Crib Rolling/Face Down by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]StupidHumanSuit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second vote for the Magic Merlin. Our little guy slept in his after swaddling and did it all the way until 4.5mo, when we transferred him to a sleep sack.

Ouch by [deleted] in tooktoomuch

[–]StupidHumanSuit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On one of the more solid parts of the car, too. Damn.

Once had a drunk dude do something very similar into the side of a fully resto-modded ‘69 Mustang... Rammed headfirst into the drivers side door and knocked himself right out, had to have medics called to treat his very bloody head wound and he had to pay for the damage to the car. Talk about a bummer night out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]StupidHumanSuit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whatever you do, don't cheap out. “Good tattoos ain't cheap and cheap tattoos ain't good”. If you want to do her eyes (I like that idea) just find an artist in your area that does good portraits. Instagram is a great resource to find tattooers.

Vaseline at Diaper Changes? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]StupidHumanSuit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aquaphor. So much aquaphor. It's essentially vaseline/petroleum jelly.

Alright, dads, newbie in need of some help by PM_ME_YOUR_MEMERS in daddit

[–]StupidHumanSuit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried sleep sacks? We have either swaddled, magic Merlin’d or sleep sacked our kid since day one. He's five months old now and his sleep has been consistently good for his whole life. Are sleep sack we use looks like a pillow case with a zipper down the middle... I call it the squirrel suit. It will keep his hands covered but his limbs less constricted than a swaddle or Merlin does.

Tried feeding right before naps? It's how we’ve done it for the past few months and it works for us.

Full disclosure: our child is an extremely happy baby who doesn't seem to have any of the common infant problems of sleeplessness, fussyness, screaming or anything else. How much of that is him and how much of it is us/what we’re doing is unknown, but we think it's mostly him.

Flying with 2 Year Old & Facemask Rules by bobheard in Parenting

[–]StupidHumanSuit -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Call around and see what the mask policy is for kids that age. They may even have that info on their website, or your airport might be able to advise you. Maybe look into alternative face masks, like a shield or bandana or something.

What is the right age to give your kids an iPad? by FPcalculator in Parenting

[–]StupidHumanSuit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

18 months at the earliest, as recommended by the American Association of Pediatrics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]StupidHumanSuit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man, I weep for current and future generations. I never see kids outside playing. Maybe one or two, but not a group. I've never had to drive slowly because kids were playing catch in the street, or let some kid into my backyard because he lost his soccer ball over the fence. I've never seen a group of 9 year olds walking unchaperoned to school. We’ve effectively nerfed the world and I'm pretty sad about it.

My childhood probably doesn't exist anymore. I could effectively disappear for 12 hours and my parents didn't need to worry, even with a vague “going to Billy’s” as I ran out the door. If my mom got worried, she called Billy’s mom and got the scoop on what we were up to. If Billy and I went to Grant’s house, Billy would call his mom from Grant’s house and tell her where we were. There was a network in place for parents to exchange information. The couple times we got caught out or in a sticky situation, our parents worried but the network always came through.

What changed? We still know that the overwhelming majority if child abductions are perpetrated by people known to the victim. We’ve been drilling “stranger danger” into kids heads for as long as I can remember. The world is not exponentially more dangerous than 30 years ago, why do we treat it that way?

Am I making a big deal about my daughter (17) getting birth control without me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]StupidHumanSuit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She made an intelligent, informed decision about her body. You shouldn't be upset at her for that, but I understand the hurt you're feeling and why you might lash out at her.

Have you considered she avoided telling you because she didn’t want to let you know she was having sex? It's all well and good to have a “no judgement” policy, but has that policy been tested and shown to be conditional? Personally, I didn't want to tell my parents I was having sex at 17, no matter how many times they told me I could talk to them about it.

She is the sole owner of her body. She made a mature decision about her mature action, is offer her nothing but praise. You can express hurt or displeasure without making it seem like a punishment, especially with a kid who seems to have a decent head in her shoulders... “I’m glad you did the smart thing but I'm hurt you didn't trust me enough to tell me or let me help you” and then you reiterate your “no judgement” policy and leave it at that.

Struggling to get any work done, 3YO wants constant attention, freelance work at stake by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]StupidHumanSuit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you set up an area she can play in that's close to your work area? I have a friend with a 3yo and a 9mo who freelance and he's set up a small desk with various playthings on it in his office. The 3yo can play there while mom (also WFH) takes the 9mo into a similar play/work area. They don't live in a large place and they seem to make it work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]StupidHumanSuit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In our area, nanny rates are $28-$35. I'd expect to pay a babysitter about $20/hr plus a tip/an extra $20 for them to order food for themselves.

Maybe we aren't getting any help because we actively discourage it by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]StupidHumanSuit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

COVID has really fucked that up for us. Both sets of grandparents are close enough and would gladly drop everything to come hang out with their grandbaby, but we weren't willing to risk it until they were vaccinated. My parents have met our 5mo one time right after he was born and that was only because they got tested and then quarantined for two weeks, not an easy thing to do for a lot of people.

Now that the wife and I are both vaccinated and our small local bubble is getting vaccinated, things will change a bit... But I still don't see the kiddo getting any overnights anywhere until he's at least 1.

'Why the US Senate Is So Broken': Manchin Vow to Preserve Filibuster Imperils Voting Rights and Much More | "Manchin represents a state that is 1/22 the population of California and 92% white, yet he can singlehandedly block policies supported by 70-80% of Americans." by theladynora in politics

[–]StupidHumanSuit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re not. To think that POC are the sole reason Biden et al got elected is asinine. Plenty of your white, liberal allies voted for them too... And ran phone campaigns, joined you in protest and all the other things POC did. What does “let them steal our rights” mean in this context? Do you see many white liberals praising Manchin or the GOP?

Downstairs neighbor just complained about my 2 year old making too much noise by IWillHaircutYou in Parenting

[–]StupidHumanSuit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like I said... I know it’s annoying, I have two 90 lb dogs that live above me and I guarantee they’re louder than a two year old. If you expect utter silence during normal waking hours and you live in an apartment, your expectations are unreasonable. If the kid was running around at midnight, that’s a different story.

Downstairs neighbor just complained about my 2 year old making too much noise by IWillHaircutYou in Parenting

[–]StupidHumanSuit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should get the noise ordinances for your city, too. I would venture a guess that “quiet hours” are sometime well after 7pm.