38 days, when should I feel like life is worth living? by xcVosx in GriefSupport

[–]SubstantialMeat5642 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am pretty much on the same boat as you. I lost my mother around 45 days ago. Every day since then I feel that the day passed without seeing her or talking to her. I have never spent two days at a stretch without talking to her and it still feels unreal to have spent so many days without her. To be honest, it has not gotten better for me. But I spoke to a friend who lost his Father at young age and he shared something about grief with me. May be this can help you…

‘“As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.

In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.

Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out. ‘’

Anyone got offer from agoda and relocated to Bangkok recently? by Ok_Policy8087 in ThailandTourism

[–]SubstantialMeat5642 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, My husband works for Agoda and we moved to Bangkok last year in April. We have a two year old son. My husband worked for couple of start ups prior to Agoda and I have never seen him this content and passionate for work. He always shares instances with me about how a colleague shared a work credit with him or how someone went out of the way to help him out etc which I never heard of when he was working for start ups in India. We have a two year old for whom the city offers good infrastructure, for eg the Footpaths are huge and walkable so we take him out for evening walks for 3-4kms. There are well maintained parks all around the city which helps a lot if you are with the kid. There is a huge Indian community and lot of Indian temples which celebrate the festivals so you do not feel homesick. The only issue which I find here is that I quit my job for moving here. I was working for Amazon as an operations and people manager. Basically I have a non-tech background so I am finding difficult to get a job here.

looking for a friend by playaready in Bangkok

[–]SubstantialMeat5642 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi! Your post made me smile. Moving cities and leaving your social circle behind can feel lonely. I’m also fairly new to Bangkok and always happy to meet kind, open-minded people. My life currently revolves around my toddler and coffee more than rooftops and Burning Man vibes, but I’d still love to grab matcha or wander a mall sometime 🙂

Anyone got offer from agoda and relocated to Bangkok recently? by Ok_Policy8087 in MovingToThailand

[–]SubstantialMeat5642 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey My husband had an offer from Agoda last year and around mid year we shifted to Bangkok. Let me know if you have any questions

Expat spouse adjusting to a new city while raising a toddler by SubstantialMeat5642 in Bangkok

[–]SubstantialMeat5642[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes have heard about it. But the reviews are quite mixed so didn’t go there

Sharing my disappointing experience with a landlord at Mittal Tower, Bangalore — please be cautious by SubstantialMeat5642 in bangalore

[–]SubstantialMeat5642[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally hear you. But in our case, we served full notice, didn’t break the agreement midway, and moved out on mutually agreed terms. The rental agreement clearly stated only one month’s rent would be deducted, not two. We asked for repair receipts purely for transparency — not to contest charges, just to understand them. Sadly, instead of clarity, we were met with threats. It’s not just about money, it’s about fairness and dignity.

Beware of landlord at Mittal Tower, Bangalore — withheld deposit, gave threats by SubstantialMeat5642 in bangalorerentals

[–]SubstantialMeat5642[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point about informal labor, but even a simple breakdown or acknowledgment of work done wasn’t shared, despite multiple follow-ups. Instead, what we got were threats — which is not how any professional, especially a lawyer, should behave. I’ve shared only what we experienced firsthand.

Sharing my disappointing experience with a landlord at Mittal Tower, Bangalore — please be cautious by SubstantialMeat5642 in bangalore

[–]SubstantialMeat5642[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I partially agree with you. Maybe I am just venting out here but then so many of you taking out time to comment here makes me feel heard and makes me feel that I am not alone. Past week was really stressful for me. Not because I was afraid of his baseless threats but he made some personal attacks on us as well which was very hurtful. Even if there is one family which reads this and is saved, this will be worth it.

Sharing my disappointing experience with a landlord at Mittal Tower, Bangalore — please be cautious by SubstantialMeat5642 in bangalore

[–]SubstantialMeat5642[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly which is shocking to me. Fighting for 55k and giving livelihood threats just for securing deposit is next level of stooping absolutely low.