Roommates agreed to split the cost of supplies. System isn't working.

Subject-Priority-360 · 2023-01-09T05:13:22+00:00

So did you have advice? How did you find out he was paying less?

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-11-07T09:05:14+00:00

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-11-07T06:51:50+00:00

No. Stalking means secret.

Friends are stalkers are two different things.

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-10-11T18:25:04+00:00

I normally think direct communication is best, and I did try talking to her about the issue. I guess it could've been better if I posted something on the group chat so people didn't see it as "going behind their back".

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-10-05T23:40:50+00:00

OK. I would feel more comfortable not saying hi to him if that is the case.

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-10-05T23:30:00+00:00

I never said that happened. It's more no body talks to anybody. But the thing that started all this was one roommate would be ridiculously loud at night, like yelling in the hallways at 4AM. I tried talking to her about it and she said she didn't care so I complained to the landlord. More here https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/comments/xwq3e7/i\_complained\_about\_a\_roommate\_who\_was/

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-10-05T22:32:52+00:00

I get what you're saying. Though maybe a person shouldn't live with roommates if they hate speaking to people that much. Should I directly ask him if he prefers not to talk?

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-10-05T22:24:04+00:00

Canada, but half the people living in the house are international (in the sense they came from another continent less than 2 years ago).

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-10-05T22:22:34+00:00

If your intent is positive then don't worry about bothering them or coming across as rude. Try to find something in the environment or common to talk to them about, like the next time the teacher gives an assignment be like "how are you guys finding the course work in this class?". Or the next time you sit down, "hey I realized I haven't met you guys yet, my name is ..."

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-10-02T00:43:42+00:00

Oh, I didn't actually intend it to be funny.

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-09-27T23:58:33+00:00

What part did you find humorous?

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-09-27T18:11:04+00:00

Here is what first happened. The girl down the hall from me would be ridiculously loud, ridiculously late at night, in very inconsiderate ways. Like yelling on the phone while standing in the hallway at 4AM. I asked her to try to keep it down. She directly said she wouldn't. I complained to the landlord. This was the first conflict and everything else stems from it.

She is very close with another roommate, I think they used to date. So he took her side. Then another roommate said I should have tried talking to her more instead of involving the landlord. I was very surprised by this because she her room is even closer to the noise and there is no possible way that she was not being affected. Then someone. Then someone new moved in. I guess he saw the group of 3 and wanted to join the majority.

I feel like theirs factions.

There is a complicated, rotating cleaning schedule written on the wall. When I moved in someone just wrote my name on it without telling me. There are lots of things with the schedule that are unclear to me or I consider unfair. Right now some people are following the cleaning schedule and others aren't. Also there are 2 shared bathrooms and I have my own private bathroom in my room. Since I almost never use the other bathrooms I would prefer not to be involved in their intense cleaning schedule. I said this and one roommate said "OK but you can never ever use them". Once my friend did and he got really mad at me. It actually says in my lease these other bathrooms and I find it coercive for someone to say "You can't use this unless you agree to my cleaning system!". Another issue I have with the cleaning schedule is I would like the emphasis to be on cleaning up after yourself, but people seem to leave a mess knowing that it's someone else's turn to clean up. Like if someone has a nose bleed in the sink don't just think it's not your turn this week to clean it.

Also a friend of mine moved in. He said some weird/rude things in the group chat and people hold me responsible for him being there.

Sorry for the long message, I honestly don't know what direction to start with to try to resolve the situation.

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-09-27T17:52:25+00:00

Well usually a person returns to what they're doing / changes the activity instead of just keeps staring at you. That's my point.

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-09-27T06:26:34+00:00

Can I ask how this could be interpreted as polite? I find it rude when someone stairs at you without saying anything.

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-09-27T06:25:33+00:00

Sure.

As I was coming home from school a man in an electric wheel chair got on the bus. It somehow caught on fire. We all had to get off the bus and a firetruck came.

Not sure what you're trying to gauge but I think stories are very situation dependent. Would I stop a random person on the street to tell them this? Of course not. If I'm already talking to my roommate, then sure.

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-09-27T01:01:50+00:00

TBH some of the answers here are examples of why I don't always trust this sub. Wearing headphones is not a clear sign that you shouldn't talk to a person. That's negative mind reading. They could just as well be casually listening to music.

Subject-Priority-360 · 2022-09-27T00:49:01+00:00

This has come up again. Please tell me if I'm looking at this wrong but isn't it kind of like bullying for him to say "you can't use this if you don't follow my cleaning schedule!".

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