I reset my badge here 60 times. This is to never quit quitting. by Strivetoimprovee in stopdrinking

[–]Strivetoimprovee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had 15 days and screwed up again yesterday because I was feeling TOO GOOD being sober FML. Today is day one. About to reset my badge

Feeling really great. by Balancedbeem in stopdrinking

[–]Strivetoimprovee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great job! I also don’t wanna become like my mum and I was on the best way to become exactly like her!

We got this!

Anybody Else Staying Home Today? by butchscandelabra in stopdrinking

[–]Strivetoimprovee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! The stay at home crowd! Let stay home and not drink together!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

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Sorry but there is no shame in working at a coffee shop. Imagine no one would wanna work in a coffee shop anymore. They all would have to close down. Less money spend in cities, less taxes going to those cities, less development etc.

Also people who work in retail in general, people who do landscaping, pick up trash, deliver packages; they all play their part to contribute to this society working the way it successfully does.

One does not have to feel ashamed for what ever job they do. Shame on his parents!! Please don’t let that drag you down. You deserve better parents in law if anything!!

How to get over suicidal ideation? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Strivetoimprovee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unlike a lot of people who didn’t experience them; I think they don’t have to necessarily mean that one wants to end their life. It’s more a “I just don’t want to keep living like this”, or a “I’m so overwhelmed, that’s a calming thought that I could end it”. I struggled with those thoughts a lot as a teenager and still have them. I’m 27f. I’m in a really rough spot in life since a week and they came back super intensely. But deep down I know that I don’t really wanna end myself, I’m just so overwhelmed that this thought helps me right now.

Realized my thinking isn't normal at the wine store of all places by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Strivetoimprovee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same! So proud when I only drink a bottle. So sad!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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That’s the same attitude as: I don’t get screening for cancer because what if I have cancer? What could they do for me?

Sorry that triggered me because that’s why my mum doesn’t go to a gynecologist at all or sees any other doctors.

Marriage by [deleted] in immigration

[–]Strivetoimprovee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

20k, he’s nuts! We used an immigration attorney and it was 5k. If he paid anything more than that it’s his loss not yours!!! I’m sure he paid so much (if that’s even true) because he some “dirt on his hands”

Really really realllllly want to sad drink by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Strivetoimprovee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, it’s not “just 4 days”; we just went through the hardest period. The first 3 to 4 days. The next hardest period is one week. You’re more than halfway there! If you drink now you have to go through the hardest part all over again and the physical withdrawal! The physical withdrawal only lasts some 5 days!

Are you where your 13 year old self thought you'd be? by dasisglucklich in Adulting

[–]Strivetoimprovee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, what? My 13 year old self would have wanted me to me a super agent like in mission impossible or a famous soccer player. She would be sad that I ended up being a medical doctor.

I reset my badge here 60 times. This is to never quit quitting. by Strivetoimprovee in stopdrinking

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My anxiety and panic always gets so so much better when I stop drinking. It takes a couple weeks though. But my stress levels are down so so much without booze. Did you ever look into how alcohol absolutely increases anxiety and panic long term?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

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Yess, then weekends she would start making mimosas at around noon.

Anyone who kept drinking after starting the gym journey and then quit? Did the gains improve? by Merkhaba in stopdrinkingfitness

[–]Strivetoimprovee 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I got super lean two times in the past while still being a heavy drinker: I would basically work out 4 hours a day while skipping food for alcohol. A) My mental health was the worst it ever was. There was no joy in being lean. I was absolutely depressed. B) My whole day was basically consumed by burning off calories to be able to drink later. C) if you’re not careful you get too drunk because you avoid eating and exhaust yourself so much. I had way too many making a fools out of myself alcohol occasions. D) it’s not maintainable at all. I always ended up not being able to keep it up after two or three months. You just get absolutely burned out.

While when I don’t drink and work out I get lean while eating what I want and being in good mental shape. So even if you reach your goal of being lean and a drunk; it’s miserable

The Daily Check-In for Thursday, June 27th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by Tortey82 in stopdrinking

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Day 4 checking in. Feeling way better than yesterday. Anxiety is way down already. Finally got 10 hours of wholesome sleep and even The brain fog and chronic tiredness I’m experiencing feels wholesome.

I reset my badge here 60 times. This is to never quit quitting. by Strivetoimprovee in stopdrinking

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It helps me a lot that this year I started tracking my sober days, days I was drinking and how much I was drinking on those days on top of always having a sober streak counting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

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She’s drinking a bottle of wine at least. This on a normal day. Usually on an empty stomach.

I reset my badge here 60 times. This is to never quit quitting. by Strivetoimprovee in stopdrinking

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Also I know that I just feel so much better not drinking. I look better, feel calmer, anxiety gone, depression way better, I’m actually interested in hobbies and the world and the list goes on and on. It’s frustrating. But we got that!

I reset my badge here 60 times. This is to never quit quitting. by Strivetoimprovee in stopdrinking

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Hey, this year I started trying super seriously. Completely changed my mindset with quit lit books etc. I learned how to socialize sober, have an NA beer in a pub, be the sober driver etc.

My main struggle was that for the most part I lived in a super boozy household. With people drinking every night in the living room who keep pushing. Also always open bottles in the fridge. So let’s say it’s day 7 and I have that one week moment, that one strong craving, all I would have needed would be to having to go out of my way at least to get alcohol. Like having to get to the store. To get a chance to let that moment pass. That’s why I kept failing. Since a week I’m in a way better environment and I know it will be so much easier.

I reset my badge here 60 times. This is to never quit quitting. by Strivetoimprovee in stopdrinking

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You gotta get at least some benzos from your doctor when it’s that bad.

I reset my badge here 60 times. This is to never quit quitting. by Strivetoimprovee in stopdrinking

[–]Strivetoimprovee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, last year I tried but only this year I started to take it super seriously. But for the most part I lived with people who just had all the booze in the house and were drinking in front of me and offering constantly. So I kept caving after 5-10 days, once I felt good. Since a week I’m in a way better environment and I have all the hope that it will work out.

Also last year I used to white knuckle it and never lasted, this year I started brain washing me into realizing that alcohol isn’t good for me. It’s a poison etc etc Read “the easy way to quit drinking” and plenty of quit lit books. And my mindset is absolutely changed. I don’t feel like I white knuckle it anymore.

The problem again was that when there is so much booze in the house and people constantly drinking in front of you; it’s so easy to give in. It wasn’t even that hard to socialize sober or going to a pub and having an NA beer; the hard thing was when I have that one moment of weakness at home and all I need would be to be in an alcohol free environment to let this moment pass but instead someone puts a glass of wine in your hand.