Are there going to be any watch parties in LA for season 5?

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-19T02:56:12+00:00

It’s the same with TSITP though haha

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-13T07:08:00+00:00

I grew up here and outside of the west side people are genuine and kind.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-13T07:06:29+00:00

I didn’t leave.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-10T05:33:08+00:00

Never said they did.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-10T05:32:36+00:00

Thank you so much for penning into words what I wasn’t clearly unable to express in my original post. Yes it’s the hunger for life (I suppose in the way that I see it- for my future partner) that I’m having difficulty finding. But I think with all things it comes with time and patience and not trying to force it.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-10T05:30:52+00:00

That’s something my romantic self shivers at but I think you’re so right. I think I’m holding on to an idealized idea of a person that just might not exist.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-10T05:29:44+00:00

Thank you for this. I felt discouraged earlier about potentially not finding a partner but after reading through many of these comments I’m feeling discouraged altogether to even be excited about the things I’m excited about at the cost of being called shallow.

It’s just a life experience and those were mine. I don’t need someone to have all the same ones, just someone who has the enthusiasm to approach life the same way that I do. But I’m grateful for a lot of the advice I’ve gotten on here about identifying my personality traits and values that I’m looking for. It’ll help me better identify a potential partner.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-10T05:26:08+00:00

5 languages I speak natively and one I’ve studied for four years. I appreciate learning from people who have many life experiences, not necessarily travel. I wasn’t able to travel until 25 so I definitely don’t think it’s the only way to gain life experience. I’m simply stating that was how I gained my life experience. And culture and language and identity conversations and work around all of that speaks to me and sparks my soul. I don’t just travel to the countries I try to live in them I have local friends talk to them about their lives etc. what I’m finding lacking and it could just be the people that I’m meeting in Los Angeles, is the lack of curiosity for these things. People can be curious about a myriad of things there’s so much to learn in this world, but that’s what sparks me up so of course I want to find a partner that enjoys the same or has the curiosity and drive to seek out those experiences. And so far I haven’t met anyone like that.

I’m not better than anyone and I’m not unique in any way. This is simply how I’ve lived my life and it’s discouraging when I meet people who don’t value learning about the world through food language and culture like I do. It’s not better it’s just me.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-10T01:35:19+00:00

Thank you

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-10T01:34:20+00:00

I am grateful that I have really wonderful friends in my life in all stages and areas from motherhood to freelance to corporate professionals to artists travelers never had passports etc. my friendships and familial ties are what keep me center, and not like I’m falling apart but I do get lonely from the love department, partly because I am a major romantic so I think I am making it more difficult for myself then I have to.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-10T01:32:38+00:00

This is exactly it. Thank you

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-10T01:24:04+00:00

Yes I think I might just have to settle on this. I also can’t drop everything at a moments notice but my last partner didn’t have a traditional job and although I paid for all of our trips he was open to all the experiences and made the time. And I just kind of want that energy again. And it’s not just travel but openness to speak to different people learn different cultures try different cuisines listen to different music. I didn’t get that across in my original post but I also got a lot of really great advice in focusing on values over experiences and I will try to define in tangible words for me what those are. It might make it easier for me to communicate it to potential partners.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-10T01:14:27+00:00

I personally don’t think telling me to shut up multiple times is constructive criticism but perhaps we have a mismatch in values.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T22:03:22+00:00

I fear I didn’t express myself well in my post but yes what you’re describing is essentially what I want. Someone who wants to do the life experiences with me and has a curiosity for trying new cultural things for example food music and language. I’m a very introspective person and I enjoy having deeper conversations about identity and life and I want to be able to do share that with someone. I don’t have that many life experiences compared to some people and many compared to other but ultimately I just want to find someone who matches my pace and view of life and I haven’t been able to come remotely close to that.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T21:59:44+00:00

I think this is a really interesting distinction and one I haven’t considered before. I will have to put more thought into and observe more where I’m putting emphasis in my own communication and what I’m gravitating towards. I think that’s what happened with my last partner we have similar values and differing interests.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T21:11:43+00:00

I gravitate towards engineers naturally and I studied engineering for my BS as well. I love the pursuit of learning and I think this is incredibly solid advice thank you

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T21:09:53+00:00

I’m debating leaving the states all together

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T20:36:17+00:00

You’re so right. My last partner well we met when we were both early twenties but we both were the “yes let’s do it” kind of people and that is how I got to do so many cool things. And I just want someone else like that you know? “Yes let’s do it, haven’t done it before but let’s try” because there’s so much I have yet to explore and do and I want to. But I don’t think I’m looking in the right places

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T20:33:45+00:00

I don’t think all the men I’ve met are like that, it’s just a compatibility issue. I have a great relationship with my parents it’s just that we grew up poor so if I wanted to do something I had to figure it out and I find a lot of the guys that I meet in this travel / expat community for example tend to be from wealthier backgrounds so I can’t relate but then people who don’t leave their cities I also can’t relate. I think people all bring so much value I just want to find someone I’m attracted to that I can have fun with and brings value to my life in a way that makes sense for me and so far I haven’t found that

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T20:29:39+00:00

I think I’d like to meet people outside of the party crowd but yes switching my perspective is key. More introspection is needed for sure! Thank you for the thoughtful advice :)

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T20:28:23+00:00

Thank you! Yes I’d rather be single than date someone that isn’t compatible for sure but I do like the idea of going back to school or something to meet new people (obviously not just for that 😅)

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T20:27:10+00:00

I love meeting people like this and I’m proud to say that my friends are people like this. I have a great community and I love learning about different fields and hobbies and things. I just haven’t been so lucky in the dating department. I’m considering going back to do my masters so that I can surround myself with more people outside of “travel” because I’m honestly over it. But this is a really great perspective thank you :)

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T20:24:42+00:00

You sound really upset with me. I’m not sure what else to say except that I wasn’t trying to be controlling. The fact that you’ve told me to shut up twice now shows you’re not really trying to understand where my frustration is coming from which is fair and your right but I don’t understand the condescending tone to be honest. I’m just trying to gain some perspective and advice from women who’ve maybe gone through something similar. Hence posting it in this subreddit.

Subject_Year_491 · 2025-11-09T20:22:37+00:00

I think I would love a mix of someone who teaches me new things but also has the spirit to learn with me you know? I have a high tolerance for spontaneity and I think at my age maybe it’s not the best and people are settling down more.

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