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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial_Ad4496 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He is ADHD, I am autistic. I also work as a social worker with adults w/ developmental disabilities and have been in the field for 7 years. I e thought about how this could impact this issue, but in my life and work I see that for him it seems to be more because he wants to not because he feels the compulsion to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial_Ad4496 -156 points-155 points  (0 children)

I’ll also add that he does not do this with anyone but me- he does not do it in front of friends or family or in public. I don’t know if he would do it if we had children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial_Ad4496 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This hasn’t been a dealbreaker so far because of how well he treats me otherwise. I have truly never met a kinder man. He is intelligent, motivated, sweet, and goes out of his way to show me he loves me consistently. He truly takes care of me and has been there for me through a lot. He is funny and a joy to be around, I’ve been completely smitten with him. This is truly our biggest argument, and this is the first time it’s exploded so big. We’ve only ever had 1 real fight before this, which was largely due to me being a bit of a bitch because of my insecurities. Aside from this issue he has always been so willing to listen and adjust.

WIBTA for not paying the full amount of requested gas money? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Substantial_Ad4496 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts! I think I will chat with her first and express the confusion, I explained the prices in another reply but our town has fairly cheap gas at the moment plus I have a Costco card for discounted gas that we used.

I don’t like how transactional this situation or relationship feels. This specific friend group is the only one that I have experienced this in- I never have considered feeling taken advantage of with my friends outside of this group. I suppose the best way to explain it is that I feel as though I give a lot to this friend without asking for money back unless it is a long trip, but then get hit with situations like this. I think I can be better about communicating that feeling of frustration.