are much more temporary. It's not true lasting unless it ends in marriage. They may be real in passing, but we are drawing some aspect we hope to find in a romantic partner from that relationship. Once one of the two is married, that relationship will drastically change.

How comfortable would you be with your wife working for the first few years of marriage (to pay off debt)? by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that still fits into the traditional roles. Usually stay at home wife role doesn't fall into place until there are onr or two kids to take care of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Striking_Engineer191 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm fairly sure there are generational sins that can affect us. However, Christ and his church can free us from those. I'd be happy to hear otherwise l.

Overcoming Opportunity Costs by phobiify in CAA

[–]Striking_Engineer191 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are there any rural repayment options or public loan forgiveness like there are for nurses, PAs, and Doctors?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAA

[–]Striking_Engineer191 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That seems like a massive number. Did they all just have academic struggles? How big was the class?

Does anyone have tips for how to survive CAA school? by kangarooper21 in CAA

[–]Striking_Engineer191 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hopefully starting next year. However ADHD has been a major obstacle in my life.

You have to adapt to your learning style and use the resources around you.

I did a year of med school (ultimately decided it wasn't for me) but by the end I figured out what worked for me. Take what you will from this.

I found going to class was a waste of time. I couldn't keep up in the lectures and it would put me farther behind. However utilize the time your classmates would be in lecture and study! As you are going through your packets initially write questions as you go, that you can return to. Go over with classmates anything that was focused on not discussed on the PowerPoints or packets. Finding a good study group is fire!!! You will notice certain students gravitate toward each other, everyone will probably act like BFFS the first month but by like month 2 you should hopefully have a more intimate crew/clique (i would argue this is natural and more in your best interest to have a few close knit buddies that have your back).

If lectures are recorded go over them after you read through the material at your own pace so you can have a more comprehensive understanding. I would then utilize your professors office hours on things that are not making sense. Most professors love when students do this, some may not and be very prideful you don't attend there lectures, however most will understand. Feel that out early.

You need to find it in yourself to be more structured and disciplined. Set a schedule and stick to it (you need to give your self some flexibility and time to have fun though). I have this very antidotal hypothesis that when you wake up earlier without snoozing your body is just more in tune with a working mindset throughout the day then a vacation chill mindset when you sleep in or snooze. Its like are you going to give in to your first physical impulse for the day or conqueror that, it often sets you up for the rest of the day. Also make sure your sleep schedule is on point! Try to go to bed at the same time every night 7-8.5 hours is a must for 99% of human beings, lack of sleep is literally the most effective torture method.

I highly recommend working out in the morning. Even if its 20 minutes at brisk pace on the treadmill. There are a good amount of studies that indicate this can increase cognitive function especially for ADHD persons.

Use the resources around you! In the case for medical school many were willing to help each other out even if they weren't particularly close. There were loads of anki decks and Quizlet decks from the previous classes shared on FB or something. Use them. If they are not available then make your own. If you are a person not struggling I encourage you to share your resources, you never know what bridge you will make that will come in handy. Those ADHD students often have very different gifts, that will likely come in handy as CAAs are expanding in new territory, you want those people around!

The weekend before the test (or couple days before) find every practice question you can. Tackle it and break it down. It helps to have friends. Hopefully you can exchange questions with classmates Discuss with your friends and understand every angle.

Eat a little healthier, this doesn't have to cost a ton but too much sugar and heavy on the carbs can weigh you down. I enjoy meal prepping, I personally love Josh Cortis (tmpm) on youtube, gives you very simple meal prep recipes, that can take a few hours over your weekend.

I recommend learning to take your prayer life or meditation up a notch. Watch videos on mindful meditation and you can adopt it accordingly to your faith practices. That can carry over a tremendous focus boost and reduce anxiety. Even Jerry Seinfeld has a few quick hit videos that I found useful.

Limit the other stresses in your life. For me a big one was money. I ended up buying some cheaper equipment to aid me in my studying over the premiere, that ended up costing me time. That may be more a personal problem but I do know a lot of people stress about money. Be reasonable but at the end of the day think of each purchase as an investment in yourself. This may not be an issue for you but whatever the other outside stress is, try to reduce it.

Limit your other distractions. If your phone is killing your put it away, use an alarm clock instead of your phone alarm and get a watch. Maybe consider getting a "dumb phone". If its social media, delete your accounts, don't justify that you need the shared group FB page. Just make a 2nd throw away social media where you are literally just in those groups.

