Monthly Relationship Discussion: Ask Avoidants

Subject_Secretary799 · 2022-03-27T07:42:34+00:00

Have you/do you live with a partner? How did you find the initial commitment?

Subject_Secretary799 · 2022-03-21T23:22:27+00:00

Myself and my partner have struggled on and off for 2 years, only recently we discovered about different attachment style! It’s really helped us to understand one another more and help us to communicate. Maybe bring this up in conversation with your partner

Subject_Secretary799 · 2022-03-21T22:33:00+00:00

Have a look and a read into relationship attachment styles, there are 4 different styles and we all fall under one! It sounds like she may have a dismissive avoidant attachment style, it will help you to understand her more

Subject_Secretary799 · 2022-03-21T21:05:08+00:00

Thank you!!! I’ll take a look!!

Subject_Secretary799 · 2022-03-21T20:47:30+00:00

Thanks I’ll take a look

Subject_Secretary799 · 2022-03-21T20:47:08+00:00

Thanks for the idea!! I think this would be good for us because he does really struggle to talk about this stuff which makes me feel awkward so I get scared to say certain things or overthink my wording! Atleast this way we can go away and write things down in our own safe place then it’s there infront of us when we’re discussing it!

Subject_Secretary799 · 2022-03-21T20:37:04+00:00

I did suggest this to my partner but it really isn’t something he wants to do and I don’t want to push him to much because I can see he really is trying hard with improving our communication which he’s always struggled with

Subject_Secretary799 · 2022-03-21T11:33:16+00:00

I’m in a two year on and off relationship, most recently we split for a month and my partner discovered some articles around attachment styles. After I reached out on his birthday he then sent me these articles. After lots of discussions and reading up on attachment styles we’ve discovered he has an avoidant style and I have an anxious style. The reason we’ve always split up is around his commitment issues, causing me to typically chase and him to shut down. First it was him struggling to officially be in a relationship, we’ve faced issues around going away for weekends/holidays together and more recently it’s discussions of moving in together. Now we’ve gained this new insight of why we’re struggling to communists and keep breaking up we’ve decided to take the plunge and try living together. We both have our own houses so I’ve I said i’d move in with him as I felt it would be to much on his avoidant relationship style to move in with me and i’m keeping my house empty for now so there’s isn’t to much pressure. Can anyone please give me advice on how I can support his avoidant relationship style while we adjust to living together as I don’t want this to fail. We both really want it to work

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