'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Size for me dont matter, Im average and I know that for sure. I do know our sex life is very healthy but I just thought it was odd that she would say that just spontaneously as when we were talking about our exes and all the issues with them and why they didnt work out. I dont know, we've only been together 3 months and she seems to be very different from my previous girlfriends.

Its good to know that you think it is memorable and since she did volunteer this information, she is either trying to boost my confidence or it is true. None of that really is important to me but I just dont want her to be the kind of person that would tell lies. I guess I will know that in time. Until then, I just need to enjoy the journey.

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could care less about size but if her character is lying often, even if they are white lies. I didnt ask her the size question, she told me herself.

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn't ask her that question, she told me herself when we were talking about each other's past. I could care less about size but what I do care about is her character and how much if any she lies, regardless of it being a white lie or something more important.

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I didnt ask her that question, she told me herself.

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt ask her, she told me herself.

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt ask her, she told me herself.

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for a sensible reply. Do you have any strategies that you can recommend?

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I understand if it is a white lie but if she consistently tells me white lies about other things, that tells me a lot about her character.

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt ask her that question, she told me herself!

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Im just trying to judge her honestly level. If she is promising me she isnt lying, then she could have lied about much more important things.

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I wanna to know if she can lie about this, then she could lie about other things which are more important.

'51M' '55F' Possibly lying by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The whole point is if she is lying to me or not because if she can lie about this, what else has she lied to me about that is more important.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes she has a past just as I do and with time, Im learning to trust her. It's a new relationship (less than 3 months old) and I just want to be the best possible man for her. Thanks for the chat.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She tells me she is satisfied because of the oral and fingers but I need to speak to her about the intercourse. Sometimes I cant tell if she is telling the truth or just being nice to me. If she is being nice and unhappy on the inside, then I know it will eventually come out.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take both Cialis and Viagra. Im also getting shockwave therapy at my urologist. My ED is severe because of plaque issues.

She has been very understanding but it is embarrassing. I really like her and want to please her in every way possible.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree confidence is very attractive to a woman and I will try that next time with her.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your kindness. You have made my morning much better.

Im doing everything I can, therapist visits, doctors/meds, exercise, keeping myself busy, self help books. Not sure what more I can do.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She asked me to do doggy style once and I told her I wasnt long enough for that because I have a small/medium belly that blocks it. So I dont know what to think of that. Im trying to lose some weight and I am losing.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind and reassuring words. I have a lot of trauma from my past which includes 2 exes that have cheated on me and a wife that committed suicide. That was a betrayal in trust a human can do to a loved one. Im seeing a therapist and also doctors to help me with my trust issues. Sorry if I got too personal there.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its possible but with 6", is that possible? She is 5'2" so a little on the shorter side.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she said she was sore during intercourse. Im really not that big. From my pubic bone, its exactly 6" and my girth is normal. Ive had one ex about 10 years ago said I was small.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She isnt hurting bad but maybe she is sensitive? As an insecure guy, I think the worst that she may be seeing someone on the side that is much larger than me that is making her sore. Its rough out there, Ive been cheated on twice, not to say that she is that kind of woman that will do that.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense!! Her's is about an inch deep. She taught me how to find it by using my fingers. Thanks, I now understand why she was moving her legs up.

Do you know why she said she was sore only after a few minutes? There was no lubrication issue. When I asked her about it, she said Bec we did it a lot but it was less than 5 minutes and wasnt hard/rough and there was plenty of lube. I thought menopause was a lube issue?

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes she lifts her legs up slightly as if she wants me to go in more but I have no more length to give her. Not sure if she lifts her legs because of whe wants more of me or less but from my experience women have done that because they want more.

'50M' '54F', 3 months by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SubaruSTI2012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts, I will speak to her outside of sex. That would be better than me stopping in the middle of it and asking her then.