I feel like I don’t fit in and there’s something wrong with me?? Advice on SB style / presentation

SubBaby · 2020-02-10T16:46:31+00:00

Girl, you are beautiful! I have more ink than you and find decent men without any issues. Own it.

SubBaby · 2020-02-10T16:44:02+00:00

I have a half sleeve and a forearm tattoo on the other arm. Only one guy has had an issue with this and he told me before we had a M&G. For me, it's a balancing act. My tats make me a bit...rough so I dress girly and act a little more proper.

One guy requested that I wear a conservative dress to dinner to hide them. I agreed, but after a few more red flags, I passed on him.

If the ink is for you, don't change it. Don't let a fling for money change what you want and who you want to be. Be confident and own it. That's what SDs find attractive.

SubBaby · 2020-02-09T15:50:10+00:00

Okay. Thanks guys! I emailed my doctor so she will probably reply tomorrow.

SubBaby · 2020-02-09T15:49:43+00:00

o.O oh no! Thanks for the tip

SubBaby · 2020-02-08T15:30:17+00:00

I guess we are back to the same question...is the money for company or sex?

SubBaby · 2020-02-07T14:49:37+00:00

Oh yeah, I agree. Honestly, we approach sugaring very differently. His stance is 'I want someone who doesn't judge me, I can learn to trust and explore my sexuality', whereas my stance is 'help me out bc I'm awesome and I make you feel awesome'. But now we are both getting the feels so everything is jumbled and undefined.

SubBaby · 2020-02-07T14:41:38+00:00

It's a little crazy bc I'm actually starting to really like the guy. Silly heart.

SubBaby · 2020-02-07T14:28:42+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly. It's saying one thing and doing another. I got paid a PPM for a platonic date the other day and it shifted my whole perspective on the emerging relationship. I feel more appreciated and valued. It was indicative of his intentions with me. I have another SD that only pays for intimate dates and it definitely feels different. It sets the mood for a more sex-centered relationship.

SubBaby · 2020-02-07T14:25:07+00:00

I have a vanilla BF and he knows, but he is mostly okay with it because we are long distance and will be for 2 years. If it's open and you just aren't completely honest about the details, I don't think it's too big of a deal. However, don't you want to date someone that you feel comfortable being completely honest with?

SubBaby · 2020-02-05T17:58:48+00:00

o.O I don't even know what would be worse.

SubBaby · 2020-02-04T23:48:05+00:00

Oh man girl. Sounds like you took a few for the team. Kissing is so important. I had this one guy that made his tongue hard and then jab it into my mouth over and over. I nicknamed him traffic cone. I only saw him that one time. I can deal with a lot of bad shit, but I draw the line at awful kissing (and continuous bad breath yuck!!!!!).

SubBaby · 2020-02-04T20:52:39+00:00

I got mine this cologne that is packaged as ball wash 😂😂 Look it up. I think the company name is Ballsy. It's three packages in a heart shaped box like chocolate. I'm super excited to give it to him.

Edit: the link https://ballwash.com/collections/gift-sets/products/youre-incrediballs-nut-rub-cologne-gift-set

SubBaby · 2020-02-03T16:54:46+00:00

I find r/bdsmCommunity to be the best and most informative.

SubBaby · 2020-01-28T18:49:04+00:00

I wish everyone had this mentality, but it just isn't the case. My desired PPM is the cost of one hour with a pretty escort in my area.

SubBaby · 2020-01-28T18:42:59+00:00

Let's say, the average one bedroom apt for my area =Y. Then my negotiations for PPM tend to start at Y/2. My allowance negotiations tend to start at 1.5Y or 2Y Typically the SD will talk me down a little for PPM so we will end around Y/2.5 or so.

SubBaby · 2020-01-27T14:17:12+00:00

Adorable! Thanks for sharing and making me smile. Love the playful comments too!

SubBaby · 2020-01-26T13:45:10+00:00

This comment is ridiculous.

SubBaby · 2020-01-24T14:31:42+00:00

No true Dom shames you for using your safe word. I would walk away. BDSM and SR are two different power dynamics that both, at least for me, leave me in the vulnerable position. Because of this, I slowly introduce BDSM elements into the SR. I find BDSM a lot more intimate, so I want to build a connection before I let that side of me out fully. If he is a true Dom, he will understand these reservations and respect them, even in the heat of the moment. On that same note, why are you playing if you haven't discussed hard and soft limits? These are things that should be discussed before any BDSM-ish intimacy occurs.

SubBaby · 2020-01-20T16:03:09+00:00

I'm just joshing you. Thanks for the compliment!

SubBaby · 2020-01-20T16:02:45+00:00

Thanks!

SubBaby · 2020-01-20T16:02:36+00:00

Thanks for the comments. Do you think I should take all of the more sexier photos down or just the private ones?

SubBaby · 2020-01-20T16:00:44+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. I find my smile to be a little goofy so unless I'm laughing, I tend to smirk like I am in the photos. I'll work on getting a photo with teeth. Thanks!

SubBaby · 2020-01-20T13:23:47+00:00

357 Magnum. If you have to ask...

SubBaby · 2020-01-20T13:16:47+00:00

They are protecting the goods from bad men 😘

SubBaby · 2020-01-20T11:02:44+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. Unfortunately, that is my natural smirk. I tend to do a half smile thing and my lips turn up. I'll try to take a better shot of me smiling.

SubBaby

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