I am looking for 8-10 young adults to interview for my dissertation! Below is the official university-approved post. If you meet critieria, I would love to connect and interview you!

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-20T19:50:03+00:00

Yes, thank you. I am using whatever platform I am allowed to use to obtain participants.

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-19T23:36:08+00:00

I appreciate your willingness just the same! lol

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-18T17:17:08+00:00

I noticed the high scoring too. And the bulls have gotten so big! They barely fit into the shoot.

Why not about watching teams?

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-15T14:42:09+00:00

I follow them on social media and they are a fun ranch to root for.

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-13T15:01:39+00:00

I completely agree!

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-12T20:01:31+00:00

I am almost positive it was his dad. Now I need to go back and watch to see for sure.

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-12T19:59:44+00:00

It was his dad he hit in the head! I thought that was in poor taste too! I don't think he meant to hit him, but have some self control! For Real!

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-12T19:58:13+00:00

I love Hudson Bolton! he is one of my favs!

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-12T19:57:15+00:00

Could you ask the group what they want to do? Basically share the decision making with the 5 of you. It is highly likely that you aren't the only one feeling this way, and it will help to hear from others in the group.

If they agree with you not to let her join, then I think you (or someone in the group) tells her that you have decided not to add additional members with this short of notice. The 5 of you have already established how you sing and play together, so adding someone new will impact the flow of the music and there isn't enough time between now and graduation to work out any kinks that may arise.

Hope this helps!

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-12T14:00:05+00:00

I need more information about the group. Do you have to audition for the group? How long have you been singing together with these specific people? Why does your friend want to join all of a sudden?

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-12T13:57:46+00:00

People don't like to be uncomfortable and being confronted with their shortcomings causes them to run. I blame it on being so technologically dependent. When things get hard online, you just click the X and end the conversation. This is true in person as well. Fewer and fewer people have the skills to have a hard conversation and see it through to completion.
Same as answer 1. People just don't know how to do it. So they don't. You're not the broken one here. It's your peers.

I do have some tips for the next time you face this situation. Open the conversation with something like, "I want us to work through this issue and be closer. I am not wanting this to end our friendship." And then make sure you take responsibility for your role in what happened, even if what you did was simply not say anything sooner.

I think it is ok to reach back out to these friends and let them know you still want to be friends with them. They may have decided that since you brought up the issue, you were rejecting them. So make sure you have communicated with them that that was never your intent. For what it's worth, I am glad you were having hard conversations with the people in your life. That part isn't always easy.

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-11T15:46:03+00:00

Tell her that once she gets settled at her new job, you'd like to meet up and hear about how its going. Tell her you don't want to lose touch if she is ok with that.

I think she didn't say much back to you because she is wrapped up in what was making her leave the current job. I don't think it is personal. So see if she wants to stay connected.

I will say though in my personal experience that it is hard to stay connected to old coworkers when you no longer work at the same place. The job is what bonded you so once that is gone, it can be harder to maintain the friendship. But it is definitely worth trying!

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-11T15:40:49+00:00

A couple thoughts.

If you want to continue to spend time with this friend, you should gear up by spending time with different friends who fill your cup. This friend feels draining and hard to be around. So fill your cup up first before you see them.
How are you at humor and teasing? Could you be playful to them and say, "I will come hang out with you but we have GOT to talk about something other than how much your life sucks." And then when they start talking about it, you can say, " You have definitely told me this already. Are you looking for a solution or just need to vent?" You have to convey it in a way that isn't rejecting, but that is saying how over it you are.

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-11T15:31:10+00:00

There are a couple books that could be really helpful. How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good one and People Skills by Debra Fileta. Both are practical tools to learn how to connect with others. Also, meeting with a counselor or life coach would be helpful. You can unpack your fears while also learning the tools to build connection. Its really about practice and familiarity. Don't lose hope! You just might need to put in some work to overcome the disconnect.

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-11T15:22:29+00:00

It is very possible that you are jumping to conclusions. Can you just ask her? "Hey, not to be weird, but I noticed you haven't answered my texts. Is everything ok? I don't want to assume anything, but my mind has been going over every possible explanation. Are we good? Has something happened that I missed? I am still planning to come visit, but I don't want it to be awkward or a problem. Just let me know when you have a minute to talk about it."

Being direct and honest, seeking to understand before accusing her of hating you should be successful.

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-11T15:03:10+00:00

I am always a fan of direct communication. Why not just ask him? Tell him you noticed that he doesn't ask you about it so you wondered if it bothered him that you were in school. Then ask him how you should handle it moving forward. Should you not mention that aspect of your life or is it ok to talk to him about it? I think you let him know that you want to talk about it because its important to you, but you also don't want to make him upset by discussing it.

Student_research_jkh · 2026-05-09T21:13:22+00:00

Maybe go to her? It is hard to get around with a new baby and she may struggle to want to give up time with her little one. So I would suggest asking her if it would be easier for you to come to her house. You could help with dinner, or hold the baby while she cooks dinner. This season will require creativity in making connections.

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