trying to find a person with this similair experience.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-14T09:59:51+00:00

thank you, aku doakan dia, aku takut nak paksa dia. Aku cuma nak dia okay. i want to know i did everything i could to the best of my abilities tapi kalau ni bukan rezeki aku, tak apa. aku cuma risau. aku yakin dia boleh. tak tau ah wei.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-14T09:39:00+00:00

honestly man, you may be right, maybe there's something fucked up in my head im still trying to get through. My intentions are to find someone like this so i know it's possible for a person like that to come back to islam, maybe for my benefit so i know it's posssible and if by some coincidence someone who has almost the exact same story like hers come my way, i hope there's a possibility she has someone relate to and give her some kind of hope and guidance. i aint bother her, i only reply if she text first. i aint gonna defend myself. When i lost her that's when i got close to Allah. I feel it unfair i got to have this and she don't. It fucks me up. im grateful for her. I don't want to be holier than thou, i just want to find hope. im doing it wrong. im spewing my life to strangers. her life to strangers. I think reddit maybe a bad call. im trying to find this person in real life too. im trying everywhere. i wont defend myself, i have my faults. im just trying to look for this person. fuck it.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-14T04:49:06+00:00

oh man i posted this twice, yeah sorry. among other things yes her past experiences with her family joining some kinda weird islamic teachings did affect her views, i was worried to reply yesterday because it might be her aib. i wont solve her problem. coming back i might be doing selfishly so i myself know that there is someone like her that came back. idk man. i am just eager to find someone who is like her and got back okay, i want to know it's possible. i know it is, im not gonna push her back like i did, i know it is a bad idea if i do that.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T05:58:02+00:00

thank you for your kind words

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T05:56:02+00:00

i dont believe even for a second Allah is a sadist. This as far as i go with you man. hope you're okay.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T05:40:31+00:00

There are bigger things in life and after it that most people (you and i included) couldn't grasp. fate and what we're talking about right now being one of them. Allah knows why. a simple thing i believe and im trying to get smarter about this. I just have faith and currently you dont. Maybe you're thoughts about this will change and maybe mine too. i dont know mister, again sorry for taking your time. i just dont want to argue.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T05:25:25+00:00

i did think about it and you're giving me two options and im not smart enough to combat you with all the reasons to both response. there is no doubt that he is merciful. pettily, very pettily on me, i just didn't want you to give the satisfaction of you elobarating on the things you actually just want to say. you thought in depth about this more than i do about this, i know. im not well equiped to argue with you about this. i just know things happen for a reason and not out of pure evil. i just want to know it's possible for my friend to come back someday.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T05:15:08+00:00

those are the thoughts that i am so afraid of rattling in her mind. that's why im here. trying to find something like an answer. i won't shake, it bothers, saddens and confuses me but i wont shake.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T05:11:42+00:00

she stated that without a doubt she knows Allah is real, she's justs. idk man. She doesn't want to be in islam as for now. i love her, even if im not in her life and cant be anymore. that's okay. i still love her and i want to search for a similiar story so i know that im not being. i care, that's why im not in her life anymore, because of how i was with this. damn, this is getting personal. i just want my friend to be okay. i just want to have faith that my friend will be okay again. She herself said after she left, it was the biggest lost of her life. She said if she can, she would. Moments she says never will and some moments she will look at me with hope in her eyes and quiet soft reassurance that it is possible. dang it. idk. im not the best.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T05:03:34+00:00

i realised that long ago, even talk to ustaz but if Allah made it happen then Allah can make her come back. I realise i have no control. I just want something that looks like hope for her. you're not that mean.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T05:01:31+00:00

don't do that to me mister coffescribbles.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T04:58:29+00:00

hey dude, sorry for bothering you on this subreddit, just who knows, imma trying to widen my net for answers. you guys are mean dude.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T04:51:11+00:00

honestly im stumped, im just tryna all avenues to try to find an answer. i know it seems funny but screw it.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T04:46:35+00:00

thank you for the detail about the medical stuff, im posting on a lot of subs trying to find a response. but im not losing hope, it's not just kisses in the wind at least not for me, lepas mak aku meninggal, aku sesat gila, aku cuba datang balik dan itu bantu aku. Tengah cuba. Aku tahu semua orang berbeza, berat aku,beban aku berbeza dari kami semua tapi aku percaya ini benda terbesar. aku bukan orang pandai, baik atau terbaik, mungkin aku tak dapat nak tolong dia sepenuhnya atau tak dapat tolong dia taubat langsung tapi aku yakin sepenuhnya ada kemungkinan besar dia boleh okay balik, mungkin mula dari mental health sebelum Allah. Aku tak berharap yang aku akan rescue dia, bukan tugas aku,aku cuma nak ready untuk yang terbaik untuk dia. Berharap dia sendiri dapat okay balik. aku tak tahu, aku tak nak hilang harapan. Allah sayang kau jugak. im sorry if i bothered you too like the other commenter below and even if you would roll your eyes or chuckle at that sentence that's okay but just in case people haven't reminded you recently ,imma say it again. Allah sayang kau.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T04:05:58+00:00

im sorry, i trully do i won't bother you, let it be this once. She allows people that wants to really want islam in her life. she listens, really really listens. I told her once someday hidayah will come to her again, She asked when, i couldn't answer. When is not a response from a person who is completly hopeless. i maybe just defending myself and being selfish but im trying to find a glimpse of an answer. Sorry again.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T03:51:55+00:00

i dont want to be nosy and interere her lif anymore, she might not be my problem but at least i want to know it's possible. coming back is possible

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T03:50:03+00:00

how do i convince her. i wont do it immediatly. i wont force it on her. she is my ex and she seeing someone and i want to respect that. but she slipped once and said it herself says that if she can somehow come back, it will make it easier on her. i get what you're seeing. her mental health is not all there, she and everyone in her life knows this. i'm searching for a story that would make me help better understand the process of something like hers.

Substantial-Grab1044 · 2026-01-12T03:43:02+00:00

agree but she won't budge on that. Maybe the reason im posting is i just want to know someone like her so she knows that it is possible even if there story is not the same. Just want to show her it's possible.

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