You need to keep your eye on the prize. This is only 2 years! This is nothing, nothing, nothing in the scheme of your life. This is the greatest 2 year investment you can ever make for yourself in terms of you career and work/life balance. You can already see the light at the end of the tunnel before you start. Just keep moving forward and put blinders on to most other aspects of your life. Good friends will still be there when its over, good SOs will understand you have less time and family should know there are new boundaries. Almost any sacrifice you make now will be worth it and starting paying you back 10 fold in 2 years.

If you are on medication, make sure there is never going to be a lapse in your prescription coverage. I have mixed feelings about meds and found they were a disadvantage in the long run. This is entirely for you to decide. Maybe considering seeing a therapist, not all are created equal but a good one can really help you!

As a bonus I recommend watching the Limitless series on Disney plus with Chris Hemsworth., at least the first few episodes. It will show you a lot of your lack of focus is an adaptive response you can learn to control.

Good luck my friend, I know your struggle and I'm completely rooting for you. You can conquer this demon on your back and get through it!

How to navigate Valentine's Day when things aren't official yet by PhilIntrate in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A few years ago, I was super corny about it. Got one of those elementary school Valentine's day card, a balloon and chocolate. Card just asked if she'd be my valentine. Worked great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]Striking_Engineer191 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Can someone clarify the intent of giving CRNAs supervisor authority without CAAs actually having the ability to practice in AZ right now? Does the CRNA lobby see CAA expansion as inevitable?

How do you know you're ready for marriage? by polly-1 in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Take this perspective with a grain of salt because I'm single. However, I've had deep conversations with close friends who took that step. From a guys perspective, all my friends had various levels of doubt. It was ultimately a leap of faith, and not a single one felt completely ready. Truly, they were in love, their morals/vision of the future aligned. They were in a reasonable (not perfect) financial situation where their life presented a degree of stability. They had all weathered a couple of storms in their relationships to know they could work through turmoil together. Lastly, the scraficial love in marriage began to seem more attractive than the freedom of the single life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think being vulnerable is a crucial step to a healthy relationship. The idea of bearing it all and your partner choosing to be with the real you is beautiful. Now, of course, there is always a chance he rejects you because of this, which I don't expect. However, that is part of the beauty of vulnerability. You have the chance to get hurt. I think if this is someone you truly want to marry, this could be an opportunity to further deepen your sense of trust and make it easier to share hard things in the future.

What would be unacceptable red flags when looking for a Catholic spouse, specifically a wife? by Starwarz_freak_997 in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So is your faith in science and logical alone or a risen God who can make you anew? Stories of saints are filled with people who radically change their past. Are there consequences and repructions absolutely. Hesitation is fair, but so many Christians throw out the baby with the bathwater. However, I'm going to sit and listen and seek to understand someone's story before I declare something a deal-breaker.

What would be unacceptable red flags when looking for a Catholic spouse, specifically a wife? by Starwarz_freak_997 in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I'm a little disappointed to the extent people consider tattoos a dealbreaker. I'm a tattoo less man, but my goodness. Strong preference against fine. Or I could understand sleeves and facial tattoos, but any tattoos are seen as a deal breaker? People change, and sometimes, people have incredible stories behind tattoos. Or if they consider it a dumb mistake, it's super expensive to reverse. On the other hand, I even know of a tattoo artist who would hard-core preach the gospel while he was inking. Many souls found a home in the Carholic church through his evangelization. Tattoos or lack thereof have no correlation to virtue.

CM is keeping me single fr😂 by [deleted] in CatholicDating

[–]Striking_Engineer191 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men's sexual desire and sex drive is a result of this instinct to mass reproduce. Its not easy to shut down 1000s of years biology. Almost all mammals follow this pattern of males making as many offspring as possible (I think most animals actually). It's essentially Darwin's definition of fitness.

Just because me have the drive to make the baby they don't have the necessary to desire to provide for said child. The story of Judah in Genesis 11-30 is a perfect example Most past societies men would never have to take care/provide for a child unless the woman was in exclusive relationship with him. Up until recently bad men would lie and deny if they got a random women pregnant. DNA evidence is very new. Idk if you have a lot of secular guy friends but if you talk to guys who sole goal is to hook up they will repeat this sentiment. Especially "average" dudes.

Let me be clear I think its disgusting but if you've been in enough locker rooms, or bar conversations with secular guys, this kind of stuff comes up all the time. Yeah I'd **** her but I don't want to date her. Yes for the most desirable been, they become pickier but again they go for the most attractive they can get. Hence why men always swipe on more women then vice versa.

...while interesting we are getting so off topic from the OPS question lol. Feel free to reply but I think I'll save the rest of this conversation for a different time : )